Knowing that you can't move out of your parents house because you could not literally afford to rent an apartment without having 3 other people rent with you.
Seeing your childhood friends GTFO of your home town and move to completely other states.
Post-college depression from how much experiences you no longer will enjoy.
Struggling to save money living paycheck to paycheck.
Trying to learn and just survive in your career without fucking up royally.
Mounting pressure to find stability in life and establish and start a family. Mounting pressure just to find a a half way decent relationship. Mounting pressure to just find some right for you.
Seeing the country literally fall the fuck apart and feeling useless to do anything about it because of the people in positions of power.
Trying to maintain a healthy life both physically and mentally...
Shit sucks man.
Life isn't nearly as depressing as this thread. And if your life doesnt get better as you age you've done something wrong. Bad shit happens to most of us, we all have our moments of doubts and fear, but you push through them and come out the better for it on the other side. Or you can just give up, it's up to you.
It's probably the thing I like least about this place, you guys all drag each other down into this neverending pit of cynicism and despair, constantly feeding off of each other and seeing who can be the most miserable. Your negativity spreads through this place like a cancer. It's not healthy and it absolutely contributes to your outlook.
Its not that hard.
This feels flawed. There are rich people who are miserable. There are things to be "thankful" of, sure. But they're not a guarantee that you'll be happy.If you have your health and you life in a well off nation you should be able to find somethings to be happy about in your life.
I've posted about this on the mental health thread but I just started a very rough time in my life. I'm 25 and I just landed an entry level in my field. It's grinding me down in a way I didn't expect. The job ain't stressful and it's actually very hands off. The guy I replaced has been emailing me tips and other stuff. He tells me not to worry about much since the work i'll do is slow and I have all the tools I need to work on personal projects with the free time I have.
My stress is coming from a variety of different areas. Just feel impostor syndrome to the max right now, a general worry that i'll be fired, I don't make enough for my own studio apartment so i'm about to move into a room with a random older couple, a lot of my income going into rent, not really sure if I should even stick with this field, not sure about the future.
blegh. probably going to end up searching for a therapist.
That's your choice.This feels flawed. There are rich people who are miserable. There are things to be "thankful" of, sure. But they're not a guarantee that you'll be happy.
I have so many things to be thankful of. So many opportunities I was given. But life is still miserable, and I've accepted that.
That's what tends to be said. That one's happiness is a question of perspective, or that you need to let yourself be happy. "Prison of the Mind" and all that. And I suppose what therapists help with is to escape it.That's your choice.
I assume it's possible that you or a random miserable rich person could have a different attitude/outlook about things. Maybe that's not true either because I am no expert in brain chemistry let alone psychology, but I am going to assume that most of the time it's a choice you make.
Knowing that you can't move out of your parents house because you could not literally afford to rent an apartment without having 3 other people rent with you.
Seeing your childhood friends GTFO of your home town and move to completely other states.
Post-college depression from how much experiences you no longer will enjoy.
Struggling to save money living paycheck to paycheck.
Trying to learn and just survive in your career without fucking up royally.
Mounting pressure to find stability in life and establish and start a family. Mounting pressure just to find a a half way decent relationship. Mounting pressure to just find some right for you.
Seeing the country literally fall the fuck apart and feeling useless to do anything about it because of the people in positions of power.
Trying to maintain a healthy life both physically and mentally...
Shit sucks man.
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Life isn't nearly as depressing as this thread. And if your life doesnt get better as you age you've done something wrong. Bad shit happens to most of us, we all have our moments of doubts and fear, but you push through them and come out the better for it on the other side. Or you can just give up, it's up to you.
It's probably the thing I like least about this place, you guys all drag each other down into this neverending pit of cynicism and despair, constantly feeding off of each other and seeing who can be the most miserable. Your negativity spreads through this place like a cancer. It's not healthy and it absolutely contributes to your outlook.
Maybe their parents are crazy as fuck lolGrowing up I always disliked hearing people tell others, including myself, to find any way to move out of my parents' place because I needed to be on my own. To these people living away from your parents was more important than living comfortably and being financially prudent, saving up as much as you can so that you wouldn't struggle when you finally did leave. They wouldn't even take into account whether you contributed to the household you were living in and established as much independence as you could - they simply insisted you live on your own or with roommates just because.
I noticed this attitude from predominantly white Americans. If you talk to people from other countries, you'd find that living with your parents for a long time is either a) expected or b) completely understandable. Many of them don't push you out of the house. I am Eastern European and it's certainly not frowned upon in my culture to live at home for as long as you need to.
Of course it's a case-by-case basis, but you'll notice that the American culture is largely different from other cultures around the world that place emphasis on continued living at home and moving out at a later age.Maybe their parents are crazy as fuck lol
I love my folks, but for years, all the stress I deal with is because of the dumb decisions they've made that I had to put my life on hold to help with
I feel youOf course it's a case-by-case basis, but you'll notice that the American culture is largely different from other cultures around the world that place emphasis on continued living at home and moving out at a later age.
It's been my experience that if you live with a parent, even if you pay rent and are an independent adult, a lot of people will still not consider you an independent or even functioning adult; however, should you be paying rent and doing the exact same thing under a different landlord or homeowner who isn't your parent, you're viewed as independent and in a more favorable light.
This right here. Can't tell you the number of people that don't give me the time of day or a weird reaction just because I live with my parents. It just pisses me off people just assume I can't do anything on my own because of it.Of course it's a case-by-case basis, but you'll notice that the American culture is largely different from other cultures around the world that place emphasis on continued living at home and moving out at a later age.
It's been my experience that if you live with a parent, even if you pay rent and are an independent adult, a lot of people will still not consider you an independent or even functioning adult; however, should you be paying rent and doing the exact same thing under a different landlord or homeowner who isn't your parent, you're viewed as independent and in a more favorable light.
It's pretty rough. It's also like the GOAT for people with money. If you are under 30 and making good money or already rich you are likely living the good life.Knowing that you can't move out of your parents house because you could not literally afford to rent an apartment without having 3 other people rent with you.
Seeing your childhood friends GTFO of your home town and move to completely other states.
Post-college depression from how much experiences you no longer will enjoy.
Struggling to save money living paycheck to paycheck.
Trying to learn and just survive in your career without fucking up royally.
Mounting pressure to find stability in life and establish and start a family. Mounting pressure just to find a a half way decent relationship. Mounting pressure to just find some right for you.
Seeing the country literally fall the fuck apart and feeling useless to do anything about it because of the people in positions of power.
Trying to maintain a healthy life both physically and mentally...
Shit sucks man.
Ah, I see OP has hit "the wall" as I call it.
When academia ends and you're spat out into the real world, and you're quickly made aware that all the fun shit you did is now gone, and it's just the laborious grind of 8 - 5 every day, being too tired on an evening to do anything, and catching up with sleep on weekends. Repeat for 50 years until death.
It hits us all pretty hard. Just gotta focus on media releases, the things you enjoy, and if you're so inclined, a relationship.
I also question why people have kids when this is all there is to life. It's bullshit.
Preach
My life was awful at 22. I had barely graduated high school. All my friends were pot head losers. I was scraping by at crappy jobs. Moving back and forth between apartments and my parents.
18 years later, after working my ass off and fighting for what I wanted my life to be - I couldn't be happier. I'm married, 2 kids, great house, well paying job, etc.
In fact, I barely recognize my 22 year old self.
The people saying it doesn't get better are often the people that did not fight to make it better.
My life has only gotten better with each year.
Been there. Ironically it gets better in your late 20s early 30sKnowing that you can't move out of your parents house because you could not literally afford to rent an apartment without having 3 other people rent with you.
Seeing your childhood friends GTFO of your home town and move to completely other states.
Post-college depression from how much experiences you no longer will enjoy.
Struggling to save money living paycheck to paycheck.
Trying to learn and just survive in your career without fucking up royally.
Mounting pressure to find stability in life and establish and start a family. Mounting pressure just to find a a half way decent relationship. Mounting pressure to just find some right for you.
Seeing the country literally fall the fuck apart and feeling useless to do anything about it because of the people in positions of power.
Trying to maintain a healthy life both physically and mentally...
Shit sucks man.
When you're young, focus on making money, lots of it and then enjoy.
Unfortunately not everyone can do this.