Yeah i know it's different in different cultures but personally this would be my advice.
Yeah i know it's different in different cultures but personally this would be my advice.
It is not bad to be proud your success but it is bad to attribute your financial success to good values instilled in you like capitalist hustle works that way. Money isn't reflective of anyone's moral character. That's what's actually shitty to do to your poorer friends.
It is not bad to be proud your success but it is bad to attribute your financial success to good values instilled in you like capitalist hustle works that way. Money isn't reflective of anyone's moral character. That's what's actually shitty to do to your poorer friends.
That's a good way to put it. I think I feel the same way. But why do we feel this way?
That would be dumb
Just take your friends out and have a good time.
Do not celebrate a number in your bank account, that's insane.
Recently I told a friend I hadn't spoken with in a long time that my wife would not have a problem to cover her tuition (in Canada so quite expensive) upfront and we were looking to buy a house in the next couple of years. I meant it as "this is what's happening in my life" but instantly regretted it. She was cool, supportive and happy for us, don't get me wrong, but I also saw that shadow in her face that is so hard to explain. Later she mentioned how she's been struggling being super underpaid at work and her partner also had to close his business recently and stuff like that and I wished I'd been more cautions about mentioning some of the stuff.
So, no, don't tell people "I've saved this much!". Plus, you're opening the door to people asking for money or "investments" and you don't want that in your life, believe me.
Hard question to answer. I think a house is something you can share with people vs just a number in a bank account.
THE BOURGEOISIE KEEP THEIR BOOTS ON THE NECK OF THE PROLETARIAT SO WE DON'T SHARE OUR SALARIES TO ACTUALIZE COLLECTIVE BARGAININGIs keeping your mouth shut just a western thing? Literally everyone over here talks about their money
In the US, sadly, yes. It's baked into our work culture.Is keeping your mouth shut just a western thing? Literally everyone over here talks about their money
Yeah, this. People, even close friends, are usually secretive about financial problems and focusing on hitting a "financial milestone" could provoke envy and personally feels in pretty bad taste. I'd say giving them a personalised gift or sending them a £20 Amazon voucher just to say thanks for being a good support network would be better than focusing on financial health.
Also we're all just temporarily embarrassed millionaires.
I wish. I can't wait to get out of my house or take a vacation.
But why is the question. Telling them does nothing for them but make you feel good and them feel bad.
Not sure what splitting the check has to do with how much each of you make. It's just the right thing to do.If you got good friends - yes. I know exactly how much each of my friends make and not once has money ever become a thing with us. One of my close friends makes over twice as much as me, and he and I still split bar tabs (pre-COVID obviously) as an example.
This feels like a weird distinction. Paying off a mortgage by definition means you have an asset worth a lot of money.Yeah, this is distasteful.
However, for example, I'm going to be paying off my mortgage next month. That is a big milestone, and I'm probably going to have my friends over in the summer once we're all vaccinated to celebrate. I'm not about to brag about how much money I have saved or invested, but IMO paying off a mortgage is worth celebrating. I would certainly be happy for my friends if they announced something similar.
This feels like a weird distinction. Paying off a mortgage by definition means you have an asset worth a lot of money.
I think it's okay to celebrate active milestones, i.e.: I bought a house, I got a promotion, I got a new job, I am now president.That's a good way to put it. I think I feel the same way. But why do we feel this way?