I moved out when I was 18 because I wanted to. Absolutely no regrets and couldn't imagine living back at home.
Yep. chinese parents here.
When I talk about moving out of the state, get a lot of pushiness from mom to stay at least relatively nearby to help with like moving heavy stuff, or doing yard work etc.
Fully agreed. Some of the responses in this topic lol. "I moved out at 16! The hell you doing with your life?"In this case I wouldn't be too concerned with ERA thinks.
Too many factors to consider that no one understands but you.
Living on your own teaches you how to handle shit on your own. I've lived on my own for a longass time but know people who stayed at home late into their twenties. When they finally struck out on their own it was like talking to nineteen and twenty-year-olds getting their first apartment back in college. You don't wanna be the person who doesn't know how to pay your fucking utility bills, do basic maintenance, or just generally handle your own shit when the occasion calls for it.
Striking out is important. It helps you become your own self-sufficient individual.
I don't give a shit what your parents say to your face they want your ass out.
How do you bring people home for sex? I can't imagine doing that while living at home
Can't imagine a woman over 25 being ok with any of that. "Do it when they're not home" sounds like high school stuff". That said OP said he doesn't care about dating.You go to your partner's place instead? Or do it when they're not home?
Can't imagine a woman over 25 being ok with any of that. "Do it when they're not home" sounds like high school stuff". That said OP said he doesn't care about dating.
I lived with my parents until I was 28. Why? Mostly because I wanted to be able to afford an apartment without the need for random strangers as roommates(didn't really have friends I could live with). So I waited until I had a good enough wage. Didn't bother my parents too much anyway since I was paying my part and was working at least.
All these years allowed me to save a lot of money for my first apartment sure. But it killed my dating experience. I didn't dare to use dating websites for example. I mean, who would want to date a guy in his mid-twenties still living with mom & dad huh? I was already someone who wasn't very social to begin with, so combine these two and it was like a big "nope" for girls. At least, in my mind. I could have been wrong...I dunno.
Once I moved out though, I found my current girlfriend(5 years together now!) about a year later after multiple (failed) attempts. Kinda made me regret to have waited so long to get out to be honest. Being in a relationship and living together sure as hell beat living with my parents(as much as I love them).
Its trueLiving at home when you're gainfully employed is going to hurt your social life a lot.
Unless you're a Gen-Xer or above, I legit cannot fathom this type of thinking.
Millennials - "Generation Zero" is perhaps the better term because they've inherited a broken everything - absolutely live with other people, including family. This spooky kooky bullshit about rugged individualism and "Being On My Own™" is a great social disease in America. Can't blame those caught in it, because America itself is a dualistic shithole of a country that normalizes real ills with this "Being On My Own™" thinking. As far as I'm concerned, this thinking is the root cause for the moral imperative to continue all of the problems we face, and is the same time propagandized as one's egocentric solution to escaping issues. It's rubbish. One might say I'm being hyperbolic, but really, what's the difference between "LOLIMONMYOWNIMSUDDENLYFREE" and all of the gimmicks people use to be greedy or to ignore actual plights around them? Both center around the individual in a way that assert a sort of "vacuuming" where one is in a bubble. No bubbles exist.
Most Americans are poor as shit. If living with someone else, even a family member, is seen as a dealbreaker, tell the person finding issue with it to rightly fuck off and eat dirt.
I'm not saying I'm thinking that way, just that I thought a lot of people were and I didn't want to deal with that shit while dating. I probably overthinked that perspective though.
Heck, when I first dated my current girlfriend five years ago, she was living with her parents(although it wasn't always that way) and she is one year older than me.
Not american by the way. ;) But shit is expensive even up here in Canada. All my brothers left home around their mid twenties too.
Who cares about social life, family and money are more important.
I mean I live alone and my dating&social life is still nonexistent so no guarantees there either lol. Having the freedom to come home to an empty house is overrated so if your current situation works out I'd say don't sweat it.
I assure you, have kids != more money.Social life can lead to more family and more money. Social life = find partner, marry, have kids, new family. Social life = meet new people, network, get new jobs, etc.
But I don't necessarily advocate for OP to move out. Whatever works best for your situation.