I think part of the problem is we need to define what a 'cold approach' is. To me, it's total stranger you see in the supermarket, or out in the city walking around. Not a coworker, not a classmate.
women of era, how do you feel about being "cold approached"?
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There's a difference between meeting someone at work and meeting someone while you're a customer and they're at work.
I'm only starting to gain more self confidence enough to the point I can actually talk with women. What social situations is it actually ok to go and talk to someone? Just in like bars/clubs and other social gatherings? I've always been so bad at this stuff that I've never really tried before and now I want to make sure I don't do anything that might make someone else feel uncomfortable.
I've only ever approached older women to help them cross the road, carry their groceries, remove their denture, etc.
Sorry to be off topic but no one should suffer through Valvrave the Liberator. It's a horrible show
This doesn't make any sense given the story. The poster clearly stated they wouldn't have had any interactions with the person without a cold approach. So, is a cold approach ok if both parties are participating in activity X, or have a shared interest in subject Y? Is it not a cold approach at that point because reasons?
But that quote! >.<
I suffered through Seed Destiny, I survived Other M and even Sword Art Online, it can't possibly be that bad.
It's already not a moe blob shit so there's already a good point.
But it's not a cold approach if both people are in the same class or work in the same place.
e: I'm sure you can understand the difference between "we're in the same company getting paid to do similar work" and "we're in the same bus because we're both going to the East of the city".
I'm disputing their use of the word cold approach to describe approaching a classmate or coworker. Those aren't total strangers walking around town, there's a foundation and familiarity already built in.
Yeah, how you go about it is the most important thing. You cant just say "never do this" otherwise we all be staring at the ground everywhere we go and nobody will ever talk to anyone. Be respectful, realize that it is something many women have issue with and be mindful of that. Its all about the situation since all are unique. Any girlfriend I have ever had was because I took a chance to talk to them because I was interested in getting to know them. This is how people meet and interact on a basic level. Sucks that so many people are crazy and its a very real problem women have to deal with.
They quite literally said there was no familiarly outside of participating in the same activity at the same time.
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For example, what if the poster saw this person at the local book store buying a textbook for a class they're also taking. Would that be grounds enough to not be considered a cold approach because of a shared interest?
That text is not even from the show. lol It's just something someone wrote over the image.
I'll quote myself because it's really relevant :
the shared activity is already much more than literally being in the same physical place for a transit.
I am soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo disappointed you have no idea.
There's a distinct difference. Atleast in that setting, it can be beneficial to have someone to talk about your class with, whether or not it goes on to be anything else.
And you're both there for similar enough reasons that can warrant more of a conversation than "I see you also like to get groceries. Wheaties? Nice. I'm more of a Vector man myself..."
Just did a google search. Seems like all this is part of PUA lingo. Apparently means dating in your social circle.
Which means that yes, dating a coworker or a classmate is literally a warm approach...unless you're THAT anti social coworker who don't even respond when someone ask you for the time.
I added a bit to my post before your reply. It sounds like a common interest/activity is all that is required to go from cold approach to warm approach... is that correct?
"So, you ever hear about the SEGA Channel? I was a big deal on it back in the day. You should totally come back to my place. You'd be way impressed with how far videogames have come..."
"... you see, the testicles shrink when you enter colder climates."
Coworkers and classmates are considered part of your social circle, I'm no expert in PUA terms however.
The thing is by being a coworker or classmate (or even gymmate) you're going to have a common ground enough that you already have enough to have a conversation that's already a lil bit interesting to the person on the other side.
A cold approach is literally someone you meet on the street, a classmate is more than that.
Hi again! Vex here!
Still trying to understand the difference between a cold and warm approach!!!!! Wow! So much information here! Wow!
Ok so here's a scenario:
Let's say I see someone on the phone surfing RESETERA, and then I get all excited and ask "WOW! You surf there too, huh!?! What's your screen name? We might know each other already!! Wow!"
Is that too cold!?!? Help vex with his research!
Still trying to understand the difference between a cold and warm approach!!!!! Wow! So much information here! Wow!
Ok so here's a scenario:
Let's say I see someone on the phone surfing RESETERA, and then I get all excited and ask "WOW! You surf there too, huh!?! What's your screen name? We might know each other already!! Wow!"
Is that too cold!?!? Help vex with his research!
I didn't know this was such a hotly debated issue. I've made connections and friendships through "cold approaches" before, I've even ended up in a relationship once because of it. I can see how it varies case by case and not all women (people, really) are receptive to it I also think it's kind of unfair to make a blanket statement of "NEVER DO THIS" because not everyone feels the same way about the action.
Yes, that sounds about right. We're all humans though, and situations can differ, so it's not a fully black and white issue. I'd hazard to say that in general many woman do not appreciate cold approaches though.
I'm not sure if you're trolling or not, but if your takeaway from this thread is that cold = bad and warm = good, I'd suggest you'd read through it again.
man dont peek at my phone screen what if im watching dirty dirty porn or terrible anime
My last reply was generic to the familiarity of the two people. You could certainly see someone in a park/on the street that is reading the same book as you (shared interest), which sounds to me like it would no longer be considered a cold approach.
EDIT: Just saw your reply above. We're good.
You can multitask ya know? (Unless you're an iPhone user.) I dont mind!
So we're all watching Valvrave!
I got it.
Chances are if you see someone reading they're not interested in conversation but just a few word to comment on the book is not a problem.
I mean as long as you're not a thirsty mofo trying to get into the pants of the reader.
Even giving your name unprompted seems creepy to me in that situation.
Chances are if you see someone reading they're not interested in conversation but just a few word to comment on the book is not a problem.
I mean as long as you're not a thirsty mofo trying to get into the pants of the reader.
Even giving your name unprompted seems creepy to me in that situation.
We had some guys on campus try cold approaching us while we were having a walk. It was extremely creepy, with a lot of targeted at my friend in particular, so I made an excuse for us to break away so we could get inside.
I like a good conversation, but not when someone goes up with the intention of cold approaching/flirting/whatever. It's creepy as hell, and makes me feel uncomfortable. Especially so due to me being a transgender woman.
I like a good conversation, but not when someone goes up with the intention of cold approaching/flirting/whatever. It's creepy as hell, and makes me feel uncomfortable. Especially so due to me being a transgender woman.
I'm a guy so, question isn't really directed towards me but I'd think it pretty much depends on how the approach is made and what the guy is like
I'm not a person that can do a "cold approach" at all. But if a dude is friendly and good at finding a non creepy way to do it, that sounds like what a lot of women would find attractive
I'm not a person that can do a "cold approach" at all. But if a dude is friendly and good at finding a non creepy way to do it, that sounds like what a lot of women would find attractive
Ridiculous to hear people say don't do it. Where are we going as a society if we avoid interactions with people we naturally are drawn to wanting to? Only on here. Good god.
Everyone I know met their SO in real life doing "cold approach" (I.e. You approach a person you don't know in the street , super market etc with the intention to see if there is something there). Christ people, there is a difference between harassment and going upto a random girl and saying hi.
Everyone I know met their SO in real life doing "cold approach" (I.e. You approach a person you don't know in the street , super market etc with the intention to see if there is something there). Christ people, there is a difference between harassment and going upto a random girl and saying hi.
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Yup. Met my significant other through other friends, and we were platonic friends first before we became romantically involved. More importantly, he respected me as a person in the first place, and didn't try to hit on me.