What is described as a crush here and why the hell are people saying it's normal if you're serious with someone/married? I've been with my girl for 5 years and I've never at any point thought about someone else in any romantic way since we became serious.
A crush doesn't have to be romantic. In five years you've never looked at another woman and thought--"Damn. She's attractive." I feel like that's why OP is describing.What is described as a crush here and why the hell are people saying it's normal if you're serious with someone/married? I've been with my girl for 5 years and I've never at any point thought about someone else in any romantic way since we became serious.
Imo having a crush isn't a simple acknowledgement that a person is attractive. It's a step beyond that, to the point you think about them in a deeper way. Whether it be romanticizing them or fantasising.A crush doesn't have to be romantic. In five years you've never looked at another woman and thought--"Damn. She's attractive." I feel like that's why OP is describing.
In five years you've never looked at another woman and thought--"Damn. She's attractive."
Yup. For example, if you're heterosexual, you can still acknowledge that a member of the same sex is attractive, but that wouldn't be a crush.Imo having a crush isn't a simple acknowledgement that a person is attractive. It's a step beyond that, to the point you think about them in a deeper way. Whether it be romanticizing them or fantasising.
A crush isn't saying "oh wow she's pretty"...it's beyond that for sure. When someone says, for example, "Hey, I have a crush on someone, how should I approach them?" that's what's usually described as a crushA crush doesn't have to be romantic. In five years you've never looked at another woman and thought--"Damn. She's attractive." I feel like that's why OP is describing.
Humans are not made for monogamous relationships so that's pretty normal. Nothing weird about developing feelings for other people while you are in a relationship.yeah, its pretty weird to read lol
of course I look at other women and think they are hot, but an actual crush? no, thats not a good sign....
it's not a bad sign at all. it's not like love or lust is a single attraction that can only be focused on one person at a time. developing crushes on other people is a relatively normal part of being in a long term relationship and they're usually harmless and fleeting as long as you don't act on themyeah, its pretty weird to read lol
of course I look at other women and think they are hot, but an actual crush? no, thats not a good sign....
This is pretty weird to me. If you start developing romantic feelings (assuming you meant romantic) for another person while in a relationship, I'd hope the expectation is that you are transparent about it and make sure it stops.Humans are not made for monogamous relationships so that's pretty normal. Nothing weird about developing feelings for other people while you are in a relationship.
LOL Nothing would give me more life right now than having some side action. I'm not going to go there though because that's big picture stupid. Have you communicated your feelings to your wife? Sometimes just honest communication can take that edge off.I love my wife and all, and we compliment each other well, but there'll be a few that make me go, "in the short term, I feel like I would feel way more ecstatic." if that makes any sense to anyone else.
I love my wife and all, and we compliment each other well, but there'll be a few that make me go, "in the short term, I feel like I would feel way more ecstatic." if that makes any sense to anyone else.
I am pretty drunk. I have communicated in the past, and it's more or else a response of, "eh, it happens". I just feel like it should not happen.LOL Nothing would give me more life right now than having some side action. I'm not going to go there though because that's big picture stupid. Have you communicated your feelings to your wife? Sometimes just honest communication can take that edge off.
it's not a bad sign at all. it's not like love or lust is a single attraction that can only be focused on one person at a time. developing crushes on other people is a relatively normal part of being in a long term relationship and they're usually harmless and fleeting as long as you don't act on them
Well, to put it inversely - i wouldn't say any kind of 'feeling' is unnatural. Like, people can fantasize about / feel things that they just wouldn't or won't act upon.Whether humans are *made* for monogamous relationships or not doesn't change the fact that typically, a marriage indicates an agreement between the two that it will be monogamous. If I'm getting married to someone, I would hope that person doesn't think it's normal to have feelings for other people.
It sounds like you're describing not a long-lingering attraction but more a feeling of "I could see myself being in a relationship with this person because they're attractive". Is that right? If so, yeah, that happens.I am pretty drunk. I have communicated in the past, and it's more or else a response of, "eh, it happens". I just feel like it should not happen.
There is no point in denying human nature. People will get sexually attracted to other people and might even develop feelings for them. Completely normal. The sooner you realize that, instead of denying it, the better.This is pretty weird to me. If you start developing romantic feelings (assuming you meant romantic) for another person while in a relationship, I'd hope the expectation is that you are transparent about it and make sure it stops.
Whether humans are *made* for monogamous relationships or not doesn't change the fact that typically, a marriage indicates an agreement between the two that it will be monogamous. If I'm getting married to someone, I would hope that person doesn't think it's normal to have feelings for other people.
But everyone does their own thing I guess
There is no point in denying human nature. People will get sexually attracted to other people and might even develop feelings for them. Completely normal. The sooner you realize that, instead of denying it, the better.
Marriage to me is just an outdated contract that really only has financial benefits to me.
Lol do not do thisLOL Nothing would give me more life right now than having some side action. I'm not going to go there though because that's big picture stupid. Have you communicated your feelings to your wife? Sometimes just honest communication can take that edge off.
Of course you do. My wife and I commonly communicate our crushes to each other. It helps us understand each other's desires and needs better.