did you read the OP?
bish be crazy
I too would pay a small amount to help keep her ass away from my family.
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Bride cancels wedding after guests refused to pay $1500 attendance fee
- Thread starter CrankyJay
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bish be crazy
I too would pay a small amount to help keep her ass away from my family.
Right. That's not an insane amount, but it still really only works for a small local wedding when nobody is traveling to attend. For example, if I'm paying $300 to fly to your wedding and even more than that for a hotel room, my presence is your wedding present.
Me and my wife have only ever had 1, and it's been 10 years. Not a guarantee of course, but things are going pretty smoothly. Seems pretty once in a lifetime still.
Weddings are the biggest scam. From engagement rings to insanely overpriced ceremonies to insanely overpriced photographers. And there is so much pressure put on women to have their dream wedding to the point where the fact they're getting married (and all of the huge life changes that come with it) is secondary to having the grandest, most Instagrammable ceremony as possible.
I thought the title said 150 which was reasonable (although still weird to ask for your guests to pay). Then I saw 1500?? Is she crazy lol I ain't going to no wedding where I have to pay 1500$
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I think in 2007 mine was like $80 a head or something. Was definitely a little on the posh side, and I'm thankful to both our families for contributing.
I checked out at "fast forward to high school". The most self-indulgent bullshit I've read in a good long while
I was literally thinking of this exact thing as I read that lol
Asking guests to pay ANYTHING is absurd. Weddings are already a financial obligation.
It was absurd. TBF, I am including my drive time in that, which was about 3 hours total. Wedding "started" at noon according to the invite at a church 30 minutes away. Turns out noon was doors (this shit ain't a concert, wtf), so I get there at 11:45 AM and chill for over an hour before it actually starts at 1. The church service (they're Catholic) took almost two hours since it was basically mass combined with a long-ass lecture from the priest about the importance of having babies. Sweet. Reception starts at 4 PM at a hotel that's another thirty minutes away. Cool. Get there at 4, and great, it's actually a cocktail hour that lasts two-hours. Again, I also knew like 3 people here, so this was boring and awkward. Finally at 6 PM they open up the doors to the ballroom for dinner and the actual reception. We find our seats aaaannd, we wait until 7 before we actually get any food. It sucks, great. Around 7:30-8ish people start giving speeches and toasts. This takes forever. Then, oh boy, the bride prepared a fucking choreographed dance routine with the wedding party. Neat, never seen that before. Finally around 9 they open up the dance floor, and I think this was the first time all day I started to have some semblance of enjoyment. Too bad I was already fucking exhausted by this point. Around 10:30 or so things are winding down (a lot of parents with kids were in attendance) so the bride and groom come up to us and are like "Alright guys, time for the after party! Woooo!". Internally I'm screaming fuck that, but whatever, my day is already gone and it's their wedding day so I'll appease them for a little bit. We drive over to another venue (a bar) where they've got this upstairs room rented out. I stay for like half an hour (I have to be sober enough to drive anyway) before I'm like, cool it's been great, congratulations, I'm leaving, and then I drive over an hour to get home. It was past midnight when I walked in the door.
People, don't make your weddings like this. No one enjoys it except you and maybe your mom.
Relationship with her bf ends, blames everyone else on top of demanding "only" $1500. Even a Vegas wedding sounds too good for her.
Also "..a once and a lifetime party."
Lol.
Also "..a once and a lifetime party."
Lol.
The bride seems more interested in the HYPE of the Wedding for bragging rights rather than actually marrying someone she loves.
Given that she is a horrible entitled shit stain of a human being I'm sure she'll just plop the kid down on her parents doorstep.
I am confused. I thought with destination weddings, people paid their own way there? If the $1500 included hotel and airfare isn't that a bit reasonable? Her reactions haven't been but I am ignorant about destination weddings. Someone earlier said that they have been to ones where the hotel and flight were paid for by the bride and groom and another poster said they are paying the lodging but no airfare. What is the norm for destination weddings?
I hate wedding goers who drop $20 and then eat a bunch of food and drink a lot. Minimum $ gift is $100 unless they specifically say zero gifts or monetary donations.
Or you grew up a pampered upper-middle class kid who can't afford extravagant shit, but still has no concept of the value of money.
This sounds like it belongs on r/ThatHappened.
If it is real, she is nuts though. But that is coming from someone who believes weddings in general are fiscally irresponsible. (not trying to shame people for having weddings at all)
If it is real, she is nuts though. But that is coming from someone who believes weddings in general are fiscally irresponsible. (not trying to shame people for having weddings at all)
Her maid of honor is too good for their friendship. You got a friend willing to drop 5 grand of her own money on top of planning your event?
Would you say the world is full of zanies and fools who don't believe in sensible rules?
Would you say the world is full of zanies and fools who don't believe in sensible rules?
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Ugh, expensive weddings...
At the very least afford it yourself you idiots. Or budget it down. Or something. Jeez.
At the very least afford it yourself you idiots. Or budget it down. Or something. Jeez.
Only old crusty bums mad that they're crusty and old blame the most unrelated instances of malfeasance on millennials lmao
Almost everyone spoke Spanish and I can probably be out orated in Spanish by a Latino preschooler, but thank you for this wonderful advice that I had never considered.
I mean, weddings are already very expensive to attend by themselves. I have one this weekend and between hotel, travel (not too far, thankfully) and present it's going to be at least $1000. If you get invited to a few weddings in a year, good luck saving some money or days off for vacations (assuming you don't have bigger problems). That being said, that woman is insane, too bad they didn't make a reality show out of it.
Edit: my wife and I had a little wedding in the woods, less than 20 people, then went out to dinner with everyone at a great local restaurant, told people presents not mandatory, couldn't be happier about our decision. No months of stress, save money for trips and future plans and everyone had a good time. That's the way to go, people. Plus, it's much more romantic.
Edit: my wife and I had a little wedding in the woods, less than 20 people, then went out to dinner with everyone at a great local restaurant, told people presents not mandatory, couldn't be happier about our decision. No months of stress, save money for trips and future plans and everyone had a good time. That's the way to go, people. Plus, it's much more romantic.
Sounds like an excuse to never try and to assume your position is correct even though you don't try.
I believe there's a few studies out there that link cost of wedding with likelihood of divorce, and found a correlation (as cost goes up so does rate of divorce).
Anecdotally, my wife and I got married at the court house and skipped the wedding part and we're still together 8 years later. Sooo...
Someone who thinks "What is $1000? What is $1500? Clearly not a lot" but has to ask for that money because she doesn't have it herself got some really, really weird perspective.
Also if I had a relationship since 14 I wouldn't give a fuck where I married them. Like holy shit, the way she reacted tot hat vegas proposal. He's your one and only, why does it matter so much? And then she goes full crazy because people don't want to spend 1500 bucks each on her entitled ass.
She clearly has some issues.
Also if I had a relationship since 14 I wouldn't give a fuck where I married them. Like holy shit, the way she reacted tot hat vegas proposal. He's your one and only, why does it matter so much? And then she goes full crazy because people don't want to spend 1500 bucks each on her entitled ass.
She clearly has some issues.
You are eating and drinking in a space on their dime. Chip in.
Another one falls to the never-ending cycle of stake-raising peer-pressure induced by massive exposure to social media and marketing, resulting from a lack of self-identity and aging hysteria.
Me-too-ism (not the sexual assault kind) at its finest. In their minds it's like the Cold War out there, where every action must be calculated to receive the maximum amount of awe and praise from peers.
No wonder house prices are so high.
Me-too-ism (not the sexual assault kind) at its finest. In their minds it's like the Cold War out there, where every action must be calculated to receive the maximum amount of awe and praise from peers.
No wonder house prices are so high.
That's due to poverty. If you have an expensuve wedding like 100k but 100k is peanuts to you then it won't matter. If your combined income is 90k and you have a 70k weddding then it becomes a bigger issue.
Expensive isn't bad. Don't get anything you can't comfortably afford.
If you got to the part with the Psychic and didn't think it was fake, then I dunno guys. There is a pretty obvious trend of fake (usually sexist) stories like this that get shared around that are written in a way that literally anyone would find the subject annoying, entitled, terrible etc.
It's fake as fuck people
It's fake as fuck people
We felt like we splurged and our wedding cost us $4000? It would have been $3000, but we had a vendor cancel at the last minute and hired a taco truck to cater our wedding instead, which cost a bit more. Best weekend of my life.
