Are you black?
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Huh, I'm surprised white girls placed Latino men in second.
I wonder how much white Latinos affect that rating.
On gay apps "preferences" are the worst and people are just outright racist. I'm black and very clearly a black person I'm not light skinned so it's clear I'm a black person to everyone. Sometimes I mess around with people and I would tell them I was blatino and they would be down. It's just being a black American that a lot of these guys hate and it's always disgusting.
They don't necessarily say "no blacks" but there is quite a few, especially on okcupid that will say "prefer insert race"
Nothing against you homie but I dislike how some of our people feel this need to be accepted by other ethnicities. If those same folks don't on those dating sites don't want to date you then skate on til you find one that does..you or anyone else don't need validation or acceptance. Everybody got somebody out there for them...even if it takes a while to find them/them finding you
Its especially rough now with the constant racial tension in the media but if you're getting constant road blocks then look elsewhere. Now...if you are specifically attracted to those outside of your ethnicity then that might be an issue if its something you aren't willing to adapt on
Now, I'm not saying any of this applies to you but if it does I hope you find some strength in it whilst you are trying to find love
Its especially rough now with the constant racial tension in the media but if you're getting constant road blocks then look elsewhere. Now...if you are specifically attracted to those outside of your ethnicity then that might be an issue if its something you aren't willing to adapt on
Now, I'm not saying any of this applies to you but if it does I hope you find some strength in it whilst you are trying to find love
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Preach. There's a narrow, narrow zone of non-racist, non-fetishized interactions on the gay apps, but man is it a fucking nightmare.
Never used that app, and that's one of the reasons why.
But I hear that most of the apps are the same way. I only used one for about a year, and stopped for lack of decent people. :/
But I hear that most of the apps are the same way. I only used one for about a year, and stopped for lack of decent people. :/
Are you from South Park?
Provided I've never dated women using apps, but straight folks have a big numbers advantage that takes some of the sting out. That said, yes racism affects dating everywhere in the US.
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See charts like this just makes it seem like it's everywhere. Black men and women are in the red for every other race except themselves. This can't just be "preferences". I think it's just a long history of society saying "People below this skin tone are less attractive". A lot of people don't see it as racism/bigotry/prejudice though. No one is saying you have to date anyone, but at least know why you feel that way towards that person.
I don't know what you mean by your message xD, if they have a nice dick I'm all down ... on all fours.
Better to cancel them early on. Don't wanna be classed as one of their good ones and then see some fucked up shit a few months down the line. I'm not trying to shack up with Claytonette Bigsby.
The best ones are the ones that ask for your race after you shown them a faceless photo. Like he's trying to hope that Im just Mexican or something other than black. One of these days Im just gonna say Latino just to fuck with them lol
This data shows racial bias is not exclusive to white people, are black women racist for not liking white men (based on this data, not generally) ?
Exclusively saying no blacks or any race is a display of overt racial bias in a nasty way.
His Grindr profile does not have a picture. You can tell because it's blank next to the screenname.
(He may have taken the picture off before screenshotting due to privacy concerns, but you don't need a pic for Grindr either way.)
Black women don't like white men because they tend to be racist.
I wouldn't call it a racist. More like a bias.
If I was ever using a dating app and saw a profile that said "whites only" or "no blacks" or anything to that affect I would never ever under any circumstance talk to that person.
Dating sites are terrible
I'm the same. I've always been more attracted to white women, and it's something that has always been the case. However I wouldn't say no to going on a date with someone from another race, nor would I ever put an exclusion in my profile, and I don't click yes to just white women on the meet me things though they make up the majority. I just have my preference and those are the women I usually message, though messaging and luck are two different things.
I often see women post that they'll only date someone who's taller than them or someone who's 6 feet tall and above, and I laugh. I can't believe someone would exclude so many people based off of just one thing like that. What if their ideal mate ends up only being 5'10?
I'm the same. I've always been more attracted to white women, and it's something that has always been the case. However I wouldn't say no to going on a date with someone from another race, nor would I ever put an exclusion in my profile, and I don't click yes to just white women on the meet me things though they make up the majority. I just have my preference and those are the women I usually message, though messaging and luck are two different things.
I often see women post that they'll only date someone who's taller than them or someone who's 6 feet tall and above, and I laugh. I can't believe someone would exclude so many people based off of just one thing like that. What if their ideal mate ends up only being 5'10?
An ethnicity based bias, which, if we assume attraction is something controlled by the person, may be considered racist. Reasons are not stated in the graph, but black women also rate latino men and especially asian men negative - the latter moreso than white men. In fact, black women are the only group in that graph that has full diagonal preference: They are the only group with positive bias towards only one group - their own - and negative bias towards all others.
Interstingly, for women, both, being asian and being latino appears to be preferrential over being white (and especially over being black).
There seems to be nothing in between.
Partly why I don't go near online dating.
Apps turns people into transactionally disposable objects.
I dunno, man. Maybe this is just a matter of the grass being greener on the other side but even though there's quite a lot of prejudice against black men, there's a substantial amount of fetishism too. I remember trying to get dates through apps back when I was single and it was nigh impossible as an East Asian male. I can only imagine how tough it is for South East Asian guys. But in my subjective experience, neither are as discriminated against in the dating scene as black women (unless they're like drop dead gorgeous, but that exception applies to everyone lol)
I hate how normalised these attitudes are in the communities for some dating apps. Even though I have a profile picture of my white face on Tinder, for some reason I've still had people go to my account and ask me if I'm black (to use one of the less slurry ways they put it). I'm aware that I'm only seeing a very small fraction of these toxic attitudes - this is a big problem.
I'm mixed race but I would avoid any profile which made a point to exclude any race.
I can't deal with girls like that
I can't deal with girls like that
I think that people have a responsibility, regardless of their own race fitting the bill or not, to avoid these blatantly racist people.
It's definitely a preference. A racist preference.
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No in the message tab it will only show you the picture of the person who is messaging you. A picless person messaged me asking if I was black. I have a picture on my profile and my profile also says hat I'm black.
From dating me? No, that IS a preference that every individual can choose for his or her self.
But if you call it racist then what can I say? I guess I am by your definition. Nothing I can do.
Edit: Oh, I see. We're talking about assholes who straight up say "No blacks". Yeah no. Have to be polite than that.
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What is this 1500s line of thinking lol. Stay with your own, nah from a numbers standpoint you're killing your opportunities.
Bro you need to chill
Honestly though, if we just treat each other like human beings then all of this can be avoided. Respect everyone regardless of their race. Don't be offensive like "No black" or saying the n-word when you aren't black. Things like that.
This is weird.
Are you attracted to particular races or to particular facial features more commonly found in some races?
I would assume that it's the latter, and if so, facial features are not exclusive to particular races so straight up saying "no x" sounds pretty racist yeah.
Just had a thought. Perhaps it isn't color that can put me off from a person, but features that are more commonly found in some races.
Just because that might be true doesn't mean I can't entertain the idea of dating someone of a different color.
I agree I do need to be more open.
Hispanic guy here, with relatively lighter skin tone. Used to use dating apps and sites, and from my own experience, black women would almost never respond to me. I had several (I think 3 or 4?) instances where they flat out said I was too light-skinned for them, at least one outright implying that my member likely being small because of my skin tone was a factor. I did end up meeting current girlfriend on a dating site, and she's Afro-Latina, for what that's worth, though.
People who say they don't date certain races or aren't attracted to them really do need to ask themselves why.
Everytime there's a thread like this, people rush in defending themselves saying "I prefer X race, you can't control sexual preference, I'm just not attracted to Y race." As if it's just some unexplainable phenomenon. Except people never seem to think about where those preferences come from and how we develop them. How stereotypes and beauty standards can and do form our sexual preferences.
Basically if you grow up thinking that a specific race is less than or bad in some way you will probably have a "preference" against dating them. You just have to take one look at that data and see that maybe something is up when these unexplainable sexual preferences seem to skew towards black women and Asian men being less "preferred" than everyone else. If a racial sexual preference was just some random dice roll when you hit puberty, that data would be pretty equally spread across all races.
"I might date a black person but only they're not ghetto." - something some folks actually say in real life