I met a woman who was completely blown away by the fact that there are grown men who weigh less than 170 lbs.
Yeah I lost count how many times someone has said "Eat this... It'll put some meat on them bones" or "you should eat more". Fuck you, you should eat less.
healthy is 18.5<IMC<24.9. This means for 90kg you need to at least be 190cm.What? You dont have to be 2 metres tall nor do you have to be an athlete to have 90kg be considered a healthy weight.
OP don't let that shit get you down, why people can't mind their own business i don't understand.
I am a tall, skinny person in my mid-30s. I have a condition and all of my family is skinny to start with - I will never, ever gain more weigth than I currently have.
I have had a rough childhood and time in school because of this, it made me a very introverted person (thanks video games that you were there for me).
While it's better today since I have a healthy relationship and some friends who understand, I am still a shy and reserved guy, often thinking(knowing) that person that I am talking to might think "boy that man is skinny". I am also uncomfortable wearing T-Shirts and shorts or going to the lake/beach.
It still happens from time to time at work, or sometimse even at family/friends gatherings that people can't help but make jokes and shame. Like one example when I tell a story what moped/bike I had as a teenager. Then the joke comes "Haha, with the helmet on, I bet you looked like a pin needle on that moped!" and everyone laughing. Or the obligatory "you need to eat more, you are falling off your skin!" or "boy I wish I could eat that much and stay that skinny" sayings. Not even going to start with the "real men" telling me that you are "only a man when you have at least 90kg"
The worst thing from last week was that I was offered a cereal bar but I had no desire at that moment. I got talked into the ground why I don't eat it because apparently if someone is skinny you have to be hungry all the time and therefore you should also eat all the time. After back and fourth I had to accept it because that person was really stubborn - followed by a "good guy, enjoy your meal". I gave it to another person later because I just did not like it.
I am used to all of it and in front of other people I have no other way and play along... but I don't think those people realize that all of this is really hurtful.
Why is this accepted? Is it because of the general opinion that all skinny people are happy with their looks and that I maybe "want" to look like I do?
It makes me very sad and a bit depressed at times.
That's pretty much how I am. I never force food down just to clear the plate, I think that's how a lot of people start getting over weight, that feeling they have to clear the plate, because all those starving Africans or whatever they were told when they were little.As a skinny dude, I should probably be eating more, but at the same time I'm rarely hungry and not going to force myself to eat.
I didn't learn to swim until I was 21 because I was too self conscious at school to display my overtly skinny body to my peers.I am also uncomfortable wearing T-Shirts and shorts or going to the lake/beach.
"go eat a burger"
Like...fuck you motherfucker all I do is eat, fuck off with that nonsense.
I feel you OP, people will never grow out of that shit.
I'm 6' and 170 lbs and most people consider me thin, if not skinny. 130lbs at your height seems insane to me. You do you and all, not trying to make you feel bad, but that cannot be "perfectly healthy".Because most people in America are obese so people who are at a perfectly healthy weight appear "sickly" in comparison. As someone who is 6'1', 130 lbs I get this all the time. Coworkers are always nagging on me because I don't eat at work either.
To be honest, it doesn't bother me too much because I do feel some o it comes from a legitimate (if unwarranted) sense of concern. What annoys me more is all the "hit the gym" comments. I like my slender twink body thank you very much, i just wish I wasn't so tall T.T
Man, I know that feeling. I used to be coat-hanger skinny and it was impossible for me to gain weight. Thankfully once I hit 30 I finally started gaining weight and muscle - but man, before that it was a struggle."go eat a burger"
Like...fuck you motherfucker all I do is eat, fuck off with that nonsense.
I feel you OP, people will never grow out of that shit.
Yeah it's bullshit and it hurts. I can't do anything about my genres. Even during my workout days I was still considered skinny.
The best is when I see heavier people talk about how body shaming is awful, and how they are beautiful all saying, "at least I'm not a stick." Hypocrites.
After a point when I got told "eat a burger" by a stranger or acquaintances for the 100th time (because it's oh so clever and it obviously never occurred to me) I just stopped being cordial in my responses. Maybe it makes me grumpy in my older age but people need to learn to mind their own business.
Meh, not only America. Happened in France all my lifethis is absolutely an obesity/overweight jealousy problem and culturally American to the core. The majority of American adults are overweight. All of you skinny folk here are not skinny, you're healthy. It infuriates me that these fucks would make you feel bad for that because you should be living fantastic lives not feeling the shame that having tons of body fat brings. They just want you to feel as bad about yourself as they do about themselves. They're mad because you're healthy and attractive and they're not.
Please do not eat a burger. Unless you really want one.
People regard it as "punching up" - which is generally a-ok regardless of political persuasion.
You have a BMI of 17.2 you are not a healthy weight at all.Because most people in America are obese so people who are at a perfectly healthy weight appear "sickly" in comparison. As someone who is 6'1', 130 lbs I get this all the time. Coworkers are always nagging on me because I don't eat at work either.
To be honest, it doesn't bother me too much because I do feel some o it comes from a legitimate (if unwarranted) sense of concern. What annoys me more is all the "hit the gym" comments. I like my slender twink body thank you very much, i just wish I wasn't so tall T.T
its asscociated with not eating alot which to alot of people is a bad sign. it's basically saying that you look unhealthy because you don't eat enough. it's more of an old cultural thing from when people didnt have easy access to affordable food i think since it pops up in alot of different cultures