This. If you genuinely care about the people you should feel lucky you get to share this day with them. Seems like you can't see anyone's point of view except your own and I doubt this thread backfire will change your point of viewYou're looking at it from a very pessimistic point of view, try to see it as you get to witness a really happy day for two people that (I assume) you care about, and with all the bad stuff that happens in the world you get a nice positive respite from that. Plus there's food and drinks, everyone will be havig a good time, soak in the good vibes dude, you only live once!
I mean, if you couldn't afford it then you say so to the bride or groom (whomever invited you). Otherwise, just enjoy it. In fact, it sounds like you're being selfish and thinking of how you're being inconvenienced .Got to fly across the county, rent a hotel room, rent a car. Now I get to wear a fucking tux for 5+ hours so I can watch a couple of people say "I do".
Great
someone else pays for me to party and I only have to give a gift in exchange?
I think it's awesome.
lol like the OP
Yeah as you and others have said, weddings are a great value for the guest if you must look at it this way.
Got to fly across the county, rent a hotel room, rent a car. Now I get to wear a fucking tux for 5+ hours so I can watch a couple of people say "I do".
Great
A five hour drive is nothing for a hopefully once-in-a-lifetime event for a couple.I feel you OP. Had a lot of friends / co workers pull the "lets have our wedding in another country / 5 hours drive away" thing and now I have a rule that unless they are paying for my room and flight (which I would only expect if it was immediate family, extremely close friend) I aint going to the wedding unless its near my house.
"I can't afford that." Don't make it a pride thing. I told my friend this and then he told me I'd be accommodated on hotel and that he'd pick me up from the airport. Also found me the cheapest flight to get. Granted, it helped that I was a groomsmen.What the OP described is a huge sink of money and time for some people, just for a wedding. Let's not pretend some weddings aren't ridiculous in what they ask of the guests, putting them in the position of either having to commit or looking like a "bad friend" for declining.
Then don't go. Problem solved. Saves the bride and groom money as wellGot to fly across the county, rent a hotel room, rent a car. Now I get to wear a fucking tux for 5+ hours so I can watch a couple of people say "I do".
Great
Unless you're just there for the ceremony and then bailing, there's a bit more than that. The reception is the highlight for everyone but the couple and their parents. It's one of those rare occasions in our modern, widely dispersed society when extended family and old friends all gather in one place and socialize.Now I get to wear a fucking tux for 5+ hours so I can watch a couple of people say "I do".
Trust me, it's not for the people getting married either. It's mainly for the parents and family of the couple.Got to fly across the county, rent a hotel room, rent a car. Now I get to wear a fucking tux for 5+ hours so I can watch a couple of people say "I do".
Great
Haha I attended my Uncles Wedding when I was 10yrs old.
I noted how Boooooooooooooorrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrring it was, vowed to never get Married when I grew up. Haven't attended a Wedding since neither any time my other family members (cousins, aunts n uncles etc) got Married I always stayed at home, was in my teens & early 20's, then was in a relationship for 12yrs, BUT actually considered hmmm maybe I would get married & break my vow, but then split up with my ex a year ago.
Now I am 36yrs old, still not married, still not been to a Wedding since I was 10yrs old, thats probably not the best thing to do but hey what you gonna do?
I feel ya OP.
That said if my Sister or Neice & Nephew got Married I'd probably go.
I agree that 40,000 dollar weddings are an erroneous, exorbitant waste of money
you could have declined. Its on you for not.
I mean I guess it's better to make an ass of yourself on the internet for strangers anonymously than it is in front of friends and family. I'm not sure what you expected from this though OP, obviously people are going to call you out on being selfish because you are being extremely negative about what is supposed to be a positive experience.Yeah, which is why I'm posting on a forum and not venting to them.