Hahaha. Straight up getting checked today cuz its been 6 months.But this way he knows who he needs to contact when the clap happens.
I kid
Remember to stay clean and safe kids.
Hahaha. Straight up getting checked today cuz its been 6 months.But this way he knows who he needs to contact when the clap happens.
I kid
It's not rude because OP has a legitimate, narrow issue: he's had trouble growing short-term relationships into something longer.It's kinda rude though, no?
It would be fine if they offered some insight. It's like going into a thread about a someone who's struggling to lose weight and posting "well I've always been fit", and that's it lol.
Yep. A lot of women a super shallow about height. Especially online where they have a ton of options as every remotely attractive woman gets a ton of messages all the time. I'm 5'9" and was told I was too short several times by women 5'5" and under. SMH.
And others have said, make efforts to meet people in real life. I never had any luck finding anything long term with online dating either (though I didn't put near that much time or effort into it over the years). All my long term relationships, including my wife, were people I met in real life through events, through friends etc.
I'm not saying stop online dating, as I have several friends who met their SOs online. Just don't make it your only option. It's tough sledding if you're not traditionally attractive and being 5'5" will really hurt online as a huge chunk of women will just never respond when they see you're short. At least in person you have more of a chance of talking and using your personality to get people interested even if the height is an initial turn off.
only had 2 girlfriend, only slept with one of them... once, and the total of time i've ibeen n a relationship is two month
i'm 30 now, so yeah... Im terrible at this, i'm just a boring guy, or i just never had the luck to find someone with the same interests as me, but now i don't try anymore, i don't care and i'm happier this way (sure if i find somebody that i'm interested in, i'll try something, but i don't go out of my way to find someone now)
It's not rude because OP has a legitimate, narrow issue: he's had trouble growing short-term relationships into something longer.
Totally understandable. Happened to me tons of times, and I'm sure it's happened to many others.
And yet, we have the usual parade of posters chiming in about their complete failure at dating.
If someone responds "at least you get dates!" in threads like these, that's exactly why they're not getting dates.
Yeah I can't really disagree lol.But offering nothing more than what's essentially "I get more dates and slept with more women than you" is equally as shitty, if not shittier lol.
Yeah I can't really disagree lol.
Biggest point is that Krauser Kat was a "hopeless nerd" when he was younger — I was too, probably even worse — and we turned out okay.
I think if you go to one specifically for younger people it can be cool. I haven't, but a friend of mine went to one for like "Young 30s professionals" and thought it was funI like the idea of speed dating/mixer type events, but every one I've ever seen is like... 40+, at least. I don't think it's something young people really do anymore.
I started around the same age. No date, kiss, etc etc.When/If I ever actuslly manage to get a date, I'll let you know. But I'm gonna go with no.
At 24 I already feel like my window of opportunity is closed at this point
I think I found your problemI never messaged any women. I was really bad at that. I didn't answer any messages either. I don't like messages.
Yup. Drop the Internet entirely and start joining clubs or going to socials. Even just culture/art oriented ones.
Dating is brutal. As someone who is 5'3, Indian, and balding it can be really hard to find someone to date me. I know I'm not very appealing to a lot of people online and it sucks.
Congrats on doing everything possible to stay alone, which better enables you to talk about it on a video game message board.
Congrats on doing everything possible to stay alone, which better enables you to talk about it on a video game message board.
This really is the most important thing. When I broke up with my last GF then went bald and my beard got tons of grey in it, it really rocked my confidence and it definitely impacted my dating game. I aged like ten years in one. I blamed the bald head and it being hard for bald guys with grey beards in their 30s to find dates. Gained weight, got depressed, felt like shit. But in reality was my insecurity, lack of self confidence and attitude that was the issue. I just accepted it and started rocking it with pride, stopped feeling sorry for myself and got back out there. Things are going about as good as they ever have been now because I put some effort into working on the things that were within my control to change and I got my confidence back. Hit the gym, bought new clothes, changed my diet and put myself back out there.
What lack of success? He's been on a ton of dates. Maybe he needs eHarmonyI never understood this shit.
Some dude's talking about his lack of success, and you come in here bragging about your success lol.
Like, what do you get out of it?
lol at all these posts saying some version of...
"Attractive women are sooo shallow, I message them and they rarely message back because they're shallow!"
lol alas if only peeps were humble enough to admit everyone likes shiny stuff.
What lack of success? He's been on a ton of dates. Maybe he needs eHarmony
Made worse by the fact that they exclusively use online dating to approach women from behind the safety of their touchscreen because a face to face rejection terrifies them. "It's not me, it's those attractive people."It's just amazing that so many people seem to have the same kind of cognitive dissonance when it comes to this.
"Attractive people are so shallow!"
*only messages attractive people
"Why can't they overlook my flaws?"
*is upset when attractive people don't reply
"I deserve someone attractive!"
*foreveralone
I thought this was posted in videogame area, and the title wrote dating sim, lol.
Sorry.
It's just amazing that so many people seem to have the same kind of cognitive dissonance when it comes to this.
"Attractive people are so shallow!"
*only messages attractive people
"Why can't they overlook my flaws?"
*is upset when attractive people don't reply
"I deserve someone attractive!"
*foreveralone
Made worse by the fact that they exclusively use online dating to approach women from behind the safety of their touchscreen because a face to face rejection terrifies them. "It's not me, it's those attractive people."
Im 33. Ill be 34 soon and im still killin it. KILLIN it! Fuck outa here with this window closing at 24 lolol
Try asking women. Some of the best advice I've gotten was from asking female friends. One in particular told me I didn't exude enough confidence. She said smile more, with teeth, hold your head up when you walk, don't slouch, make eye contact, have good posture, etc. I haven't been on a first date in 11 years because I've been in a relationship for a long time and now marriage, but I like to think these tips helped back then.
Another friend met a significant other playing volleyball in an adult league. Don't stick just to online dating. Find activities and meet ups. Then you'll find someone with at least some similar interests.
The most important advice was for me to just be myself. Keep your head up, be you, stop trying to woo somebody and just live your life. You'll meet someone.
I think there's a huge difference between a 33/34 year old guy with game and experience compared to a 33/34 year old virgin who have never had a single date in their life. This is what the mindset is for a lot of people on this site and elsewhere when they talk about the "window closing"; the sneaking suspicion that there's "something wrong with you" and that it's a massive turn-off. Looking to settle down or just continuing to be a player well into your 30s isn't some abnormal thing and know one would judge you for it when it's apparent you know what you're doing.
eharmony is the same shit as the rest of them. Just like the rest of them the same girls are on there too. I actually had the most success at eharmony and met the most crazy one's from there as well. I'm kind of the opposite of the OP after 2 months into a relationship I'm the one to bail.What lack of success? He's been on a ton of dates. Maybe he needs eHarmony
Framing people as players isn't right just because they have worked on their social skills and grown as a person instead of rejecting advice and wallowing in self pity. Those dateless 20-something virgins let that define them, no doubt as witnessed many times here telling anyone that will listen and that probably extends to the women they are interested in.
It was sort of a joke. I've tried it too. Weak sauce. Meet my fiance on tinder.eharmony is the same shit as the rest of them. Just like the rest of them the same girls are on there too. I actually had the most success at eharmony and met the most crazy one's from there as well. I'm kind of the opposite of the OP after 2 months into a relationship I'm the one to bail.