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Going for the ol snip snip?
Tbh I don't see what this has to do with gender so much—having kids is basically a full time job and society should really be structured so that you can treat it as such (ie being able to support a family on a single income—women should be just as able to be a breadwinner though, it shouldn't matter your gender). Then again, there should also be a societal structure that can support couples with children who both want to work or don't have a partner. Someone has to do the chores and it makes sense that the person with more time or less work pressure would do it. It's kind of weird to me to act like it's a gender thing. As the homosexual couples demonstrated, it doesn't matter what sex does what, as long as it gets done.
what am i reading here? (*_*)Straights are a disease of patriarchy. Once it is cleansed from the world, we will finally have peace.
The jokeStraights are a disease of patriarchy. Once it is cleansed from the world, we will finally have peace.
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Straights are a disease of patriarchy. Once it is cleansed from the world, we will finally have peace.
Let's all stop having kids and party to extinction like it's 2099.
Oh hey, that's me.The secret is to be a failure as an adult to the point you're too scared to ever have children.
This is my general feeling. I wouldn't dream of having kids until I had a comfortable income and a reliable partner though. I'm not about to trade my meager comforts for the life of a struggling parent.Kids make everything harder... in the short term. But long term they can make life far more rewarding and meaningful. But the good things in life are rarely the easy things.
Amen, brother.Our lives would be so much better if our parents just never had kids
You ever hear of the "sunk cost" effect in psychology? Where you put so much effort into something that you justify it being worth it later on?
Yeah, that's what kids sound like to me.
Circumstantial moral is disgusting to observe. But i guess we all suffer from it.The change of circumstances is probably the best criticism against Marslow's hierarchy of needs.
Very true.It kind of makes sense if you live in a country with barely any safety nets, where it just makes more financial sense to let the highest earner continue working.
All the more reason we need to focus on egalitarian and humane safety nets.
One of the most common things I hear from parents is "don't have children". They say it like they are joking but you can tell they aren't.
Actually, I have never heard anyone say LGBT people are a disease. I have heard they have a disease, but this is drastically different. Do people actually say LGBT people []are[/i] a disease? Also, calling for killing all straights as an analogon to what happens in political debates when it comes to LGBT people is an exaggeration, at least for western societies. Even very hardliner right wing people I have yet to see say such a thing.
"sunk cost" is a deep misunderstand why people have the desire to have kids. And what people get out of having a family.
I'd imagine you haven't been on the receiving end of it? Probably just haven't noticed tbhActually, I have never heard anyone say LGBT people are a disease. I have heard they have a disease, but this is drastically different. Do people actually say LGBT people []are[/i] a disease? Also, calling for killing all straights as an analogon to what happens in political debates when it comes to LGBT people is an exaggeration, at least for western societies. Even very hardliner right wing people I have yet to see say such a thing.
Which part actually happens in a significant frequency, saying lgbt people are a disease or calling for their death (in western society)? Yes, I have not been on the receiving end but I am very sensitive to factually incorrect statements (humans being a desease...) and calling for the death of people, so I am rather positive that in my environment this is super rare.I'd imagine you haven't been on the receiving end of it? Probably just haven't noticed tbh
One of the most common things I hear from parents is "don't have children". They say it like they are joking but you can tell they aren't.
My Son is the best thing that has ever happened to me. I love him unconditionally.
When you get home, open the door and your son screams dad and runs to greet you and hug you with those loving eyes, all smiles and happy ... it's just indescribable. Best feeling in the world.
Actually, I have never heard anyone say LGBT people are a disease. I have heard they have a disease, but this is drastically different. Do people actually say LGBT people []are[/i] a disease? Also, calling for killing all straights as an analogon to what happens in political debates when it comes to LGBT people is an exaggeration, at least for western societies. Even very hardliner right wing people I have yet to see say such a thing.
I'll agree it's probably very rare in your environment.Which part actually happens in a significant frequency, saying lgbt people are a disease or calling for their death (in western society)? Yes, I have not been on the receiving end but I am very sensitive to factually incorrect statements (humans being a desease...) and calling for the death of people, so I am rather positive that in my environment this is super rare.
If you force it, you remove the option for families to decide what is best for themselves, no wonder some families choose to let the higher earner keep working to maximise income over splitting parental leave evenly. Removing that option to split parental leave equally sounds nice in theory, but would have cost my family (where my wife is the breadwinner on a £/hour basis) money we don't have- she's freelance and I'm an office worker paid less than her but with company benefits, it made more sense for me to take the maximum time off (as my company paid into it with extra weeks leave over the state allowance) that I could and for her to take the minimum. Considering how hard and expensive it is to sort schedules out when you both work, I think you're always better off letting families decide for themselves which option works out best for them financially or in terms of who wants to do what as every family situation is different, some have help from grandparents, some don't, some have better company plans, some don't etc.this, similar to the gender pay gap, can be addressed through introducing ALL of the following reforms:
- government-paid parental leave that should be split down the middle between the parents (if the better-paid parent doesn't want to take time off work, the family will be leaving those months that parent refuses to take on the table)
- public daycare for young kids
- public afternoon care for school-kids after school
- individual taxation and tax brackets instead of basing the tax brackets on whole-family income
We found it to be really, really hard the first two years, but now it's getting more rewarding every day. I don't know whether we're just better at functioning on less sleep and more stress though! I look at it that every time I see my parents, who are 70, they are always happy to see us and have been looking forward to it, and I think that's how I'll feel in 30 years time too.One of the most common things I hear from parents is "don't have children". They say it like they are joking but you can tell they aren't.
Actually I find wider social issues to still be just as important as local safety and schools when I'm raising a kid. There's time enough to do both, and although I obviously pay more attention to local schools now, I didn't suddenly only start caring about local community issues. A big chunk of my daughter's future will be affected by wider issues affecting her generation beyond those borders.Reminds of me of people getting more conservative once they have kids.
Suddenly safety and schools become a lot more important and virtue signaling less important.
I do all the outdoor stuff, the rubbish, the DIY/repairs, the cooking and general tidying up as I find it relaxing. My wife does all the clothes washing (which to be fair seems to be about as much of our chore jobs list as everything else put together, little people generate soo much washing) but I suspect that's also because she doesn't trust me to wash her stuff/not damage her favourite clothes! :D Cleaning floors is something we both despise and is supposed to be done on a weekly basis. Realistically 'how sticky is it' and 'are people we respect coming over' are also taken into account :DI'm a heterosexual married man with two young kids that works full-time. I also do all of the outdoor chores and about half of the indoor chores (I do all of the cleaning). It's exhausting, my heart goes out to the people that do even more than that.
That's more than slightly disgusting. The latter (calling for their death) would even be a criminal offense here in Germany (and rightfully so).
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http://time.com/4406337/mike-pence-gay-rights-lgbt-religious-freedom/That's more than slightly disgusting. The latter (calling for their death) would even be a criminal offense here in Germany (and rightfully so).
Yeah, it really shouldn't be about gender, but rather more about who's better at what, and who's the more logical choice for your given relationship.Tbh I don't see what this has to do with gender so much—having kids is basically a full time job and society should really be structured so that you can treat it as such (ie being able to support a family on a single income—women should be just as able to be a breadwinner though, it shouldn't matter your gender). Then again, there should also be a societal structure that can support couples with children who both want to work or don't have a partner. Someone has to do the chores and it makes sense that the person with more time or less work pressure would do it. It's kind of weird to me to act like it's a gender thing. As the homosexual couples demonstrated, it doesn't matter what sex does what, as long as it gets done.
Reminds of me of people getting more conservative once they have kids.
Suddenly safety and schools become a lot more important and virtue signaling less important.
Tbh I don't see what this has to do with gender so much—having kids is basically a full time job and society should really be structured so that you can treat it as such (ie being able to support a family on a single income—women should be just as able to be a breadwinner though, it shouldn't matter your gender). Then again, there should also be a societal structure that can support couples with children who both want to work or don't have a partner. Someone has to do the chores and it makes sense that the person with more time or less work pressure would do it. It's kind of weird to me to act like it's a gender thing. As the homosexual couples demonstrated, it doesn't matter what sex does what, as long as it gets done.
Oh no question about that, I am fully aware that LGBT people have to fight with extreme malice from the political right and are struggling for acceptance. It was really just the concrete demand for eradication and claiming they themselves are deseases that I was unaware any people outside of extreme fringe positions would ever say (in the western world). I did not want to diminish the struggle to obtain basic rights like the right for marriage - or previously even just the right to have sexual intercourse.http://time.com/4406337/mike-pence-gay-rights-lgbt-religious-freedom/
This is literally our vice president. Maybe think in the future before acting like LGBT people don't have extreme shit to deal with thrown at us constantly.
Its not uncommon people just not say it in public but with "trustworthy" ones (family, classroom). Depends on the country/state.Which part actually happens in a significant frequency, saying lgbt people are a disease or calling for their death (in western society)? Yes, I have not been on the receiving end but I am very sensitive to factually incorrect statements (humans being a desease...) and calling for the death of people, so I am rather positive that in my environment this is super rare.