Yeah...and I said I don't want to fuck with white women like that...what's the issue
Yeah...and I said I don't want to fuck with white women like that...what's the issue
And it's not any better on the gay apps. Though I have had better luck on apps more obscure than grindr.
I would like to hear your experiences if you are willing to share them. I can only offer my perspective as a black guy. With a weird name
The racism I see in LGBTQ communities is a strange thing to observe
LMAO this couldn't be further from the truth
I mean I'm in college so it's not an option, Knoxville, TN is white as fuck man
I honestly thought the same. Don't know why.
"Like that" implying there is not "like that" that you would presumably or maybe you don't mean either and your in this topic being a hypocrite. Dude you need to calm down as your getting way too brash and ahead of yourself.Yeah...and I said I don't want to fuck with white women like that...what's the issue
Man Knoxville is small as shit compared to MemphisAh. Never been but I would have thought it would be fairly diverse like a lot of bigger cities in the south. I've been to places like Savannah and Atlanta and those were diverse.
That is so so so so so so so so wrong
What are you even saying"Like that" implying there is not "like that" that you would presumably or maybe you don't mean either and your in this topic being a hypocrite. Dude you need to calm down as your getting way too brash and ahead of yourself.
yep, it's true for every race. just see how oriental asians act around black men. growing up in pakistan, there was a huge demand for fair skin women and nearly all the movie and tv stars were fair skin men and women. this is a country with 70% brown skin to dark skin people. i saw my own aunts berate and just dismiss other women and men and boys because they were dark skinned. there were Nivea ads touting its power to turn brown skin women white. entire songs written for fair skin women. it was hilarious in a way.
so when i see these threads wondering why white women dont find people of color attractive, i go back to how other races feel the same about brown and black people. you cant force someone to be attracted to people they arent attracted to.
Curious--have any black men here dated an asian woman? I'm an equal opportunity guy, but I just don't even bother to message them. Got this thing in my head that hit rate would be zero.
Oddly enough I've never actually dated a hispanic woman either. I haven't actively pursued, but I've sent enough messages to where I'm kind of shocked at how bad my hit rate has been with them.
I'll tell you why - because you would think an oppressed minority would be less shitty to oppressed minorities. But it's not the case at all and it's kind of mind blowing.
The person made a thread complaining about White women preferring White men, whern his own race of women prefers him but that's apparently not good enough. And we all know the reasons why. Quit arguing things in this mythological vacuum when there are historical racial and social contexts within a White supremacist society why some Black people in the African diaspora might find that behavior embarrassing.Is any of this really necessary? Strawman arguments really don't help further discussion. Just because a black man dates a white women doesn't mean he's chasing a "forbidden fruit." I'm curious as to why you think that.
Do you think that maybe the reason people are mainly citing white women is because that's where they usually see "I don't date ___ race?" I don't think there are many black women with "I don't date black men" on their profiles unless you've seen a bunch somewhere? So of course they wouldn't be brought up. I also think it comes down to the fact that depending on where you live, your dating pool diversity wise might be skewed heavily. I know when I was on Tinder and OKCupid, I mostly saw white women. Of course there were black women there too but it's not like every black women is gonna swipe right on you as default for just being black. If you aren't a person that would never date someone outside of your own race and you actually would date people of any race, it's only natural that you'd be frustrated that a percentage of the people you're interested in are turning you down based on your race. It doesn't mean you are only interested in dating white people.
Gay people are still susceptible to biases imparted by society. It's not uncommon to see profiles with "NO [INSERT RACE HERE]" or dumb nicknames being dished out for people who do date outside of their race ("rice queen").
Fellow black men really need to stop gassing up these white women with that sort of behavior.The person made a thread complaining about White women preferring White men, whern his own race of women prefers him but that's apparently not good enough. And we all know the reasons why. Quit arguing things in this mythological vacuum when there are historical racial and social contexts within a White supremacist society why some Black people in the African diaspora might find that behavior embarrassing.
Is any of this really necessary? Strawman arguments really don't help further discussion. Just because a black man dates a white women doesn't mean he's chasing a "forbidden fruit." I'm curious as to why you think that.
Do you think that maybe the reason people are mainly citing white women is because that's where they usually see "I don't date ___ race?" I don't think there are many black women with "I don't date black men" on their profiles unless you've seen a bunch somewhere? So of course they wouldn't be brought up. I also think it comes down to the fact that depending on where you live, your dating pool diversity wise might be skewed heavily. I know when I was on Tinder and OKCupid, I mostly saw white women. Of course there were black women there too but it's not like every black women is gonna swipe right on you as default for just being black. If you aren't a person that would never date someone outside of your own race and you actually would date people of any race, it's only natural that you'd be frustrated that a percentage of the people you're interested in are turning you down based on your race. It doesn't mean you are only interested in dating white people.
I wonder if they could do a similar chart but with other physical traits besides race? So instead of ASIAN/BLACK/LATINA/WHITE women/men preferences, if it had TALL/SHORT/FIT/FAT/PRETTY/UGLY women/men preferences.
seems like black men have it bad but Asian men and black women have it worse
according to this you should have more luck with black women. is that your experience?
i dunno, match.com always came off to me as the whitest of white sites. i'd use other ones if i were a poc
I've pretty much given up on seriously dating in NY and trying to go live in HK for a while lol.
Oh no
There was one girl in collage that was "into me" until it started to get physical. She totally clammed up and got really weird about it. A few years later I asked her why nothing ever happened between us and she basically said she really like me as a person/personality but she had never been physical with an Asian dude before and didn't know how to deal with it. Basically she liked everything about me except for the fact that I wasn't white. That one took a while for me to come to grips with.
The funny thing is, I went to Hong Kong a few months ago and realized I was the equivalent of being "white" there. It totally blew my mind. Girls were looking at me on the street, I was getting more Tinder matches than I knew what to do with. And then I totally got it why no one in NYC wants to settle down. I get literally no matches here but in HK it was like 4 a day.
All my friends in NY think I'm only into white girls but the truth is that statistically there are just way more white people in America (obviously) so I will see more white girls that I think are attractive compared to others. But now it takes me literally 2 seconds of interacting with a white girl to know if they are even remotely interested in talking to me- as a person, not even a potential partner. In the past when I made it known that I was interested in them, they would literally not know what to do since they've never had an Asian guy into them before. They literally freeze up. They have never even thought about dating anyone other than white dudes. It's really weird, especially in NYC where you almost have to go out of your way to not talk to a minority.
I've pretty much given up on seriously dating in NY and trying to go live in HK for a while lol.
only happened once but it still stings
Actually you can't do anything about being short either.Your points are solid, but there is nothing you can do if someone totally cuts off an entire group of people based on skin color and that is what OP is trying to get at.
You can definitely get around being fat, skinny, short, lanky, personality, etc as those are things in the person's control. You cannot, however, control your skin color. No matter how much cooler, successful, or fit your are, a "no black men/women" slapped into someone's profile stops you from going any further.
The person made a thread complaining about White women preferring White men, whern his own race of women prefers him but that's apparently not good enough. And we all know the reasons why. Quit arguing things in this mythological vacuum when there are historical racial and social contexts within a White supremacist society why some Black people in the African diaspora might find that behavior embarrassing.
Uhh if you live in a majorly white area where the women aren't interested in dating your race then I think you've got bigger problems to worry about (like, moving) than complaining about online dating apps/websites. Also, from my experience most times these kinds of complaints come up they are from black men who are only interested in going after white women and who ( ironically) don't even bother looking into women from their own race.
This reminds me of an old thread on Gaf where the OP was a black guy crying about white women not wanting him.. It was embarrassing. I guess this is a problem if you're only interested in interracial relationships, otherwise there are alternative dating sites for POC.
Is any of this really necessary? Strawman arguments really don't help further discussion.
Think again:
Reread the OP. The person never said Black women weren't good enough. You need to get out of your own head. You're projecting to an absurd degree. Just because a black man dates a white women doesn't mean he dislikes black women.The person made a thread complaining about White women preferring White men, whern his own race of women prefers him but that's apparently not good enough. And we all know the reasons why. Quit arguing things in this mythological vacuum when there are historical racial and social contexts within a White supremacist society why some Black people in the African diaspora might find that behavior embarrassing.
I feel like HK is a special case, because girls outnumber guys there.
As a British Chinese, I met my wife through online dating. I feel like it varies on different platforms. I struggled for a few months on one before I switched. I met my wife within the trial period of that one, she was the first date I got from there and now a few years later we are happily married and expecting a kid.
She is also Chinese btw so that doesn't contradict any of the stats. Some friends assume that it's me who is selective about my own race and at the same time dismiss the idea that racial preference in online dating could work against me.
Time to bring back Moon Shoes tbh
I've dated several but I've never tried to proactively go after one online, so I have no idea what my success rate would be. Hell even IRL I have no idea what my success rate would be as the the one's I've dated I just happen to meet out or through friends and there was instant chemistry or they were flirting hard at your boy. LOLCurious--have any black men here dated an asian woman? I'm an equal opportunity guy, but I just don't even bother to message them. Got this thing in my head that hit rate would be zero.
Oddly enough I've never actually dated a hispanic woman either. I haven't actively pursued, but I've sent enough messages to where I'm kind of shocked at how bad my hit rate has been with them.
Then there are people who are interested in black dudes but only for the sex. Like, that's cool and all if that's your thing, but I'd rather not be your fetish if I'm actually looking for a partner.
I think OP is more frustrated that so many people think that way in the first place.OP, why would you be infuriated that some women labeled their interest as "White/Caucasion"? If anything it saves you time rather than wasting it on somebody who was never going to give you theirs.
Damn. Yes it is a bit mind blowing.I'll tell you why - because you would think an oppressed minority would be less shitty to oppressed minorities. But it's not the case at all and it's kind of mind blowing.
There was an AA podcast that talked specifically about your previous story and this post. Schemas are really powerful like that. A lot of people assume that Asian guys only date Asian ladies too.My friends think I'm being selective too but the fact is that there just isn't as many asian girls here when compared to white girls so I'm just seeing less girls that I am attracted to here. In HK, attractive girls were literally everywhere and of course almost all of them were Chinese. Also I think Black/Latino girls are even less interested in Asian dudes than white girls are if thats even possible.
Curious--have any black men here dated an asian woman? I'm an equal opportunity guy, but I just don't even bother to message them. Got this thing in my head that hit rate would be zero.
Oddly enough I've never actually dated a hispanic woman either. I haven't actively pursued, but I've sent enough messages to where I'm kind of shocked at how bad my hit rate has been with them.
It is a strawman argument. Because instead of engaging in the discussion set by the OP, people have decided to say he hates women of his own race and only wants to chase the "forbidden fruit" of the white woman without any proof of such. If you disagree with something, challenge the statements made instead of making assumptions about the person and attacking them verbally as a way to knock them down.They're not strawman arguments. They're the recognition of a deeply disturbing sadness expressed by black men who feel hurt that many white women aren't interested in dating them. I'm black, have experienced the same snubs, and kept it moving. With so many beautiful black women out here, why does it bother them so much that most of the white women they encounter online have a preference for non-black males? If anything, I feel insulted when reading that stuff, since it strikes me that they're actively pursuing white women and snubbing black women. Having a black mother, I appreciate their beauty and find it odd that rejection by white women would arouse any feeling from them but amusement.
charts 7 and 8 in this blog post relates self-confidence and sex drive to self-described body typeI wonder if they could do a similar chart but with other physical traits besides race? So instead of ASIAN/BLACK/LATINA/WHITE women/men preferences, if it had TALL/SHORT/FIT/FAT/PRETTY/UGLY women/men preferences.
There is always a group of women (or men) that will have interest in you... any race. You just have to keep looking. And don't go in all negative when you come across one. Shake that shit off first.
Sure, it's easier for some people. Oh well. That's just life in this generation. Keep moving forward.
It is a strawman argument. Because instead of engaging in the discussion set by the OP, people have decided to say he hates women of his own race and only wants to chase the "forbidden fruit" of the white woman without any proof of such. If you disagree with something, challenge the statements made instead of making assumptions about the person and attacking them verbally as a way to knock them down.
And to your last statement, rejection sucks in general. It's not a good feeling. We aren't wired to naturally to somehow only be hurt by rejection from people of our own race. Why the hell would you be amused?
It is a strawman argument. Because instead of engaging in the discussion set by the OP, people have decided to say he hates women of his own race and only wants to chase the "forbidden fruit" of the white woman without any proof of such. If you disagree with something, challenge the statements made instead of making assumptions about the person and attacking them verbally as a way to knock them down.
And to your last statement, rejection sucks in general. It's not a good feeling. We aren't wired to naturally to somehow only be hurt by rejection from people of our own race. Why the hell would you be amused?