IIRC my kids' middle school has a policy like this. It's well-meaning in that it tries to make these years, which are really hard, easier and less awkward, but it's not a workable thing.
I think the problem is that your teacher created a situation where the boys had to go asking girls to dance with them in a forced setting. Why do that? I remember doing some paired dancing in gym and it was always randomly assigned by the teacher. You weren't necessarily paired with the opposite sex because someone would get left out anyway but also because it wasn't the point. The point was to learn the dance, it had nothing to do with romance. Your mental health and self-esteem should not have even been a factor in the lesson.As a kid who had extreme image issues and being told no from every girl in class for our forced dance classes because I was fat and had dandruff and spent most of my teens with suicidal thoughts and confidence issues I say this is ok. The reverse is ban the dances altogether because in the end someone gets hurt.
I guess it's a little different because for us it was mandatory dance classes like once a week in PE and I think mens mental health is something that is overlooked a lot and it starts in school. Breaking down and crying and been told to 'behave' and stop acting silly by teachers when I was only 8 and constantly rejected by my peers.
Moral of this story is school is fucking torture for everyone.
Those gym days when they busted out Cottoneye Joe and Cha Cha Slide were lit. Best gym days outside of dodgeball and when they brought out the little gym scooters.I had that unit. It was a bad unit. So boriiiinnnnggg
The party dance unit was some good shit though. Do the sliiiiiide baby
As a kid who had extreme image issues and being told no from every girl in class for our forced dance classes because I was fat and had dandruff and spent most of my teens with suicidal thoughts and confidence issues I say this is ok. The reverse is ban the dances altogether because in the end someone gets hurt.
I guess it's a little different because for us it was mandatory dance classes like once a week in PE and I think mens mental health is something that is overlooked a lot and it starts in school. Breaking down and crying and been told to 'behave' and stop acting silly by teachers when I was only 8 and constantly rejected by my peers.
Moral of this story is school is fucking torture for everyone.
Naw your parents were wrong too about that. Boys have the same right to say no that girls do. Politeness means the ability to reject people and accept rejections gracefully.
Were those guys homophobic? That's not the school problem, dances classes are to learn how to dance.I think the first time I ever danced was when I was twelve or thirteen years old, attending a kind of "orientation" for the local high school I was presumably going to attend. Separated by sex and herded into the gym's studio for a dancing lesson from the school's instructor with other boys from my class. Paired up, shown the steps, here's the music, then get to it while everyone watches. There I was, an introverted thirteen year old nerd forced to dance for the first time with another person, and it's another guy in front of a room full of guys who routinely made my daily school life an ordeal.
It was thirty years ago, and a private Catholic school in the South; everyone on some level was homophobic including me.Were those guys homophobic? That's not the school problem, dances classes are to learn how to dance.