That's why you keep a set of keys near the door.
Being honest though, it is flawed, but it's real.
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My friend has been cheating on his girlfriend, something amusing just happened.
- Thread starter CassCade
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Being honest though, it is flawed, but it's real.
Why are so many people questioning the locking from the inside? Every main building door here has a lock part inside the house as these types of doors are easier to brake through if they are not double locked (its hard with only the normal close of the door, but twisting the key again just makes it harder), and I know some people sleep better when they lock their homes from the inside, even when theres really no danger (not my case, but I know my sister does, which drives me crazy some mornings when I just try to open the door normaly).
The thing is, everyone has a pot or plate with the keys in the entrance.
Is that not the same in america?
The thing is, everyone has a pot or plate with the keys in the entrance.
Is that not the same in america?
Dead bolts that require a key on both sides are common in America too, yes. More common on houses and condos (the standard) than apartments, however. Typically in apartments a key is only required on the outside, with a knob mechanism on the inside for convenience.
Here in apartments is also the norm.
So its not as strange as some people here suggest then in america either.
Next some users here will ask for the OP's friend to take a photo of his door to corroborate his story, people in this thread are going hard with the victim blaming, and if all this that is happening is true, big shame on them.
My doors can be locked from inside but they don't use a key for that.
Real talk though, if this story is true your friend needs to get out of there ASAP this sounds like a very unhealthy and possibly dangerous situation to me.
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The place I'm staying at now has a key on both sides.
She probably locked the windows if she was planning to trap him inside. I would.
...if I was crazy I mean.
She probably locked the windows if she was planning to trap him inside. I would.
...if I was crazy I mean.
Run!! Ruuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuun!!!
As for the door lock thing, I've owned 3 houses...and lived in 5.
Not a single one had dead-bolts or door knobs you can lock from the inside with a key. You locked them with a turning lock.
(Door knob)
Right side of the picture below is what the inside lock looked like (in general) every time.
(left side is outside with key)
As for the door lock thing, I've owned 3 houses...and lived in 5.
Not a single one had dead-bolts or door knobs you can lock from the inside with a key. You locked them with a turning lock.
(Door knob)
Right side of the picture below is what the inside lock looked like (in general) every time.
(left side is outside with key)
Yea, this is common in apartments especially.Run!! Ruuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuun!!!
As for the door lock thing, I've owned 3 houses...and lived in 5.
Not a single one had dead-bolts or door knobs you can lock from the inside with a key. You locked them with a turning lock.
(Door knob)
Right side of the picture below is what the inside lock looked like (in general) every time.
(left side is outside with key)
But I've never lived in a home or condo that had anything but proper dead bolts with a key required on both sides.
Holy shit that's wild. Bordering on crime. This woman sounds unhinged. She needs to get help, your friend needs to tell her this and break up with her (but support her as much as he can).
Also fantastic and apt ending to the post
Also fantastic and apt ending to the post
explain a bit. I mean i understand she sounds crazy but he needs to get the fuck out and he should have 1: not cheated and 2: ended the thing.
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Wait, so she brought up the cheating, not him? I'm surprised she didn't tell him to cut that off immediately while he was a captive audience, or if she's ok with it as long as he comes back to her.
If true (and that is a really big if), if he cares about her at all and it's not just fear, they should at the very least do some kind of counseling because there's no way this is going to end well at all. Presumably he's not chained up in another room calmly texting OP these updates.
If true (and that is a really big if), if he cares about her at all and it's not just fear, they should at the very least do some kind of counseling because there's no way this is going to end well at all. Presumably he's not chained up in another room calmly texting OP these updates.
These updates sound like pure fantasy at this point, either on the OP or friend's part.
Yes, if that's true, it very much sounds like neither of them are remotely mature enough for a relationship.
Yes, if that's true, it very much sounds like neither of them are remotely mature enough for a relationship.
Damn. I hope your friends get out of that relationship and that the girlfriend gets the help and emotional support she clearly needs as well.
That was the first place my mind went after reading the last update. She seems desperate to keep this thing going no matter what, and what better way to keep the OP's friend around than pregnancy/a child.
That is why he needs to call the police on her, or get her father involved to knock sense into her.
What she's doing is dangerous.
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You are criticizing the way he handled himself when he was being abused. That puts part of the blame of the abuse on him.
No i understand that but he shouldn't have cheated and he should have ended it. He's a spineless guy.
That she is fucking crazy is another matter. That's also true. There seems no reason for him to just walk out and end this.
Let's not make this into something more than it is.
Not really another matter as it seemingly feeds into his motivation for cheating and directly into his fear of breaking it off.
It's easy for you or me to say we'd break it off but we aren't in that situation.
Did she treaten to kill him or something? She just can't take "no" for an answer. She'll have to live and cope with that.
To be clear, i understand men can be terrified of women and abused by women just as women can be terrified of men.
But in this case he could just end it i think.
It does all sound a bit like that movie.. what's the name?... With Kathy Bates. Edit: Misery.
But it's not that bad yet. He just needs to stand up for himself and end it.
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See, I've never seen that in any house, condo, etc... Maybe it varies by state. I don't think a home here would pass inspection with a design like that. Fire code and all. Especially since the only stated advantage is to prevent burglaries via smashing a window, which can be done to any window :P
Yeah.....given the history here
No one's excusing him for the cheating, but I'm sorry, she's lost sympathy for doing what she did by locking him inside of the apartment.
That is pure psycho level.
The only victim in this situation is the side gf.
The boyfriend lied to both the gf and side gf about each other so is a POS.
The main gf seems to be very unstable if we are to believe OP so isnt exactly a victim here.
The side gf is the only one that was apparently normal and wasnt aware of any wrong doing.
You are not that person, and you havent been in the same situation.
Theres persons that commit suicide because of a big depression and persons that not, yet this victim blaming shit in this thread is getting out of hand because a lot of you think he needs to ware the pants and get the shit out as he has the power being the man of the relationship. And im sure a lot of you wouldnt say the same thibg if the roles were reversed.
Tell that to Terry Crews also.
Shall we stop being a dramaqueen and bring in a lot of stuff that A: isn't related and B: i never said. I don't think he should wear the pants. I think he should take responsibility for his own life and actions. I fully realize men can be abused. You're searching for stuff.
We don't even know if this story is true.
Let us know when they find your friend buried under the floorboards and his girlfriend covered in blood doing a single person waltz around the living room.
Your friend's trapped in a Lifetime movie.
To be honest they sound codependent. They've broken up multiple times already and had various red flags when they were together (pregnancy fake, cheating, snooping, physical restraint) that would break up a normal relationship.
I would guess that neither has been comfortably single (as in, sleeping with no one at all) for more than a month at a time in their adult lives. No one else is probably willing to put up with their neurotic bullshit for very long though.
The reason it's victim blaming is because he's in an abusive relationship. Certainly he should have handled the situation a whole lot better, but when you're abused it's hard for the victim to break out of the relationship, and just telling him to grow a spine and take responsibility is just not going to help in situations like this. The victim has in a sense of way become brainwashed by the abuser over the years and has formed a co-dependency with them.
If thats not victim blaming I dont know wtf it is.
Spineless? No reason to just walk out? Yeah... Im sure all mistreated women would be also delited to hear your wisdom of how to get out of abusive relationships.
And you know?
The only thing we can say right now if that if THIS is true, the guy needs help, even psycholgy help (becuase he cant handle abusive relatioships), and need to get out of that relationship. Oh the guy cheated? Maybe he cheated becuase he needed love and still was scared shitless of her current girlfriend becuase of what she usually does? Shit like this sometimes happens, geto off you high horse (and i say this hating cheating, and in this same thread i have said i was really angry at a friend for doing it with her ex).
If we discover this is just the imagination of the OPs friend, then you can say whatever you want of the guy.
You can see I didnt call the girlfriend names or anything, becuase I still dont know if its true, so dont want to condemn her completely. Im just saying on my 3 posts in this thread, that if its true the guy needs help, thats it.
Another angle on the whole locked door thing is maybe the guy just didn't want to leave without his keys in hand so he could get back in later.
(Not that the original idea of being locked in is too strange to begin with.)
Strange story either way. Hope both parties involved turn out okay.
(Not that the original idea of being locked in is too strange to begin with.)
Strange story either way. Hope both parties involved turn out okay.
No one should be abused, man or woman.
Believe it or not, men can be abused by women too, & it doesn't exactly have to be physical. There's also mental & emotional abuse.
And not all men are exactly strong physically (or emotionally or mentally strong).
Believe it or not, men can be abused by women too, & it doesn't exactly have to be physical. There's also mental & emotional abuse.
And not all men are exactly strong physically (or emotionally or mentally strong).
If you're having some difficulty visualizing this as abuse because it's a dude, try looking at it this way: girlfriend tries to break up with boyfriend. He refuses to let her leave him and locked the door from the inside and hid the keys, then kept her there until she agreed to stay and they had sex. Sounds pretty bad, yeah? That's straying into 'the implication' territory