...but I'm gay and have a boyfriend.
This Albanian family is very interested in me. They want their daughter to meet me and see if we're a match. The daughter is interested too.
They approached my father about this. My father is now constantly calling me and asking me to plan a date.
I'm turning 35 this year. So my father is getting desperate because most straight men coming from my culture are married and have kids by this age.
This whole situation is very stressful because I don't want my father to know that I'm gay.
He's a very devout muslim and it would only cause big problems within the family. My mom knows that I'm gay and she told her sisters that as well. So they already stopped sending proposals to me.
Should I contact the girl and tell her that I'm gay? Maybe she'll be discrete about it.
Or should I go on a date and do or say things that might turn her off? My boyfriend doesn't want me to go on a date with her.
I cannot just say that I'm not interested. My father will get a fit. I've turned down way too many "potential wifes" in the past. I don't want that confrontation.
Maybe I should tell him that I already have a girlfriend and that she lives far away so he can't meet her?
Other people have/had this issue?
This Albanian family is very interested in me. They want their daughter to meet me and see if we're a match. The daughter is interested too.
They approached my father about this. My father is now constantly calling me and asking me to plan a date.
I'm turning 35 this year. So my father is getting desperate because most straight men coming from my culture are married and have kids by this age.
This whole situation is very stressful because I don't want my father to know that I'm gay.
He's a very devout muslim and it would only cause big problems within the family. My mom knows that I'm gay and she told her sisters that as well. So they already stopped sending proposals to me.
Should I contact the girl and tell her that I'm gay? Maybe she'll be discrete about it.
Or should I go on a date and do or say things that might turn her off? My boyfriend doesn't want me to go on a date with her.
I cannot just say that I'm not interested. My father will get a fit. I've turned down way too many "potential wifes" in the past. I don't want that confrontation.
Maybe I should tell him that I already have a girlfriend and that she lives far away so he can't meet her?
Other people have/had this issue?