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Meet a girl and find out she has a boyfriend. Do you still go for it?
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I go for it maybe she needs to upgrade. Can't be having an iPhone 6s in an X2 world
Biggest load of tosh I've ever heard. You barely know each other at that point. Destroying a relationship, that very well could be having just a rough patch, because you think you can do better is the height of arrogance.
I've been left by someone for someone in this exact way, only for them to fall apart 3 months later and my ex to want me back still almost 18 months later.
The grass isn't always greener, and equating your situation to an "Always" knowing you're fucking with peoples live is crap.
LOL
Until it happens to you, right? I mean what's to stop some other creeper with the same piss poor mentality from making moves on your girlfriend? I'm sure you would totally appreciate that...
The issue is black or white. You're the shady one.
Sounds like you aren't married yet. As long as you are cool with dudes trying to pick up your GF now, I guess your logic makes sense.
Chill tf down. All I'm advocating for is to follow your heart. I'm not even saying that OP should do anything. I'm just sick of seeing people but themselves on a moral high-horse because they wouldn't dare to try with a woman in a relationship. I'm not advocating home-wreckers, just follow your heart and you'd be surprised where it takes you.
Calling everyone who left their boyfriend/girlfriend for another person "arrogant" is priceless
I trust my partner wholeheartedly. I don't doubt her. She can have friends that she wants and do whatever she wants. But at the end of the day, I trust her and that's how a good relationship works.
That hasn't been said. The scumbag chasing a person already in a relationship is the arrogant one.
More than a few of my ex-GF's were in a relationship when I first met them, but I never tried to mess with their current relationship. If someone you're interested in comes to the conclusion they'd rather be with you, great. I think it's shitty to try to ruin someone else's relationship though.
The way it worked for me is that I told her how I felt while she was in a relationship. One month later she left the boyfriend and we were together. Is that such a bad thing? If I followed advice here, I would have never said anything and not been in a relationship with my best friend.
He's not following his heart though, he's following his dick. OP barely knows this girl beyond a few passing Hello's and being a bit of a Creepy perv in the office ffs.
Or you could have told how you felt when her relationship ended and you would probably be in the same position.
Most of the advice is based on the context of a guy barely speaking (if even speaking) to her trying to make a move already knowing she's taken and yet you come in with a completely different situation and the follow your heart line from Napoleon Dynamite. Give it a rest.
Why would I wait for her relationship to end? People settle. She would have settled for him if I didn't say how I felt.
Y'all are cold as fuck. You're not entitled to a woman because you're dating her. They are capable of making their own decisions ffs.
This thread isn't about you and your very specific set of circumstances and if your relationship is as good and secure as you say it is you don't really need to make the thread about you for reassurance so I'm kind of confused.
What the fuck are you even talking about? No one is saying someone is entitled to a woman. It's just about respecting someone's relationship.
Thread has said all that needs to be said, but I'll say it again anyway.
People in relationships are not fair game if you're interested in them.
If you really like this girl and can deal with the fact you can't peruse in that way then be her friend. If you can't separate your desires from your friendship, then it's probably best to step back.
She may break up with him in the future, she may even meet someone new that isn't you and her life could deviate, or you guys could end up together and the relationship could be terrible.
Do not try to "go for it", don't try to be anything more than a good friend.
Lmao, I love it when people talk like we live in Mad Max World.
People in relationships are not fair game if you're interested in them.
If you really like this girl and can deal with the fact you can't peruse in that way then be her friend. If you can't separate your desires from your friendship, then it's probably best to step back.
She may break up with him in the future, she may even meet someone new that isn't you and her life could deviate, or you guys could end up together and the relationship could be terrible.
Do not try to "go for it", don't try to be anything more than a good friend.
Lmao, I love it when people talk like we live in Mad Max World.
Nah. That's shitty to her current boyfriend and her if she wasn't already into me. I'd move on. Maybe things will work out, maybe they won't.
I've been in the position of being in a relationship with someone who had a "friend" that constantly told them they liked them and they should leave me for them. It's really shitty. Even with all that though, I don't think it's necessarily wrong to tell someone how you feel (although telling them and expecting them to act on it is, if you care about them you should want them to be happy first and foremost even if it's not with you).
I don't know you, and I don't know if all you really did was say that you liked her or if there was more going on. I don't know if she was unhappy in the relationship and would have left regardless, or any other circumstances.
I do think it's odd to assume that it's impossible things would have worked out the same way if you hadn't said anything. For all you know, things would have fallen apart naturally and you could have hit on her while she was single instead.
So you're saying you influenced her decision to end her relationship and then in the very next sentence claim women are capable of making their own decisions.
Yeah, you're right. I just mentioned my relationship and got attacked by a few posters so I've been acting overly defensive. My situation is different from OP's and shouldn't be compared. My bad.
Just like how that mean boyfriend was attacking you and getting in your way and you had to find a way, any way to remove him from the picture, eh? Even if that meant MURDER! Now he lies buried in the yard of the home you're about to move into. Under the Azaleas.
Sorry, this just came to me as a lifetime film and I had to share lol.
Bunch of insecure people in here. The boyfriend doesn't own this woman. Everyone is acting like OP is gonna move in and take advantage of this poor helpless woman. She makes her own decisions and if the offer from someone else is more appealing to her then everything that follows is her choice.
I'd avoid it personally. If she/he is in a relationship, then leaves their partner for you and sees you both in a bar. It can either go one of two ways, more likely the way that involves bottles being thrown around.
This kind of stuff happens all the time, but I'll say "tread carefully" to the OP. These situations can always get way too messy. I say that as someone who tried dating a married 26-year-old woman when I was 19. Looking back on it now, I don't know what the fuck I was thinking.
A friend of mine literally ended a marriage by going after a married woman.
This girl's not married by the sounds of it, but still...she's with someone. Probably fairly serious if she's bringing pictures of him to her work desk too.
It's fine to chat and be friendly, I guess, but if you can't hide your lust, I don't think this is worth it unless you think there's a serious chance of her actually breaking up with her boyfriend because it's not going well or whatever.
Eh...it's your life. It's her life. Just be aware of the potential consequences and how you COULD be perceived by her or by others in your company who could find out about whatever you're thinking about.
A friend of mine literally ended a marriage by going after a married woman.
This girl's not married by the sounds of it, but still...she's with someone. Probably fairly serious if she's bringing pictures of him to her work desk too.
It's fine to chat and be friendly, I guess, but if you can't hide your lust, I don't think this is worth it unless you think there's a serious chance of her actually breaking up with her boyfriend because it's not going well or whatever.
Eh...it's your life. It's her life. Just be aware of the potential consequences and how you COULD be perceived by her or by others in your company who could find out about whatever you're thinking about.
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Go for it dude. He'll just get a no, I'm with someone. Now if said guy continues to harrass her we're gonna have problems.
Just imagine if everything worked this way, having no respect or obligation to anything or anyone. It's all just decisions and choices dude. Who am I to say what people do? Especially if it is to your benefit, right?
Sociopath logic.
Just chill. I told a girl that I had feelings for her while she had a boyfriend. She had feelings for me back and that's why she left her boyfriend. I didn't force her out of anything. We've been together and happy for years now. There's no drama or anything like that.
right? he stalked out this girl's desk with the intention of anonymously "leaving a piece of chocolate" without any reason whatsoever.
To bold -I'm talking about the person who comes into someone else's relationship, thinking they can do better, and fucking things up. I do think that's an arrogant view to take.
And yeah, you are talking about home wrecking when you say follow your heart always and don't let a temporary partner get in the way. Like maybe we should view your relationship as just waiting for the better person to come along and replace you?
It's a horrible, selfish way to look at other peoples relationships. If you're so stuck on them, wait, or you know move along.
Your friend is an idiot, don't listen to him. Leave this girl the hell alone and find a love interest that is single and unattached
I honestly think that if you really love someone and all you're doing is silently waiting for them to become single, you are making the biggest mistake of your life. Tell the person how you feel and then move on.
Keeping shit bottled in makes people miserable. I know a lot of people who have incredible regrets about not telling a girl or a guy how they felt at the right time. Stop generalizing and viewing everything as black and white. Life is complicated. Stop acting like it's simple.
I didn't think there was. It was a complete joke. For someone so confident about the whole situation, you seem fairly insecure.