I've always wondered this about our particular demographic. Did your SO change their name? Did you care if they did or didn't? Why or why not?
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Married-Era, did your significant other change their surname? Did you?
- Thread starter TerminusFox
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Yes, but I wouldn't have cared if she didn't want to. I actually would have preferred to take her last name.
Nope. She kept hers and I was totally cool with it. It's a lame tradition to change surnames IMO, especially the patriarchal pressure for women to the the ones to do it in heterosexual marriages.
Nope, my wife kept her surname. I'm pretty progressive, but for half a second my ego was bruised. Then I realized that's fucking stupid and got over it.
I wanted to change our last names into a stupid mashup (no hyphen!) but she wanted my last name. Oh, what could have been.
My wife did... She said it was a big bonus that her new initials were "BJ". I'd have been okay with our last names either way.
LOL our wives were total opposites.
LOL our wives were total opposites.
She did yes. I think once you have kids its weird for everyone to have different last names but people can do whatever they want.
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As I understand it, a good chunk of the women I know who kept their surnames, let all of their kids have their father's surname and that's what's most commonly practiced.
Never heard of everyone picking and choosing
Nope she didn't. Anyway in Quebec women keep their last name when they get married. It has been like tbat since the 80's iirc.
I kept my last name. My husband didn't want me to change it and I didn't want to change it either.
Haha yeah she was just tired of it after high school and college. I guess guys try to use it as a pickup line? Seems like it wouldn't be very effective to me.
Getting married in a couple months. My fiancee is changing her name to mine, mostly just because hers is considerably more generic than mine.
Yeah, to me that is weird. I'd want my kid to share my last name. But again, do whatever you want.
Yes, but my wife made that decision herself. I would have been fine with her keeping her last name.
My wife didn't. She said she didn't really care either way at the time and I certainly didn't push for it. It's never made much sense to me.
My wife took my last name.
I originally said I didn't care, but the more I thought about it, the more I did care. Her father is a self-admitted asshole and is proud of it, a racist, a bigot, and cheated on my wife's mother (and is now married to the other cheater).
I don't want that kind of garbage as my last name.
I originally said I didn't care, but the more I thought about it, the more I did care. Her father is a self-admitted asshole and is proud of it, a racist, a bigot, and cheated on my wife's mother (and is now married to the other cheater).
I don't want that kind of garbage as my last name.
My wife did not take my last name because then her name would have been really, really stupid. Like Stacy Stacy or Erin Erin.
No to both. It's kind of a pointless hassle, plus if you are any sort of freelancer your name is your brand (as dumb as that sounds).
I had a co-worker change his name from Wiener to a better, made up name when he got married. If that name wasn't already ruined before, Anthony Wiener kind of ran it into the ground.
I had a co-worker change his name from Wiener to a better, made up name when he got married. If that name wasn't already ruined before, Anthony Wiener kind of ran it into the ground.
Nope - we both kept our same last names. We decided early on that it's not worth the hassle of changing your surname just to adhere to an archaic societal norm.
My wife did the exact opposite, she took my name because it was generic and easier to spell/pronounce then hers and she was sick of it. Now when she gives her name no one ever asks her "say that again?" several times followed by "okaaaayyyy spell that for me"
I can definitely see that being the case with a hard to understand name. Both ours are easy though (White, Carlyle).
She kept hers. It's cooler anyways. And we did try it at least once. But the lines were too long at the agency. fuck that. lol
She did but I told her she didn't have to. After dealing with the giant hassle it was she said she should havee just kept her last name.
My wife wasn't fond of her maiden name so she took mine, and I wouldn't have been upset if she wanted to keep her name.
Changing your name is a pain in the ass though, just FYI. So much bureaucracy to wade through when you do it.
Changing your name is a pain in the ass though, just FYI. So much bureaucracy to wade through when you do it.
My wife did yes. We never had a discussion about it she just did it, I'm assuming because she wanted to? I wouldn't have cared either way though.
We both thought hyphenated names are stupid and knew we wanted kids that wouldn't have to deal with separate names, so we took mine. In the end, we just liked my name more over hers.
She officially made a compound name(Her maiden name hyphenated with my last name). She agreed our children will have just my last name for a couple reasons.
My wife kept her last name. There was a bit of pressure from our parents, and it didn't really matter to either of us. Will probably give our kids both of our last names (i.e. combining with a hypen). Hers is one syllable and mine is two so it wouldn't be a mouthful.
My wife changed hers after some deliberation. I did care, but really shouldn't have. it was her decision. My last name is Strike. So it wasn't all bad!
I know the process was a pain for her though, so I can see why people choose not to.
I know the process was a pain for her though, so I can see why people choose not to.
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Btw, it took like a week to put through the necessary changes to documents and stuff to change my wife's name. People are really overstating the difficulty here.
