There has been an outpouring of support for victims that have come forward. However at the same time I've notice a pattern of sorts, where some people's first response is to not express support for the victim or decry sexual violence but their disappointment that one of their favorites was outed as a rapist/abuser. Or an expression of hope that their other favorite artist isn't next.
I don't know why but it just strikes me as odd because it almost feels like the focus is being taken away from the victim's story and ordeal and centering it around yourself and your own feelings. There might be a token acknowledgement of the victim's ordeal but instead the focus is on the poster. Some examples from the Nas thread
I don't want to single out anyone but that was the most recent thread so I pulled a few quotes. The same can be found in almost any thread concerning #metoo where the abuser was a popular artist.
Can't we do better? I think #metoo should be about the victims, not anyone's disappointment that their false idol turned out to be just that.
I also want to say something about people denying that certain allegations are true (like Stan Lee's situation). None of us were there and we don't know the people involved. However at the same time, it takes a lot for a victim to come forward and false accusations are extremely rare. If you personally don't believe it, then just keep that opinion to yourself. Whether it be on here, twitter or facebook. The victim involved in these cases probably won't ever read it. But at the same time, its likely that someone who was sexually abused/raped will be reading it and might think, "If people don't believe her story, why would they believe mine?"
I don't know why but it just strikes me as odd because it almost feels like the focus is being taken away from the victim's story and ordeal and centering it around yourself and your own feelings. There might be a token acknowledgement of the victim's ordeal but instead the focus is on the poster. Some examples from the Nas thread
Thats a bad look...first Fab ..now Nas...Damn.
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Obv. Assuming this is true.
Terrible stuff! Of all people.. Nas. I'm getting rid of his music I have at home. What a loser.
Fucking loved Nas. This kills me. Well, fuck him then. Poor woman had to deal with some bullshit. Looks like I'll be skipping both kanye and his album this summer
I don't want to single out anyone but that was the most recent thread so I pulled a few quotes. The same can be found in almost any thread concerning #metoo where the abuser was a popular artist.
Can't we do better? I think #metoo should be about the victims, not anyone's disappointment that their false idol turned out to be just that.
I also want to say something about people denying that certain allegations are true (like Stan Lee's situation). None of us were there and we don't know the people involved. However at the same time, it takes a lot for a victim to come forward and false accusations are extremely rare. If you personally don't believe it, then just keep that opinion to yourself. Whether it be on here, twitter or facebook. The victim involved in these cases probably won't ever read it. But at the same time, its likely that someone who was sexually abused/raped will be reading it and might think, "If people don't believe her story, why would they believe mine?"