fucking LOL. get out bro. you need someone who actually works with you like a team, not be on the opposing side.She refuses to admit we have a problem. I am the PROBLEM according to her.
fucking LOL. get out bro. you need someone who actually works with you like a team, not be on the opposing side.She refuses to admit we have a problem. I am the PROBLEM according to her.
I edited my post. I trust her aunt maybe she can talk her into counseling.
No, you should tell your parents an siblings. Her family is unlikely to take your side on any issue.
I edited my post. I trust her aunt maybe she can talk her into counseling.
This isn't helpful.
Also you sound like a monumental pushover. Something to work on for the future.
I'm not. I've never been in a relationship like this.
Also you sound like a monumental pushover. Something to work on for the future.
Also you sound like a monumental pushover. Something to work on for the future.
Also you sound like a monumental pushover. Something to work on for the future.
Also you sound like a monumental pushover. Something to work on for the future.
What do you think would be the most likely outcome if her aunt gets involved?I edited my post. I trust her aunt maybe she can talk her into counseling.
Nervermind the fact that they have kids that the OP actually cares about maintaining a relationship with.it's really tough when its your first time in an abusive relationship, because you're often caught offguard and don't know better. after that,with most future relationships you can easily spot the behaviors and signals.
This isn't remotely funny. I hope she doesn't find this thread
If you want to try that, you can try it after things are in motion. But if you tell her now it'll just give her a chance to start piling up bullshit to use against you. Document and talk to a divorce lawyer now. Follow their advice.I edited my post. I trust her aunt maybe she can talk her into counseling.
Sounds like she's got bipolar or borderline personality disorder, and you're a doormat. Bad combo sorry
If you want to try that, you can try it after things are in motion. But if you tell her now it'll just give her a chance to start piling up bullshit to use against you. Document and talk to a divorce lawyer now. Follow their advice.
I don't know if taking the kids is good or bad for your legal situation, but a lawyer will. I don't know if you already have enough evidence to secure custody, but a lawyer will.
You can try to help your wife later. Right now you need to help yourself and, most importantly, your children.
I took up working out. I'm in ok shape. She said I was doing it to find other women. Basically what little free time I have I supposed to be devoted entirely to her.
Yeah you're ignorant af about abuse
Also you sound like a monumental pushover. Something to work on for the future.
She refuses to admit we have a problem. I am the PROBLEM according to her.
Lastly, I've had to call the police on her twice when she flys off the handle. I don't know how I got here but here I am. I don't know what to do.
Last week, I got home from work and started cleaning. She got upset said I was silently criticisizing her for not cleaning.
Doubtful.. and then you'd have more of a monetary anchor around your neck.
Bruh, come on. We're 6 pages deep.
At this point you're trolling. Get help.
Ok, yew right. SorryBruh, come on. We're 6 pages deep.
NOTHING MAKES HER HAPPY EXCEPT SEEING YOU HURT.
I promise I'm not.
Jesus... are you reading any of the responses in here?
Yup
Isn't it weird how some people can't admit they're wrong? Even about silly, trivial stuff? Like. It costs nothing. Not like I'm going to think less of them, I *already* believe they're wrong, so if anything, it's all upside for them.
I had an ex like that. And she wasn't really toxic or mean or anything. There was just an enormous disparity between how often I apologized and admitted fault, and how often she did.
She's berating you about getting a haircut and you think something as complex as a house is going to magically wipe that away?
Shame, and the avoidance of shame is an extremely powerful motivator to be obstinate and perfectionist.Isn't it weird how some people can't admit they're wrong? Even about silly, trivial stuff? Like. It costs nothing. Not like I'm going to think less of them, I *already* believe they're wrong, so if anything, it's all upside for them.
This is a worse idea than "let's have another kid to save our marriage."
Lol. Yes saddle yourself with a huge investment she's also tied into.
This is a worse idea than "let's have another kid to save our marriage."
Understand that this sounds so bad that it honestly sounds like trolling.