I don't know man, I don't see any of the above in what your actually posted. Again, I don't know how to interpret this any different than whining about how white privilege makes it difficult to prevent minorities from guilting white people into doing things they don't want to do:
Get some rest, get back to this if you want to. Or not, it's fine.
No worries, there is no animosity or ill will here.
Edit: here's an idea, replace "white" above with "straight" and "brown" with "gay". I think that might help to clarify how absurd I believe that quote is. You'd be saying that straight people have to worry about gay people guilting and manipulating them into doing things they don't want to do to avoid being accused of bigotry. That's silly.
I've gotten some rest, and I think why I said what I said - in the mangled way that I said it - had a lot to do with me being home with my parents right now, and caring for their psychological well-being. Basically, outside of also being very depressed, I was bored out of my mind, and perhaps a bit too eager to jump into something intellectually interesting.
I don't think anything that I initially wrote - when I wrote it - was particularly interesting, and to the extent that there was something interesting "there", I could probably re-state it. So, discard whatever I initially said.
I saw a topic about "white people feeling odd about having a strong reaction to being called racist" and thought that it was an interesting thought to pursue, along the lines of what I think is interesting about psychology, sociology, power, shame, and everything else that makes social interactions so interesting.
I think my primary fault was to not give enough context to where I was coming from. I'm not known enough as a poster on this forum that I'm immediately given the benefit of the doubt when I post, and that's perfectly understandable.
That said, I also understand that non-white people might be a little tired - or at the very least very wary - when someone who looks like me starts talking about race in this very abstract way, that borders on novelty.
White people are a bit unique - as a group - when it comes to racial discussion, because we can always "peace out" if our argumentation starts ruffling feathers or gets too difficult, and return to the safety of a life that isn't under the immediate threat of racial hatred.
For people who are non-white (or, at the very least, can't "pass" as white), there is no real escape. You have no choice but to let the racism of others dictate the fabric of your life. Understandably, this informs how charitable you're going to feel about the next "woke" white person you interact with.
This connects a little with your (quite sweet) attempt to translate issues of racism to an LGBTQ+-specific form in your last post. But the truth is that racism and discrimination by sexuality/gender-identity/etc are fundamentally different.
If you don't pass as white, you don't pass as white, and that's that. It doesn't matter how you dress, how much money you make, how you speak or what hobbies you engage with. If you don't pass as white, you will always be treated less by a very significant portion of this world; both by violent, in-your-face-interactions but also (and perhaps in a more detrimental way) through all the small moments that make you feel crazy and paranoid if you were to address them individually.
LGBTQ+ people - on the other hand - are fundamentally different in the sense that there is an opportunity "to pass", in the sense that you emulate ways of being (like an actor) to the point that you become the group you're emulating.
Most non-straight people are quite aware of the mechanics of passing; some reject it completely, while others make the decision to live out the majority of their lives in the safety of not being seen.
I've been thinking throughout the day about an example, or some kind of thought-experiment that would make sense for someone who isn't white, but is straight, and the closest I can come up with is if you imagine a world wherein non-white people had an octopus-like ability to (through immense, and constant concentration) could pass successfully as white.
If such a thing was possible, you would probably have a pretty significant share of non-white people opting to live like this, in the same way a lot of LGBTQ+ live. It's a miserable existence, but if there was a similar "out" for black people that exists for me to temporarily present as straight, I bet a lot of black people would do so, and that would probably impact your current feelings of community, solidarity and "we're-all-in-this-together".
I've known I was gay since I was 11, and visibility (and accountability) has always been important to me, and even more so (perhaps exponentially so!) as I've gotten older. My feelings about the LGBTQ+ community is very complicated, and the ability that queer people have to "pass silently" has often felt very infuriating to me, and - in some way - made me long for a situation where queerness operated in the same way that non-whiteness does, where there is no opportunity to disappear, and you sorta have to get along with strangers purely because there is no emergency exit.
Your original reply to me was a little pointed and sarcastic, but I was glad that you followed up, and chose to engage with my mangled post through an edit.
It's often very easy to fire off a quick reply, and as someone who often edits my posts for clarity (outside of the garbage-post that generated this situation) I feel a certain amount of interpersonal warmth that you went back and added some additional thoughts through your edit.
This is a pretty lengthy reply (and, I suppose atypical, too, in the way this forum operates), but it's been on my mind for the last two days. You gave me the "easy out" by indicating that I don't have to give a reply, and while that's very gracious of you, I do feel it is important to reply, if I have the time and energy to do so.
If nothing else then for the benefit of people who just read this forum.
cheers; love.
Edit for Internet-people: This reply is already pretty complex, but when I'm talking about an LGBTQ+ perspective, you have to be a little charitable as a reader, and understand that I can't give voice to the full spectrum of your beauty, at all times, and still make a coherent point (and in particular when LGBTQ+ intersects with concerns that are rooted in ideas of racial identity. Basically, I am aware that being black and LGBTQ+ compounds two separate, complex issues, and that they intermingle, as well, into their own unique complexity.
But I don't think I could take that level of complexity, and also manage to make a post that would make any sense at all, perhaps not even to myself. So, be a little charitable here, when I talk about race and LGBTQ+ as two separate things :)