Instead of blocking him, could OP have eventually introduced some good films to the friend and broadened his tastes?
Pretty much.
I can see why the OP would be annoyed, but this is basically a young adult being a young adult. It's okay for them not to see that as clearly as you do. Getting defensive over it stands out more to me.
I mean, there's something to be said about dating people who have similar interests as you (or, at the very least, aren't actively repulsed by the things you're into). It's strange to me how so many couples I know who break up don't have this one core bit of foundation.
In that sense, it's not so much about anime in itself. OP, maybe I wouldn't have taken it as personally (at my current age, 20-something Roy definitely would have), but your feelings are valid. And they're not strange. Remove "anime," your expressed a "like" for something, and this potential romantic(?) person expressed a revulsion for it, and in a way that was ironically quite childish.
And besides, this was the initial stages of a Grindr meeting. This is the. time. to weed these things out.
To answer your question, I don't get picked on for my likes very much; but that might be because my online profiles are pretty detailed, so if it gets to the point where we're talking, you generally have a sense of what I'm about. The few times it has happened though, especially in the last few years, these people are usually met with a block and not a second more of my mental energy.
Yeah, that's what stands out as weird to me. I thought it was common knowledge that people knew Ghibli was a tier all on its own as respected films that happen to be animated.Yeah that's what I was gonna come in this thread to say. I don't tend to even class Ghibli as anime.
A lot of people don't even consider Ghibli or Miyazaki films as anime, they're just Japanese/international animated films. But this guy was a weirdo and had the wrong impression lol
yeah, your mother's ex was a wordly business execWhat? My mums ex who was a business man/councilor and into arty stuff (was 60 at the time) took us to watch Spirited Away at the cinema, it's not exactly otaku level anime; there is a reason Disney picked up a ton of their stuff and they have some decent Western voice actors.
It's common knowledge on this nerd websiteYeah, that's what stands out as weird to me. I thought it was common knowledge that people knew Ghibli was a tier all on its own as respected films that happen to be animated.
I have no problem holding OP to a higher level of accountability as they're both 10 years older and making it a public thingIt can happen to anyone and often does. But it feels like holding OP at a higher level of accountability for managing their feelings (or the kind of apparently lack thereof) versus acknowledging that someone said something that can understandably be considered insulting is a bit unfair.
It's common knowledge on this nerd website
It is not common knowledge to the average person
I have no problem holding OP to a higher level of accountability as they're both 10 years older and making it a public thing
You keep saying mildly annoyed. This ain't something a mildly annoyed person would say. A mildly annoyed person wouldn't make a spectacle on a video game forum and then double down lmaoI'm sorry I don't meet your standards of maturity by posting an mildly annoyed anecdote anonymously on a forum. May we all learn from a true adult such as yourself!
Lol excuse me? I was so taken aback. Do people in 2022 really still look down on others for liking "anime movies" let alone fucking award winning Miyazaki movies? The nerve of this kid condescending me. Like you're not impressive Mr Princeton. Everyone in this city is a software engineer at big tech and to come after me at 21 years old when I'm a rising 4th year phd student in computational biology and tell me you can't enjoy "anime movies" because you have to be an adult. I just can't lmfao. Blocked him on everything.
It can happen to anyone and often does. But it feels like holding OP at a higher level of accountability for managing their feelings (or the kind of apparently lack thereof) versus acknowledging that someone said something that can understandably be considered insulting is a bit unfair.
OP might be right, but can we let someone's legitimate feelings get in the way of pursuing a thread backfire? Ask ERA to not be ERA challenge, ultra hard mode.
I have no problem holding OP to a higher level of accountability as they're both 10 years older and making it a public thing
You keep saying mildly annoyed. This ain't something a mildly annoyed person would say. A mildly annoyed person wouldn't make a spectacle on a video game forum and then double down lmao
When did I say anything about sanctityYeah, because if there's something we shouldn't disturb it's the sanctity of a video game forum.
You keep saying mildly annoyed. This ain't something a mildly annoyed person would say. A mildly annoyed person wouldn't make a spectacle on a video game forum and then double down lmao
I disagree, Disney's distribution and Spirited Away's Oscar win helped it get recognized considerably. People might not know every film but they know the likes of Spirited Away and Totoro.It's common knowledge on this nerd website
It is not common knowledge to the average person
PLEASE show us pics.Don't worry OP, I'm 33 and wear a Levi's denim jacket with a massive Pikachu on the back
I still don't think most people are aware of what "a Miyazaki movie" is. Maybe it's different in the US and that's a mainstream name? It's very likely not the case among Rwandan zoomers going by this interaction :PI disagree, Disney's distribution and Spirited Away's Oscar win helped it get recognized considerably. People might not know every film but they know the likes of Spirited Away and Totoro.
Ah yes, listing all the ways you're calm. The #1 sign of a person who is very calmSurprise! I'm sitting here on my couch with a 68bpm heartbeat (checking my Apple Watch) and drinking coffee while doomscrolling shitposts on Era. I don't find myself anything elevated above mildly annoyed about that kid, I just get sassy in my forum posts because I'm a smarmy queer on the internet when people aren't polite and I slam when people throw punches. Like I said, the only thing above mildly annoyed that I am is because of beyond stupid response posts like yours that try to claim my emotions and judge my personality based off anonymous anecdotes on the internet. And even then, I will sip my morning coffee, not raise my heartbeat, and probably watch a YouTube video to start off my morning once this thread has run its course. Then probably never think of you again.
I forgot, you're the owner of my emotions and their labels. How could I?
I don't think people really give a fuck about the animation Oscar other than people already into animationI disagree, Disney's distribution and Spirited Away's Oscar win helped it get recognized considerably. People might not know every film but they know the likes of Spirited Away and Totoro.
To be fair you ARE kinda provoking him. You can't really come in, call someone over the top, imply they're trying to mack on someone much younger then them and expect them to just let it slide.Ah yes, listing all the ways you're calm. The #1 sign of a person who is very calm
And I think even most people that know Totoro or Spirited Away don't actually know they are Ghibli films.Like I'm not saying people don't know a few Ghibli films, just that it's not common knowledge that they're high art/not your average anime
I disagree, Disney's distribution and Spirited Away's Oscar win helped it get recognized considerably. People might not know every film but they know the likes of Spirited Away and Totoro.
Oh yeah, I agree, I'm mostly thinking of terms of the US. I can definitely see it being different in other countries.I still don't think most people are aware of what "a Miyazaki movie" is. Maybe it's different in the US and that's a mainstream name? It's very likely not the case among Rwandan zoomers going by this interaction :P.
Spirited Away is pretty old now that I think about it.
21 y/o are "young adults" until they do something we decide they should be held accountable for. Someone in their 20's can do or say a mean thing the same way an 18 or 15 year old can, the same way a 45 y/o can. What OP shared indicated that he (the 21 y/o) was being a bit condescending, but it feels just as appropriate to name the 21 y/o as condescending as it does to let OP know to cool off a bit after someone is a bit of a dick.
It can happen to anyone and often does. But it feels like holding OP at a higher level of accountability for managing their feelings (or the kind of apparently lack thereof) versus acknowledging that someone said something that can understandably be considered insulting is a bit unfair.
Tbh OP, what was more condescending was listing your accolades. That's much more of a turn off. Both of you seem on your high horses. Personally speaking, I could never associate myself with people like that and to go a bit further, I feel like that's a common theme with Resetera. A lot of pompous big tech/finance bragging about their careers.