Why take a birth control pill if it kills her libido and you don't have sex anymore?As lackluster as it was before. My girlfriend uses Nexplanon as a birth control solution and a much needed mood stabilizer. It's also tanked her overall libido significantly so we're not really intimate all that much anymore anyway. Nothing new there.
We have gone from 2-3 times a week to 3-4 times a week. I received a heavenly hour long bj last night with lots of edging and ball sucking. And goddamn her dirty talk is off the fucking charts. My wife makes Xev Bellringer sound like a goddamn saint. After 20 years together, we really know each others sexuality/kinks as well as we know our own. My wife even has the timing down. Like, what to say and when if. It's amazing.
Same is going on in my home. It's tough being caught between understanding and frustrated. Such is life.Less to almost dead, eventhough right now she's living with me because she was hit pretty bad financially (and by extension mentally), this whole situation has really gotten to her and she is more distant than before due to that.
Pretty much, I am being understanding. But since this is a new relationship (though I've known her for a while) I fear the spark will fizzle out quick if it stays this way. I can already feel her moving further away from me romantically. Especially considering she's living with me now and sees me everyday, and it won't be long before we start seeing each other differently if there's no intimacy while we spend the most time with each other.Same is going on in my home. It's tough being caught between understanding and frustrated. Such is life.
I hear you on all that, and am basically time-traveled to a few months ahead of you perhaps where we've lived together for a few months now (moved in at about 8 months of dating), and basically all intimacy and closeness is gone. I've watched as every bit of intimacy we had slowly eroded, from the sex to simple hand-holding and just enjoying each other's company.Pretty much, I am being understanding. But since this is new relationship (though I've known her for a while) it feels like the spark will fizzle out quick if it stays this way. Especially considering she's living with me now and sees me everyday, and it won't be long before we start seeing each other differently if there's no intimacy while we spend the most time with each other.
Kind of the downside that also happens when you move in too quick before the relationship gets there in terms of balance between reliance and independence. But in this case there was no other choice really else she'd have been homeless/unable to sustain herself.
Unfortunately, lowered/dead libido is a known side effect of birth control pills and antidepressants. People who are affected have to swap brands to find one that doesn't do that to them, and it's a long and tedious process.Why take a birth control pill if it kills her libido and you don't have sex anymore?
I mentioned mood stabilization for a reason, she has always had highly irregular and overly frequent periods that would negatively affect her mood more than what most other women experience. The way I see it, less sex is better than her having overly frequent negative mood swings that we're actively eroding our relationship.Why take a birth control pill if it kills her libido and you don't have sex anymore?
It is similar. Even little things like hand holding and cuddling is gone, and I'm trying hard to be understanding. I just hope it's a phase but the longer she stays with me the more it'll be like this and from the looks of it, she's here to stay for 2-3 months. Or maybe I'm wrong and things will improve.I hear you on all that, and am basically time-traveled to a few months ahead of you perhaps where we've lived together for a few months now (moved in at about 8 months of dating), and basically all intimacy and closeness is gone. I've watched as every bit of intimacy we had slowly eroded, from the sex to simple hand-holding and just enjoying each other's company.
It's tough watching things fall apart in slow motion, but yah. I dunno. Maybe you'r situation is a bit different from mine, or a lot different, but it sucks. Best of luck.
Same -- all gone. I feel ignored and alone a lot of the time, even though we spend all our time in the same physical space. Its only gotten worse the longer we've spent living together.It is similar. Even little things like hand holding and cuddling is gone, and I'm trying hard to be understanding. I just hope it's a phase but the longer she stays with me the more it'll be like this and from the looks of it, she's here to stay for 2-3 months. Or many I'm wrong and things will improve.