The fight that started it was a couple years before the relationship/marriage ended, it was the second time i discovered i was cheated on.
A few weeks earlier i brought one of my employees home for dinner, he was a nice chap who did good work and i felt like showing him a little reconnaissance.
It happened that somehow him and my SO tied up knots that night, i don't know how they exchanged numbers/emails...
She had a "lady's night with her cousin and friends", and would stay at her cousin's who lived close to her office, i know it's important to get fresh air and leave the routine, so of course i did not object.
The day after the cousin called me, asking us for dinner the next weekend, i was delighted, they are so nice, and i asked how was last night... the answer was along the line "oh the episodes were not so great... so you know we love [cannot remember the series i was in shock] ? we'll have to talk about that sunday"
It was just surreal. I called one of the friends of the party, the one i know, who spilled the beans because she was just sick of what was happening.
I called my wife at work, told her straight that i discovered what happened and which whom. Of course i yelled, i was absolutely mad about it. We both went back home, she managed to convince me it was a fluke, that she was very sorry... she didn't know the guy for long since i introduced the guy. I had a talk with my employee, told him to mind his own business, trying to be as courteous as one can be in such situation, i knew he fell for seduction, and made him move to a division far from me (he was the loner kind of guy, the kind who never got a date at 25).
Fast forward a year, my SO asks me for marriage (yeah, that way around), and i stupidly accept...
Fast forward a year, we are making plans to have our first child, thinking about getting a new apartment suited for it...
Fast forward a week, her cousin calls me to warn me my wife is cheating on me with her driving licence teacher (which i paid for, of course)... i call her, and tell her it's finished. I was not even mad, just severely depressed that time.
It took two years from separation to end of procedure, it was painful... far less than if we had a child, it would have destroyed me.
It turns out she had the thrill of flirtation, she called it soft heart, all i see is i was robbed of my prime for being a father, i just cannot give myself to anyone any more.
Buuuut, in my process of bettering myself, i discovered new people and new arts, fell in love with Ballet for example :) ... and of course i started again playing games, hobby i could only indulge myself with a couple hours during weekends, before SO woke up.
A few weeks earlier i brought one of my employees home for dinner, he was a nice chap who did good work and i felt like showing him a little reconnaissance.
It happened that somehow him and my SO tied up knots that night, i don't know how they exchanged numbers/emails...
She had a "lady's night with her cousin and friends", and would stay at her cousin's who lived close to her office, i know it's important to get fresh air and leave the routine, so of course i did not object.
The day after the cousin called me, asking us for dinner the next weekend, i was delighted, they are so nice, and i asked how was last night... the answer was along the line "oh the episodes were not so great... so you know we love [cannot remember the series i was in shock] ? we'll have to talk about that sunday"
It was just surreal. I called one of the friends of the party, the one i know, who spilled the beans because she was just sick of what was happening.
I called my wife at work, told her straight that i discovered what happened and which whom. Of course i yelled, i was absolutely mad about it. We both went back home, she managed to convince me it was a fluke, that she was very sorry... she didn't know the guy for long since i introduced the guy. I had a talk with my employee, told him to mind his own business, trying to be as courteous as one can be in such situation, i knew he fell for seduction, and made him move to a division far from me (he was the loner kind of guy, the kind who never got a date at 25).
Fast forward a year, my SO asks me for marriage (yeah, that way around), and i stupidly accept...
Fast forward a year, we are making plans to have our first child, thinking about getting a new apartment suited for it...
Fast forward a week, her cousin calls me to warn me my wife is cheating on me with her driving licence teacher (which i paid for, of course)... i call her, and tell her it's finished. I was not even mad, just severely depressed that time.
It took two years from separation to end of procedure, it was painful... far less than if we had a child, it would have destroyed me.
It turns out she had the thrill of flirtation, she called it soft heart, all i see is i was robbed of my prime for being a father, i just cannot give myself to anyone any more.
Buuuut, in my process of bettering myself, i discovered new people and new arts, fell in love with Ballet for example :) ... and of course i started again playing games, hobby i could only indulge myself with a couple hours during weekends, before SO woke up.