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A good friend might lose his job because he was caught motioning for me to look at a woman at work, which made her uncomfortable
- Thread starter BlackFyre
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Super unprofessional in an open office environment. I think firing would be a tad much, but he should definitely get a warning. The woman was literally just existing, is new to the job and environment, and doesn't want to worry about who is pointing and staring at her (in a sexual way, no less) when she's not looking. It's unfair to her.
You are such a disappointment.
Why do you post like this? Take some time to think about why you get banned frequently. Take some time to think about why you don't fit in. Make some changes man. Be better.
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The woman told her co-workers which led to: "Oh! I know him" and so on...
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Lol. No
That dude is absolutely nasty. I see him around and just avoid him.
If man can't enjoy the sight of a woman without childishly altering a friend at work of all places, man deserves whatever is coming
Microwave some spicy candy and have the entire building shutdown right before he is fired to distract management.
Resetera, where everyone brags that they have big ass red sacs.
Or as I said much much much earlier in this very thread.
Keep it out of the bar too.
I mean, that absolutely warranted an HR warning. Just from the HR perspective, it's a risk to workplace cohesion if he can't keep his horniness to himself. Whether or not it's firing-worthy depends on the rest of his history with the company, which it sounds like it wasn't. I get being uncomfortable with the whole office knowing, but that's what happens. People should let it go eventually if he behaves better going forward, but really it sounds like everyone's responding like they should to his behavior.
Misogynists would rather play the victim card themselves, and unfortunately there are always other misogynists providing support. It's especially easy with today's internet to find a social bubble that provide the like-minded opinions they seek.
Unfortunately, instead of choosing to learn, they can easily find validation for the inappropriate behavior.
As a state worker who has had to take sexual harassment training every year for the last 10 years, this is textbook. Grow up, breh.
Sounds to me like this isn't the first time he has harassed someone at work.
Whatever. You wanna oggle people at a bar with your buddies that's on you. Either way don't lose your job.
and OP knows it, which is why OP thinks "good friend" might actually lose his job instead of just being reprimanded
The other day a guy i work with did something similar. She was behind us and we saw her as we got into the elevator. We exit at the same floor and so she's walking behind us. He starts talking about her in hushed tones as she trails us. I'm thinking to myself "dude stfu." I wouldnt have minded discussing how pretty he thought she was... just maybe later when she's not within earshot.
Lmao. This plus the avatar of the person you're replying to makes me think you know each other.
If she's such an objectivly perfect 10 that any heterosexual man would notice it, surely there was no reason for your friend to point it out, particularly since you're married. You could have both noticed her, thought she looks pretty, and moved on with your day without having to share your thoughts on it.
It's almost like that was never really the point.
Some men have been so poorly socialized that they think communal or shared objectification of a woman is a good group bonding activity. You're wrong. HR was doing their jobs by trying to teach basic social norms and simple concepts like empathy. The kind of thing you're really supposed to know by 30.
It's almost like that was never really the point.
Some men have been so poorly socialized that they think communal or shared objectification of a woman is a good group bonding activity. You're wrong. HR was doing their jobs by trying to teach basic social norms and simple concepts like empathy. The kind of thing you're really supposed to know by 30.
I like how he's so undeniably nasty but directed sexism and casual defense of your wrongful actions is so acceptable. At least that guy isn't hurting anyone. To this new coworker of yours, you and your friend are the nasty ones in need of avoidance.
I'm sorry your friend may lose their job, in today's climate that's a tough gig, but I'm sorry to say it honestly reads to me like something from a High School. It's a painfully immature comment to make and incredibly disrespectful. That shit really doesn't fly anywhere and if it does fly, well... that doesn't sound like the nicest work environment.
I'm sure he didn't mean anything by it, but he's going to have to take this as lesson learned and grow up a bit.
I'm sure he didn't mean anything by it, but he's going to have to take this as lesson learned and grow up a bit.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=6f-Xm2XYlfg
NSFW - it's from a Japanese show. Just curious what most guys would do in this situation.
NSFW - it's from a Japanese show. Just curious what most guys would do in this situation.
I mean, lets be real here. HR was covering the company's liability. Which means they believed that shit was legally actionable.
that's probably true too, but this is one of the cases where doing the right thing and covering their asses are the same thing so it really doesn't matter. It just means that OP's friend fucked up on multiple levels
yeah i don't know which version of 'human' resources they are, but the cold root of it is legal action. which should be a signal of how serious it is; to op, his friend, anyone left still thinking it's not a big deal to do that, and not just some 'bullshit.' it's not like the legal system decided one day to be in everyone's quite literal business - it's because it's a real problem.
So wait real talk, is it creepy to appreciate that some girl is pretty? Or was it that he was trying to point it out to his friend? I think the OP is doing a shit job of making this situation not look creepy but I generally wouldn't have considered it harassment if there was no intent to do anything bad, let alone her noticing him motioning. If I see some hot girl on the street and I poke my GF to look at how cute she is, is that fucked up?
Take those feelings, stuff them in a pocket, and then read them out when you're with your alone friends and not in the middle of a public space where someone gestures to check out some chick to ogle. She saw it and caught him red-handed
Everyone appreciates beauty. You just keep that shit to yourself until an appropriate time. At the very least wait until said woman is out of the fucking room. Realistically though it's incredibly unprofessional to do at work and OPs friend definately deserved what he got.
Concerning doing it to random strangers in public, you do you but don't make a big scene out of it and start pointing at the girl in question cause just about anyone is gonna find that rude as hell.
That's definitely the heart of it. Nothing wrong with finding someone attractive, but when you start expressing it in such a way that makes someone feel uncomfortable in the workplace, than it definitely something that needs to be addressed.
