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In a work place setting, does anyone else hate receiving high fives like I do?

Yinyangfooey

Yinyangfooey

Member
Oct 27, 2017
1,816
Whenever I do something "good" or achieve something at work, sometimes the response is a high five from my boss, or someone else.

I have no idea if it's just me, but I absolutely hate receiving high fives for that. It seems so patronizing to me, and it feels like they're treating me like...a kid? However I have no problem with high fives when it comes to my friends, in more casual situations like doing the high five and then bringing it in with a pat on the back, something like that. It's just the at work....it annoys the living hell out of me.

I also have a problem with being praised in a spotlight so that might also be a factor. As a psychoanalysis of myself, I've never been one to take compliments very well as I've grown up never really hearing that kind of stuff from my parents.

Does anyone else have this issue?
 
Squarehard

Squarehard

Member
Oct 27, 2017
26,114
I don't give high fives in my work place.

I'm not welcome back Kotter, my students won't think it's cool. :(
 
Redcrayon

Redcrayon

Patient hunter
On Break
Oct 27, 2017
12,713
UK
Do people actually do that in the US? That kind of fake over-enthusiasm makes me just want to hide behind my desk.
 
Rassilon

Rassilon

Member
Oct 27, 2017
10,606
UK
I don't understand it. Especially in a formal work setting when I'm meeting a new chap and they go for some weird hand grasp / high five hybrid.

Much rather just shake hands.
 
boi

boi

Member
Nov 1, 2017
1,772
They are really awkward when they miss. I'd rather have fist bumping.
 
gosublime

gosublime

Member
Oct 25, 2017
6,448
UK here - can honestly say I've never had a high five in the workplace. If I did, it would be the most awkward thing ever.
 
Roulette

Roulette

Member
Oct 27, 2017
36
Our receptionist who is approaching retirement age will often hold her hand up waiting for a high five when she does something like copying and pasting in excel. I feel obligated to not leave her hanging.
 
evil solrac v3.0

evil solrac v3.0

Member
Oct 25, 2017
3,258
NYC
First rule of high five is you never leave anyone hanging, some of you ought to be ashamed of yourselves. Never leave a high five behind.
 

Gyro Zeppeli

Member
Oct 27, 2017
5,289
The only way to show accomplishment, OP:

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siddx

Banned
Dec 25, 2017
1,807
No, it's not an issue for me. It's just a high five. And I'm a relatively well adjusted human being. For the most part. Mostly. Usually.
 
Wackamole

Wackamole

Member
Oct 27, 2017
16,970
I've learned to give in into the things people do these days: fist bump (enjoyable with kids), high five (sporty sporty), thumb grab (you're my mate), thumb grab with a dramatic hug (you're even more than my mate, we're practically related). All a bit over the top imo. I'm not American though.

A handshake is fine. But i'll play along.
 
Dyle

Dyle

One Winged Slayer
The Fallen
Oct 25, 2017
30,119
High fives are great and I don't think I've ever been upset by having one offered to me, but I don't think I've ever gotten any at work. At the very least high fives are better than hand shakes by a mile
 
Dr. Mario

Dr. Mario

Banned
Oct 27, 2017
14,042
Netherlands
I like high fives. Sometimes when a student is down in my office and on the verge of tears, I could do the pained face, I'm sure if you work hard you will manage, you just have to go through this - thing, or I could do "hey chin up, you're going to kill it, high five!".
I think students like it. Maybe it's patronizing? I don't know, it seems much more positive. It helps that I'm likely the only one who does it. If everyone constantly high fived I'd be weary of it too.

Unless your boss high fives you for some really menial shit, I don't see how it's more patronizing than actually complimenting you.
 
Rivenblade

Rivenblade

Member
Nov 1, 2017
37,146
Depends on the person and the situation, but I've been known to receive and to give out high fives at work. Usually in a sardonic kind of way.

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Don't be a killjoy, mang.
 

Deleted member 14887

User requested account closure
Banned
Oct 27, 2017
1,030
I am fairly tall and I put my hand all the way up to give my supervisor a high five. He took it as my trying to punk him out by making him look short.

Now I just stick to fist bumps.
 
Officer Big Mac

Officer Big Mac

Member
Oct 28, 2017
22,596
Yes its dumb and I hate when people do it. Also stupid when someone you dont know tries to do the "cool" handshake.
 
HulkMansfield

HulkMansfield

Member
Dec 29, 2017
913
I've never seen a workplace high five. But I always advocate for the hockey celebration. *Analyst submits finalized report. Goal horn goes off. Analyst jogs past cubes fist-bumping his/her teammates*
 
btkadams

btkadams

Member
Oct 25, 2017
3,334
I know this feeling very well. My director always wants to pound my fist for a job well done. I started doing a high five to his closed fist to make it as awkward as possible for him. It's seemed to slow it down.
 
mikehaggar

mikehaggar

Developer at Pixel Arc Studios
Verified
Oct 26, 2017
1,379
Harrisburg, Pa
I don't get high fives at my day job, but I would welcome them. I'm always down for a high five. Fist bumps not so much. It's weird to me when some 45 year old white guy tries to give me a fist bump. Feels a bit try hard.
 
SABO.

SABO.

Member
Nov 6, 2017
5,872
Fuck high fives. I'll take my 10% bonus for meeting targets and a salary review.

We also have this recognition platform where employees can be recognized for their hard work/achievements and receive points which can be redeemed for rewards.
 
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