If someone ever asked to call me either of those things during sex I would insist on Gandalf until they left.
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What are your red flags during a first date
- Thread starter Cryptosporidium
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eh everyone is a red flag for someone else to some extent
Normalcy is a myth; everyone has issues, quirks, and flaws that shape who they are. Take my post above as an example: some may totally be able to tolerate that and just let it roll off their back. I prefer someone more direct. I don't think either person is totally right, in fact I'd say my total lack of ability to handle underhanded snark is probably a bit irrational and to some extent a character flaw that probably did ruin a relationship or two in my lifetime. It's who I am though, and I'm not really going to change that about myself as attempting to do so would create false expectations for the other person and just cause issues down the road.
I remember going into a side convo on why that one in particular, but.... I don't remember saying no...
I dunno, you might be with that one LotR super fan and the exact opposite result will occur
I'd have to put on my robe and wizard hat
Don't wear shorts on a date.
If you have to wear shorts literally anything besides cargo or jean shorts is fine.
Kids. Oddly enough I think it's an attractive trait when women are good with children, but I have absolutely ZERO desire in having any.
Also bringing up exes.
Also bringing up exes.
You can only wear cargo shorts if you live in a hot climate and actually need all those pockets. Don't wear cargo shorts to a date. If its too hot then wear some nice chino shorts from J. Crew or Bonobos or something. You can either go at the knee, above, below depending on your comfort level although below the knee tends to look bad.
This right here is the epitome of male fashion. Wear this and you'll be A-OK.
You know I had to
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I still have a bunch of cargo shorts because I heavily rotate and they still look presentable and aren't worn down. I'm too frugal to go out and buy clothes that I don't need just to impress people. If that's a deal breaker for you it's a deal breaker for me too on the opposite end.
That said being rude to service workers or strangers in general is a huge turn off for me. That and being overly attached to anything whether it's your phone, parents, hobby, yourself, job, etc.
I like well balanced people that know they aren't perfect and are able to laugh at themselves.
That said being rude to service workers or strangers in general is a huge turn off for me. That and being overly attached to anything whether it's your phone, parents, hobby, yourself, job, etc.
I like well balanced people that know they aren't perfect and are able to laugh at themselves.
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I'm right there with you on that. I wish it wasn't so hard to find.
I mean, I feel like if you have a huge list of red flags, you're probably a walking red flag yourself and there's a reason you have so many dates and so few significant others
When you're on a date and talking and having a good time, chatting about all sorts of things and finding out who is interested in what. You mention baseball and suddenly she turns super serious and tears start welling up in her eyes. After a few seconds she says "My ex played baseball..." and she puts her head in her arms, resting them both on the table as she quietly sobs. "Are... are you okay?" is what you manage to stutter out, and are abruptly cut off when she yells "No I am not fucking okay!". That got the attention of most of the other customers in the coffee shop, and the rest began paying attention when she blurted out "Maybe I should just try to kill myself again. That's what he fucking wanted anyway!".
Everyone looked at us in silent horror - the only sounds being the sobs of the poor girl in front of me and the grossly inappropriate melody of Creed's "With Arms Wide Open" playing over the radio.
That was a hell of a red flag, let me tell you.
Everyone looked at us in silent horror - the only sounds being the sobs of the poor girl in front of me and the grossly inappropriate melody of Creed's "With Arms Wide Open" playing over the radio.
That was a hell of a red flag, let me tell you.
Doesn't do physical activities
Hasn't seen a marvel movie
Rude or impatient
Doesn't have a car (of course ymmv)
Hasn't seen a marvel movie
Rude or impatient
Doesn't have a car (of course ymmv)
I think it's easier to find in older people. But there's a drawback to that because the dating pool also gets smaller as you get older. As with pretty much everything in life timing is everything. As long as you're putting yourself out there the timing will work in your favor eventually.
Jesus Christ, I hope he was at least a professional making bank because otherwise this woman needs some serious help. I hope she was able to get it.
While that's definitely annoying, I'd still prefer a date where I have to listen to someone prattle on and struggle to get a word in edgewise over one suffered in intermittent silence.
-below a 9/10
-wears makeup
-isn't a virgin
-talks to guys and has guy friends
-doesn't know how to clean or cook chicken nuggets/pizza
-doesn't appreciate nice guys like me and only goes for assholes
-is in to feminism
-doesn't think fedoras and trench coats are cool
-doesn't like anime and video games
-expecting me to pay for the date (don't have a job and I spent all my allowance on the Steam sale)
-doesn't have a high sex drive
-wears makeup
-isn't a virgin
-talks to guys and has guy friends
-doesn't know how to clean or cook chicken nuggets/pizza
-doesn't appreciate nice guys like me and only goes for assholes
-is in to feminism
-doesn't think fedoras and trench coats are cool
-doesn't like anime and video games
-expecting me to pay for the date (don't have a job and I spent all my allowance on the Steam sale)
-doesn't have a high sex drive
/s for the love of god
Oh please, if I'm going on a first date I'm taking an Uber to the place. Have you ever lived in a big city before?
Quick question, judging by your avatar, would you bring up anime on a first date?
Insecurities; complaining about stuff that you can easily fix.
Restaurants are good for this i guess, men complaining about something wrong but not telling the waiter to fix it drives me crazy,
Overall any kind of thing that can make a man seem "weak" like being soft spoken, its all very yikes.
Restaurants are good for this i guess, men complaining about something wrong but not telling the waiter to fix it drives me crazy,
Overall any kind of thing that can make a man seem "weak" like being soft spoken, its all very yikes.
I can't drive (or ever will be able) because of my eyes. Which apparently is a big no no for a lot of you :(
Right right.
I would probably be mean to the poor person. I just can't take charlatans nor the snake oil users. I'm pretty good at being respectful towards religious people but anything cultish or pseudo religious will make the bile rise and seep out between my teeth.
I have two green flags:
Horse fanatic - used to being productive, has probably had huge responsibilities from a young age and will spend so mych time with the horse that I can pursue my own interests without guilt.
Fan of a sports team - being a real fan is more about sharing an experience than winning. Only one team can win and that means that as a fan you are used to share losses with others and still maintain the relationship. Through hardship and all that...
This is one mentality on dating I can't stand. Lord forbid a man is willing to talk about his insecurities in life. Having to put on a suit of armor every time I go on a date to avoid displaying any fragility is exhaustive.
This is a cursed thread now with some of this shit, jesus, lol
Also the whole Chappie thing has me rolling with laughter, don't know why
Also the whole Chappie thing has me rolling with laughter, don't know why
Yep lol. If someone actually wants to date me in any capacity, I assume there is something deeply wrong with them.
The obsession with cars in this thread is making me laugh. I'm going to guess that the posters in question are American, because driving there seems like a Big Thing. I think over here in Europe maybe 50% of my friends have never bothered to learn to drive, myself included (particularly the Londoners -- why bother? -- or folks in areas where the public transport doesn't cost an arm and a leg). When I was spending a lot of time in the Netherlands due to dating a Dutch person, it was much weirder to them that due to a knee injury I don't ride a bike.
They agreed to go on a date with me in the first place, they have incredibly low standards to go out with an ugly, no charisma person I unfortunately am.
Also fuck cars. I hate being in cars, i hate the motion, i wish I could live my life without being in them
Ban cars
Also fuck cars. I hate being in cars, i hate the motion, i wish I could live my life without being in them
Ban cars
You have issues
Tangential, but how did a guy get banned in another thread for "inappropriate humor" for literally just making a reference to an event in a mainstream comic series, but this is...fine?