I met a woman who was completely blown away by the fact that there are grown men who weigh less than 170 lbs.
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Why is skinny-shaming socially accepted?
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With some guys, skinniness is a sign of being physically weak. Toxic masculinity, etc., but I've seen women also give skinny guys (and short guys) the same kind of shit.
The long and the short of it is that some people are generally just assholes.
Try to be comfortable in your own body and respond to those snipes with a sense of humor. Otherwise try talking to a professional. It's not healthy feeling down or offended regularly.
The long and the short of it is that some people are generally just assholes.
Try to be comfortable in your own body and respond to those snipes with a sense of humor. Otherwise try talking to a professional. It's not healthy feeling down or offended regularly.
As a skinny dude, I should probably be eating more, but at the same time I'm rarely hungry and not going to force myself to eat.
healthy is 18.5<IMC<24.9. This means for 90kg you need to at least be 190cm.
The limitations of BMI are:
- very young and very old people (which we can assume OP isn't)
- Very high muscle mass (essentialy professional/semi-profession athletes)
- Pregnancy
- Some weird diseases (like Fibrodysplasia ossificans progressiva)
Yeah, fuck that noise. Im 160 lbs / 6', so I would say its less(?) of an issue these days. But in my youth, that shit felt so insulting
Ok, I've been guilty of the "boy I wish I could eat a lot and stay that thin" because I really do. Never saw that as shaming some one (more like wishing I was like them, not being critical at all. I love eating a lot and would love to be thin but for me I can't do both).
I have got this all my life. I'm 5'7" and 116 lbs and it just plain sucks. But I always just joke about it and say that I'd be the first male UFC strawweight champion.
I get this sometimes, it's super annoying. People have no idea what they're talking about. Not to mention the "it all goes to your chest" joke that isn't even funny the first time.
That's pretty much how I am. I never force food down just to clear the plate, I think that's how a lot of people start getting over weight, that feeling they have to clear the plate, because all those starving Africans or whatever they were told when they were little.
Thanks for the thread, mirrors my experience a lot.
I just turned up at a different PE session because they were bad at taking registers back then. The bonus was that I played a lot more cricket!
I think I only stopped caring about it so much in the last few years because I had a prominent public-facing job that required me to stand and talk in front of big groups often, which burned away my self-conscious hang-ups.
It is really uncomfortable when folk draw attention to one's figure, and tells one to eat a burger etc. It's tantamount to uninvitedly telling an overweight person to stop eating burgers
It's genetics for me, and I have been assured by family members that I'll start gaining weight when I'm older as they did.
I didn't learn to swim until I was 21 because I was too self conscious at school to display my overtly skinny body to my peers.
I just turned up at a different PE session because they were bad at taking registers back then. The bonus was that I played a lot more cricket!
I think I only stopped caring about it so much in the last few years because I had a prominent public-facing job that required me to stand and talk in front of big groups often, which burned away my self-conscious hang-ups.
It is really uncomfortable when folk draw attention to one's figure, and tells one to eat a burger etc. It's tantamount to uninvitedly telling an overweight person to stop eating burgers
It's genetics for me, and I have been assured by family members that I'll start gaining weight when I'm older as they did.
Because everyone's fat. Or you get the gym guys that can't stand to think of themselves as being thin so project on other people.
"go eat a burger"
Like...fuck you motherfucker all I do is eat, fuck off with that nonsense.
I feel you OP, people will never grow out of that shit.
Like...fuck you motherfucker all I do is eat, fuck off with that nonsense.
I feel you OP, people will never grow out of that shit.
Because everyone is overweight, people always comment about how little I eat. Sorry breh I don't eat Wendy's for lunch 5 days a week like you.
I usually say "go drink a milkshake". More calories.
But I'm fat, so I'm projecting. :)
Because most people in America are obese so people who are at a perfectly healthy weight appear "sickly" in comparison. As someone who is 6'1', 130 lbs I get this all the time. Coworkers are always nagging on me because I don't eat at work either.
To be honest, it doesn't bother me too much because I do feel some o it comes from a legitimate (if unwarranted) sense of concern. What annoys me more is all the "hit the gym" comments. I like my slender twink body thank you very much, i just wish I wasn't so tall T.T
To be honest, it doesn't bother me too much because I do feel some o it comes from a legitimate (if unwarranted) sense of concern. What annoys me more is all the "hit the gym" comments. I like my slender twink body thank you very much, i just wish I wasn't so tall T.T
I'm 6' and 170 lbs and most people consider me thin, if not skinny. 130lbs at your height seems insane to me. You do you and all, not trying to make you feel bad, but that cannot be "perfectly healthy".
Every time I get told I can eat more because I'm skinny I tell them about how I had to get a lipid test at 14 before I was allowed to exercise
Man, I know that feeling. I used to be coat-hanger skinny and it was impossible for me to gain weight. Thankfully once I hit 30 I finally started gaining weight and muscle - but man, before that it was a struggle.
Petty dicks are petty dicks, OP, and the world has no shortage of them at any given time or place.
Sorry it's bothering you. I can't offer much except to reinforce the fact that they're jerks for saying anything, and that you're AOK the way you are.
Sorry it's bothering you. I can't offer much except to reinforce the fact that they're jerks for saying anything, and that you're AOK the way you are.
Yeah it's bullshit and it hurts. I can't do anything about my genres. Even during my workout days I was still considered skinny.
The best is when I see heavier people talk about how body shaming is awful, and how they are beautiful all saying, "at least I'm not a stick." Hypocrites.
The best is when I see heavier people talk about how body shaming is awful, and how they are beautiful all saying, "at least I'm not a stick." Hypocrites.
My favourite of those is "normal people" and a "real person".
lol absolutely the same. I'm no longer polite to people who say this to me.
Who knows, people make fun of other people for everything because people kind of suck.
Plenty of very skinny people go to the lake, beach, etc. though. You should be able to enjoy those things and realistically nobody is going to say anything to you if you went. if you're so uncomfortable you avoid those situations maybe you should talk to someone.
Plenty of very skinny people go to the lake, beach, etc. though. You should be able to enjoy those things and realistically nobody is going to say anything to you if you went. if you're so uncomfortable you avoid those situations maybe you should talk to someone.
I'd say it's maybe understandable if it's a grandparent forcing more food on you and telling you "eat, eat, you're too skinny" but your examples sound way worse.
I feel you. I'm 5'10 and 123lbs and that happens all the time. Especially cause I like eating fast food.
It gets a little repetitive when it's coming from everyone. I feel like my children are the only one who didn't comment on it yet. But my oldest is only 4
It gets a little repetitive when it's coming from everyone. I feel like my children are the only one who didn't comment on it yet. But my oldest is only 4
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if you deviate from the norm people will give you shit for it, whatever your difference may be.
stop being cordial, tell them you have superior genetics and cannot get fat and ugly and that you are sorry they obviously do not have the same blessing.
stop being cordial, tell them you have superior genetics and cannot get fat and ugly and that you are sorry they obviously do not have the same blessing.
this is absolutely an obesity/overweight jealousy problem and culturally American to the core. The majority of American adults are overweight. All of you skinny folk here are not skinny, you're healthy. It infuriates me that these fucks would make you feel bad for that because you should be living fantastic lives not feeling the shame that having tons of body fat brings. They just want you to feel as bad about yourself as they do about themselves. They're mad because you're healthy and attractive and they're not.
Please do not eat a burger. Unless you really want one.
Please do not eat a burger. Unless you really want one.
I see quite a few people in the thread saying they can't build muscle. You 100% can its just that it's a slow processes, especially if you are tall and on the low end of BMI. You need to be eating surplus of your maintenance weight, eat enough protein and fats (carbs are going to be your best friend though for calories and also need fibre and micros for a healthy diet), that you are working out to failure within the hypertrophy range of reps, always working on progressive overload, develop your mind muscle connection, a good workout plan that you can stick to, and that you also get your rest. Then do this for a few years (if you want to get big, should be able to gain around 20kg in 6 months as a beginner). You are also more predisposed to overtraining so need to keep this in mind.
If you actually want to give it a go. Download myfitnesspal and watch your calories for a week to see what you are actually eating. Then use a maintenance calculator then add 500cal to it and workout an easy set of meals and snacks based on what you are already consuming and can afford. Don't bother with a gym membership get yourself a set of adjustable dumbbell weights, a bar, a pull up bar, some resistance bands, and start on a beginner push/pull/legs split (shouldn't take longer than an hour) and always be trying to go up in weight every workout. Keeping in mind the notes above. Then just do it and stick to it. After 3 months you should need to buy some more weights. Eventually you will get to a point where you will need 2" plates and it's cheaper to get a gym membership then.
If you actually want to give it a go. Download myfitnesspal and watch your calories for a week to see what you are actually eating. Then use a maintenance calculator then add 500cal to it and workout an easy set of meals and snacks based on what you are already consuming and can afford. Don't bother with a gym membership get yourself a set of adjustable dumbbell weights, a bar, a pull up bar, some resistance bands, and start on a beginner push/pull/legs split (shouldn't take longer than an hour) and always be trying to go up in weight every workout. Keeping in mind the notes above. Then just do it and stick to it. After 3 months you should need to buy some more weights. Eventually you will get to a point where you will need 2" plates and it's cheaper to get a gym membership then.
Speaking from the perspective of a fat guy: it's pure jealousy. Just like some people make fun of attractive people (it does happen and it's usually very passive aggressive and mean) it comes from jealousy.
Also those people were jealous AND assholes.
Also those people were jealous AND assholes.
Always get reminded of a Dr Phil clip I saw on youtube when audience member asked one of the people on stage a question and called her a name that had skinny in it. Phil then asked why it's ok for her to call her a name.
Yeah. I've dealt with this all my life too. Very annoying. Like...I can't wear short sleeves because I always get the comment about needing to put on some meat, eat more, etc. It is a once a week thing at work especially. I know people don't mean anything by it. They're just too dense to realize it isn't a compliment like they (sometimes) mean it to be.
I think this needs to be pointed out, too. Some cultures have a huge food culture, and most likely due to memories of wartime and not being able to feed their families a lot. In some cultures, skinny isn't desirable either. Being skinny can be seen as starving/unhealthy to some. (As a person who grew up extremely underweight, due to health complications, I saw both sides of this).
Yeah. All my life. I started to straight up say "look who's talking" and commenting in equal way about their lack of height, bad looks, fatness etc.
Most of the time they are perplexed as somehow shaming skin dudes is totally okay but getting shamed on for anything else is breaking a taboo or some shit.
+ Anybody doing this goes to the shit person list.
Most of the time they are perplexed as somehow shaming skin dudes is totally okay but getting shamed on for anything else is breaking a taboo or some shit.
+ Anybody doing this goes to the shit person list.
