Like...I'm black and never say it, so...no, I don't understand this.
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As a black person, should you refrain from saying the "n-word" when around non-black people?
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Like...I'm black and never say it, so...no, I don't understand this.
I understand why you wouldn't want to say it. But when you're around people that do all the time, how should you act? Especially if you're white like me. Do you need "the card" or should you just not use it at all period? I go for the latter option.
Should you say it? From super white guy to super white guy, that's a rock solid, non-negotiable NO. Not ever.
Should you feel bad about thinking it? Well, if it keeps you from saying it, then that's working as intended.
You don't say it.
I'm around people that say it all the time. I don't have the urge to say it. It hasn't "rubbed off on me." It was a personal decision I made based on my history and beliefs. It's not something I judge other people for because blackness ain't a monolith, and I respect what it means for others.
You (specifically you and other white people) just don't say it. lol
That's what I was talking about. It inevitably leads to someone saying that no one should use it. It's cool of you don't want to say it personally.
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regarding the topic, i say what i want when I want. easy.
and I hope the rest of y'all black brothers and sisters do the same. been through enough shit 😩
Yep, this is what I thought.
It's just like, when you hang out around people who talk and act a certain way, you start to think how they speak in your head. It's how I picked up "dude" and "man" and the like in high school, hanging around all my stoner skateboarding friends. But the n-bomb is a totally different beast.
Will refrain from using it like I have been, 24/7. Thanks for your input.
I barely use it.
Bingo. Especially the nonwhite ones. Avoids the chances of that awkward situation occurring.
this thread would be more interesting if we knew every poster's race tbh
(am white so I don't get a say, don't use it)
lol I figured that's the kind of response I'd get. I'm just trying to be upfront. My friends say they're ok with me saying it around them but I don't want to be the "BUT MY BLACK FRIENDS" guy. It just seems super disrespectful no matter how I look at it.
Hope I didn't come off as offensive, again, just trying to be as upfront as possible. Sorry if I did.
Hope I didn't come off as offensive, again, just trying to be as upfront as possible. Sorry if I did.
Never fails.
That says more about you than it does them. Obama has said nigga, what does that say about him?
Some of y'all overthink this shit.
I get what you're saying here. I have some minor social interaction issues and I've learned to adapt quickly to personalities that I'm hanging around with in order to fit in with them better. That includes mimicking the things they say and stuff like that. I have a couple very close black friends and I have never let the N bomb drop. No matter how many times they endearlingly say it to me, it's just something I should not and will not say.
Growing up I went to a public school in the Bronx and one of our teachers taught us that "nigga" was an acronym standing for "never ignorant, getting goals accomplished." I guess since the word was already widespread in the kids vocabulary she was trying to put a positive spin on it, however she kind of failed to mention that you probably shouldn't say this word if you aren't black. There were some complaints the next day when Maurice went home and proudly declared himself a nigga.
It is ghetto, or childish to be throwing it around like some people do though. Black, white, whatever... Everyone police's themselves by way of knowing the company they're in and acting accordingly, unless they're ghetto. You wouldn't casually cuss or use nigga around elder family, younger kids, in a professional setting etc. unless you just don't know how to act -- which is really the defining trait of being ghetto.
On using it around white people... Your close friends that are cool and know the deal? Fine. But to carelessly throw it around people you'd wanna fight if they got the wrong idea and said it themselves is just stupid.
They'd have to be pretty fucking clueless in twenty nineteen
this thread would be more interesting if we knew every poster's race tbh
(am white so I don't get a say, don't use it)
I'm asian, and I've never dropped the N word (even when i was addressed in that way). Even if I think they would be okay with it. Still No.
Thanks for your generalizations. I have never used the word in my life and was only asking because my friends explicitly told me I could and should use it around them. I felt uncomfortable doing so and came here for clarification.
Don't lump me in with those other assholes.
But to anyone who feels like no one should use it, this is a good article explaining why that's bullshit. I like this line:
"The Black community is required to be the paragon of virtue in order to 'earn' their basic human rights and the same level of respect that white Americans are given freely."
So anyone who says we shouldn't use it, I hope you feel that way about white people (and everyone) using profanity and slang too. Hell, I hope your skin crawls when posters on this shit use internet acronyms in emojis (lol).
There's a time and place for everything. Obviously you shouldn't go around saying it 1,000 times a day to any and everyone 😂
"The Black community is required to be the paragon of virtue in order to 'earn' their basic human rights and the same level of respect that white Americans are given freely."
So anyone who says we shouldn't use it, I hope you feel that way about white people (and everyone) using profanity and slang too. Hell, I hope your skin crawls when posters on this shit use internet acronyms in emojis (lol).
There's a time and place for everything. Obviously you shouldn't go around saying it 1,000 times a day to any and everyone 😂
You got told it was ok by your n——r representative and now you're checking with the n——r consulate?
I dont use it around most white people, or at work or school. I dont say it around whites because they will start trying to repeat you so they can say the word without feeling like a racist or if you get mad its "I'm just repeating what you said" and that gets annoying. But in general I say it much less than in my teens and early 20s
I wanted a detached opinion. And I got one. Thank you for that.
My friends keep telling me "it's ok, you got the card" and similar things. I never agreed with that. Wanted a clarification from people who don't really know me. Got one. Thanks.
Usually don't say it in general conversation, but damn sure not gonna refrain from saying it either.
If you're not black, don't say it. Period
If you're not black, don't say it. Period
Oh yes, the "I'm just repeating what you said" defense. They tryna be cute with that one.
No. However I'll admit if I'm in a group of my non-black friends there's a bit of hesitancy to say it tbh
Disclosure: I'm white but from a place with no history of black slavery.
So, this feels like the right place to ask: Why do black people still use this word that was invented as a racial slur against them?
So, this feels like the right place to ask: Why do black people still use this word that was invented as a racial slur against them?
I love when people that aren't black drop this cause they're too scared to say what they really mean
who in the fuck said I wasn't black. I used to use the word when I was younger. I just look back and cringe at that shit now. It sounds idiotic.
For me, even if it's a group of other black people I know from work, I don't say it because I'm gonna get that "I didn't know you said that? Wow" type reaction like I wasn't "black enough" to say it.
Why would you call your non-black friends that word? "Hey I can call you this word because we're friends, but you can't say it back because we're friends". It makes no sense. Friends call each other stupid names(asshole, fucker, etc) all the time. They do it because they know there is no ill-intent. I've never used the word, but have been called it before. It's like dude, if we're friends, don't call me something I can't say back.
If you are it's even more disappointing you'd be using that racist ass rhetoric
White bois be browsin' this thread like
This guy is preparing a new thread : "As a white person, should you refrain from saying the "n-word" when around non-white people?"
If Era is to be considered my white friends, then no, I don't say it on here. I don't have any close white friends though. But I am marrying into a Spanish family soon & I have to check them every now & then because it doesn't feel right when they try. That's a different thing altogether though.
Depending on your age and where you grew up, it's not that uncommon in the UK. I grew up in a small market town in Yorkshire in the 80s and in my entire secondary school I can remember there being one black kid, a few of asian/Indian heritage and one Chinese kid (surprise surprise his family owned the local takeaway). That's from around 800 kids. The first black person I ever spoke to was at Uni. My friends from London are incredulous at this because it was so different down here.
As a brown minority I find it hilarious that people think that black people should only be allowed to use that word in certain situations. It's also hilarious that it's censored in mainstream media. So black people have been oppressed for centuries and white people used denigrating slurs at them but now you can't have black people use that word in public television or radio because it's too 'explicit'. It's not black peoples' fault if a non-black person suddenly gets the idea that they can use that word too.
This. We can say all day long and no white person should suddenly feel its cool for them to replicate.
You really want to argue its black people's fault white people say the n word?
The group that gets mad when you tell they can't say anything.
You're falling for racist ass rhetoric for being mature enough to not like the usage of racially charged profanity?
Hmm.