HarryHengst

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My two cents on this, which ain't even worth that, is that we've grown so used to hyper convenience and instant gratification. Having kids is very counter to that. Even selfish reasons for kids still lead to a selfless act. The work, the care, the stress. God the stress! I honestly think people in general have just gotten more selfish over the last two or three decades, and they don't want their lifestyles to change at all.
This is such a ridiculous framing of the situation. Not wanting kids is not selfish, and having kids is not some selfless act. I would even say that having kids is mostly a selfish act, because its about people wanting to have them for themselves. Its why most people want to have a child of their own, instead of adopting.
 

Messofanego

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Countries you listed are neoliberalist economies. Their social attitudes are collectivist but the economies are built on neoliberalism. After WWII, countries borrowed loans from the World Bank and had to meet certain conditions to borrow from them i.e increased FDI, deregulation, allow free trade, cut public spending...et cetra.

Sure each countries has their unique set of problems such as China's one child policy, but we can't pretend the economic framework didn't play a huge influence.

Most cited reasons why young adults choose to not have children or postpone it, is that it is costly.

- Long working hours
- Rising living costs
- Unaffordable housing
- Lack of public safety net
- Retirement age increasing
- Job insecurity
- Inequal distribution of wealth
- Inequal distribution of household and childcare responsibilities
- Intergenerational wealth divide and inheritance
- Uncertainties about child's future

East Asia
Europe
China / China 2
Japan
South Korea
Japan & South Korea 2
USA / USA 2
UK / UK 2

Governments can blame women or offer measly ¥3000 handouts however they want but that is not enough to cover the rising costs of living and cultural pressures.

When adults of today are working inhumane hours (we're talking 40 to 80), paying more for things, compared to prior generations (boomers were able to afford things, have time to socialise and care for family, and had access to better public services); governments should think really hard where to prioritise: short-term economic "infinite" growth or the impending demographic crisis.
Great points, and hope more people can take the history and economic systems into account. The wages, house and tax subsidies, cheaper education, tax exemptions for children and married couples, pensions that boomers had was more than enough comfort to actually have the baby boom!
 
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This is such a ridiculous framing of the situation. Not wanting kids is not selfish, and having kids is not some selfless act. I would even say that having kids is mostly a selfish act, because its about people wanting to have them for themselves. Its why most people want to have a child of their own, instead of adopting.
Yeah, in hindsight that wasn't the wording I should have used. Like I'll never have kids, and I don't think any of my reasons for doing so are selfish. But I also think I am a selfish person, which is where my mindset went.

Sorry for the bad take D:
 
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NetMapel

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- Long working hours
- Rising living costs
- Unaffordable housing
- Lack of public safety net
- Retirement age increasing
- Job insecurity
- Inequal distribution of wealth
- Inequal distribution of household and childcare responsibilities
- Intergenerational wealth divide and inheritance
- Uncertainties about child's future
I appreciate you taking the time to write that post. I think my point is simply that I dislike such black and white and rather binary labeling of a complex situation. Just slapping "neoliberal", "individualism", and "late stage capitalism" labels just feel lazy to me. Note that I never referred to this situation as a "problem". Rather, I would refer to this as an observable pattern as I am not ready to say lower birthrate is a problem yet. Anyways, I just want to put in some of my thoughts regarding those points you put down above.

- Long working hours
Birthrate was higher 30, 50 and more years ago. I hardly think they have better work hours than we do now on average. We now have the base 40 hours per week schedule that did not exist back then. We also have maternity and paternity leaves in many places. So I guess I don't find this to be such a strong driving force.

- Rising living costs
That is indeed a problem but keep in mind we went through a very lengthy period of low inflation rate. We are still much better compared to the many periods in the past such as the great depression and so on. People cited childcare costs being high which is absolutely true. I might argue that that is the cost of child care that weren't quantified before so maybe it's better that this is being measured? Stay and home wives of the past contributed massively to the economy that were discounted.

- Unaffordable housing
Fair, though there are plenty of places with cheaper and more affordable housing that still have dramatic decrease in birth rates. Japan famously has deflationary real estates. I am a big proponent of better land use, urban design and housing policies in general so ultimately I won't disagree with you there.

- Lack of public safety net
Objectively, I think we can agree that we have much more public safety net compared to before. Nordic countries are also famously known for their scope of social safety nets. East Asian countries tend to have more collectivism social fabric where generational households help raise the younger generations. I guess I would chalk this up to an exclusively North American problem?

- Retirement age increasing
I guess the impact of childbirth relating to this point is… more jobs are being kept by boomers who won't retire? I'm not too sure how this point relates to this topic. Regardless, I don't know the effect of this to say anything about it.

- Job insecurity
I think it's a bit difficult to apply the current economic to the past. I supposed it is true that the manufacturing jobs of old offered more job security. But I'm not sure that's the case for many other industries and/or when we had completely different economic/social systems.

- Inequal distribution of wealth
Wealth inequality has always been an issue from medieval time to now. But I guess I want to highlight the inequal distribution of wealth you are referring to probably didn't even consider women's work. In that sense, I would say it has improved massively to go from not being paid for anything to being paid now.

- Inequal distribution of household and childcare responsibilities
Arguably a worse problem in the past than now, don't you think?

- Intergenerational wealth divide and inheritance
Not sure how that affects childcare. This feels like the same issue in the above "Inequal distribution of wealth" point.

- Uncertainties about child's future
Indeed we have a lot of crisis to deal with such as climate change and more. No argument there. If I have to be nitpicky though, I would say we had lots of massive wars in the past in various regions. The cold war was an existential threat as well. Yet we have the lowest birthrate in the most relatively lengthiest peaceful time now.

Again, my main point is mostly rooted in my dislike of applying simple labels on a complex situation. Economic and financial reasons can all be contributing to it but I don't think it helpful to just apply such a vague label. We have different cultures, economic models, and social models of different mix and spectrum. Ultimately, I think the biggest commonality are probably women getting better education. Women gaining more choices in this matter. All of which are a good thing because women should be free to want to focus on their careers and hobbies if they want.

Governments can blame women or offer measly ¥3000 handouts however they want but that is not enough to cover the rising costs of living and cultural pressures.

When adults of today are working inhumane hours (we're talking 40 to 80), paying more for things, compared to prior generations (boomers were able to afford things, have time to socialise and care for family, and had access to better public services); governments should think really hard where to prioritise: short-term economic "infinite" growth or the impending demographic crisis.
I think it may be time to consider stay-at-home parent an entire job/career in a way that that can be paid. If the goal is to encourage one parent to stay home and raise kids, the loss of financial independence for that parent would be a hard pill to swallow. I would bet that that would mostly fall on women once again to sacrifice. Until that is addressed, I doubt this decreasing birthrate pattern would reverse.
 

mugurumakensei

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I read a lot of stuff about needing to keep the economy afloat cause so many are old.
At the same time 10% of the population own 75% of the wealth in sweden.
So the resources are there. It's just not helping the population.
It ain't just about monetary funding. There's the other problem of when there are more elderly than able bodied, you run into the problem of how are people going to be able to pursue the careers they want while also needing to take care of several elderly people.
 

Mekanos

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"Capitalism" is only unsatisfying answer if you don't think capital and material conditions affects everything about our lives, countries and societies on a micro and macro level. Ideologies, cultures and beliefs do not just spring out of thin air.
 

Fallout-NL

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It's also the fact that raising children is a full time job.

Our society is so much better off with one person doing work, and the other tending to the house. It's absolutely unsustainable having 2 parents work 40 hours per week jobs, then having childcare on top of that.

The problem is, our society is now designed for both people to work. That puts an incredible amount of stress on families, and puts really negative outcomes on the kids.

I'm not saying we should go back to the pre-60s. But we definitely to make sure that you can support a family of 4 with a single job. That hasn't happened.

And no, I'm not advocating for women to be that role at all. It should be a choice, as each family is different and have different needs. If wages got up, it should be conceivable that both of the couple work part time as they raise their child. That's probably best case scenario honestly.

The problem is, most people don't have a choice. And both partners have to work just to make ends meet. That is honestly sickening.


can confirm, both my wife and I have to work almost fulltime. Running a household and raising kids on top of that shit is… well I don't know what it is, but I respect anyone who says 'no thanks.'

Add in climate change, genocide being back in vogue, capitalism / techno feudalism being worse than ever and yeah… each day I feel worse about bringing my kids in a world this complete and utter shite.
 
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lorddarkflare

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This blaming capitalism for everything in the world is getting tiresome..lol ..Capitalism did not make women (and many men) not want to have kids, a shift to individualism did. It is a cultural change, not an economic one.

It's an exhausting trend in every single thread on the topic. and I really wish people would try to think harder. The fact that people are even thinking about not having kids because of climate change is a cable of how luxurious our societies have become. That is a privileged, extremely modern position to have. And one that centers yourself in a way that hasn't been seen before.

I agree that it would be nice if some people did not point at capitalism every time there is a societal problem and then turn their brain off. They aren't wrong, but it its intellectually lazy to just leave it at that.

That said, this is actually one of the few discussions where invoking and discussing capitalism directly is not only productive, but probably necessary. Fixing this issue is probably not possible with incremental change, and so directly inspecting all the systems that we live under is vitally important.
 
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I'd rather play video games than wipe someone's ass.

My two cents on this, which ain't even worth that, is that we've grown so used to hyper convenience and instant gratification. Having kids is very counter to that. Even selfish reasons for kids still lead to a selfless act. The work, the care, the stress. God the stress! I honestly think people in general have just gotten more selfish over the last two or three decades, and they don't want their lifestyles to change at all.

Yeah I think it's this a lot more than people are willing to admit.
 

mentok15

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"Capitalism" is only unsatisfying answer if you don't think capital and material conditions affects everything about our lives, countries and societies on a micro and macro level. Ideologies, cultures and beliefs do not just spring out of thin air.
It's unsatisfying as birthrates were higher in the past, and they were still capitalist back then too.
 

akintheuite

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You don't think cultural problems aren't created and exacerbated by economic problems? There's this place called America I would like to introduce you too, lol.



It's privileged but the same economic levers that push the global economic south to have kids traditionally can also work in the opposite way. If it's a privileged take gotta blame the environment that built those takes. Btw, I don't agree with it being privileged (although obviously its a choice being made by people by and large of a certain class so it is in that sense), but if you're saying 'Gotta get mine and maintain, fuck the world' is the problem and the attitude isn't related to capitalism 🤷🏿‍♂️. Raising kids isn't a real 'job', parents electing to not have kids because their 'careers' matter more, etc. If the quality of our lives even in nordic countries weren't closely tied to capital those phrases wouldn't exist.
The relationship between individualism and capitalism is contingent and variable. Western societies have shown that capitalism and individualism are joined at the hip.

It's an easy scape-goat to blame capitalism for everything and give no thought about the specifics and try to think about a solution. Also, this kind of criticism makes no sense when the economic system of each country changes wildely and it has evolved over-time as well.

And I grew up in a family who believed more children = more income but soon they arrive in the UK, reality doesn't work that way.

Families in developing countries have a lot children, because more children can bring in the income and due to emphasis of family values, they believe their kids will look after them. Be mindful that workers rights are near non-existent and child labour is prevelant in poorer countries.

In the UK, people of low income backgrounds who have many children have it bad. You just end up poorer and poorer - and I grew up in a poor family, so I know what I'm talking about.

If you're blaming modernity or millennial cultural values for why people don't have kids, then tell me why should birthing people have children in a society hostile to it? When things are so expensive? What happens if their partner leaves them?

You can't give me bullshit that things will workout. It won't, because single-parent headed households are much likely to be poorer, and their kids will less likely to achieve. It's mostly women/FAB are worse off as they are likely burdened with the children caring responsibilities.

Update:

Woman/birthing person carrying a baby for 9 months is a grueling task.

Do not @ me that everyone would be so lucky to have their partners or family to support them. If it was the case, then why do we have single mothers, why do families under single-parent households have it worse off?

UK's birthrate had became the lowest despite the population increasing due to immigration. Which means even immigrants are having children less as living in the UK is so fricking costly.

To have a child is literally a luxary of itself, and UK happens to be the most expensive of the OCEDs to raise a child.



www.theguardian.com

Birthrate in UK falls to record low as campaigners say ‘procreation a luxury’

Total fertility was 1.49 children per woman in 2022 amid rising housing and childcare costs
www.theguardian.com

‘So many working parents are screwed’: mothers on Britain’s childcare costs

Parents describe plight as pressure builds on Jeremy Hunt to provide help in the budget

Seems you are not getting my point. I grew up in the global south( Africa to be more precise), and I can tell you the main reasons people have lots of kids where I grew up had nothing to do with economics, and everything to do with culture. They believed it was a thing of pride to carry their people's legacy forward, and will have had those kids regardless of their economic position. Now, do I think that is a good thing? No, but I,m telling you that is the reason they still have many children. Once again, nothing to with economics. The developed world o longer has that cultural attachment to kids, that is why more people choose not to have them.. simple.NoT economics. My neighbours here in the UK travel every year to various far-flung destinations all over the world, spending thousands of pounds (which shows they have the money to doso) , and told me themselves they do not want kids because it will affect their travel lifestyle (and keep in mind there are hundreds of thousands of couples like this across the UK). So once again, it is not an economic thing.. there are enough middle-class couples across the developed world that could have children if they want to but choose not to (again this is fine!). But I just want to point out gagin that this is a CULTURAL SHIFT, AND HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH ECONOMIC DIFFICULTIES.
They were, but is that fair to the kids? I think we are in the first generation who actually thinks about that

Agree that child rearing was not the best back then, and we know better now; however, improvement should not mean you wait till things are perfect before you say you have children.

I mean, I pointed out there's a certain level of privledge in the choice itself but its a pretty myopic read that 'winning' in a capitalistic society means it doesn't affect your choices and you can't slip backwards even if the backwards slip itself is privileged in comparison to the global south.

I mean a black homeless American is much more privilege than a homeless person in Haiti, doesn't negate some of those same sociopolitical forces put them in those places. Its a boomer 'avocado toast' take that economic forces don't affect first world citizens even and doesn't subsequently influence their choices because the West is much more insulated than other places to sharp economic calamities.

Agree there is definitely a degree of relativity, and I am not discounting some people in developed countries still have it rough. All I am saying is that there are enough middle-class and upper-class couples who can easily afford children (even within the context of exp childcare etc) but are choosing not to, and that it is a cultural decision, not an economic one.

Poor countries having high birth rates is an extremely well documented phenomenon - less access to birth control, bigger families being desired as a labor force, and so on. It's unscientific to dismiss the materialist factor behind these trends.

Developing countries are providing labour for developed countries, so having children is also tied to providing labour force for the imperial core. Along with religious and cultural factors emboldening that. I don't think all these things can be divorced from each other. But you seem set on avoiding considering material conditions as a factor, so will just have to agree to disagree.

See my reply above..as someone from a poorer country, having kids has nothing to do with labour and everything to do with cultural norms.

I agree that it would be nice if some people did not point at capitalism every time there is a societal problem and then turn their brain off. They aren't wrong, but it its intellectually lazy to just leave it at that.

That said, this is actually one of the few discussions where invoking and discussing capitalism directly is not only productive, but probably necessary. Fixing this issue is probably not possible with incremental change, and so directly inspecting all the systems that we live under is vitally important.

This is one of the issues least connected to capitalism..see my replies above.
 

Tomasoares

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"Capitalism" is only unsatisfying answer if you don't think capital and material conditions affects everything about our lives, countries and societies on a micro and macro level. Ideologies, cultures and beliefs do not just spring out of thin air.

Of course it does affect, but just saying "capitalism is bad!" isn't meaningful. It's not like swalling a pillow called "socialism" will miraculously fix all our problems, because there's no such thing: it's too abstract and gives no space for a deeper analysis and present solutions for a given problem, be it in a "capitalist" or "socialist" angle - which still makes no sense as almost every economic system in the world is a wildely different mix of both and has envolved over time which makes such terms pratically meaningless.
 
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Tovarisc

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Having children in Finland is quite expensive. Together with cuts to healthcare and social programs existing support systems are being degraded, even deconstructed. Families don't anymore get kind of help and support some still think they do.

Not that long time ago we got surprise closings of maternity wards. Forcing pregnant women to travel longer distances to give birth, and any other distress etc comes with it.
 

Kiyamet

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starting to think that a short term focused infinite profit seeking capitalist arrangement of the economy isnt sustainable
 

Fallout-NL

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Of course it does affect, but just saying "capitalism is bad!" isn't meaningful. It's not like swalling a pillow called "socialism" will miraculously fix all our problems, because there's no such thing: it's too abstract and gives no space for a deeper analysis and present solutions for a given problem, be it in a "capitalist" or "socialist" angle - which still makes no sense as almost every economic system in the world is a wildely different mix of both and has envolved over time which makes such terms pratically meaningless.

You also can't really expect forum posters to provide long flowing essays with carefully selected and correctly formatted references that delve deeper into the issue. Sure, you could provide some more context and it would be a. interesting to read for us and b. good for policy makers to read if they gave a damn (they don't), but I don't blame anyone for not doing that when a simple 'blame late stage capitalism' post will be 99.9% correct anyway. A world going to shit wherein it is also too expensive to have kids will lead to scenarios where people will have fewer children. It's not rocket science.

And also, yeah, a pill called 'democratic socialism' i.e. heavily regulated capitalism (on an international level) will actually fix a lot of our issues.
 
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I appreciate you taking the time to write that post. I think my point is simply that I dislike such black and white and rather binary labeling of a complex situation. Just slapping "neoliberal", "individualism", and "late stage capitalism" labels just feel lazy to me. Note that I never referred to this situation as a "problem". Rather, I would refer to this as an observable pattern as I am not ready to say lower birthrate is a problem yet. Anyways, I just want to put in some of my thoughts regarding those points you put down above.
Likewise for taking your time to reply. Arguably, there isn't anything "black and white" when there's evidence backed-up. Have you had a look at the data and findings from the articles?

- Long working hours
Birthrate was higher 30, 50 and more years ago. I hardly think they have better work hours than we do now on average. We now have the base 40 hours per week schedule that did not exist back then. We also have maternity and paternity leaves in many places. So I guess I don't find this to be such a strong driving force.
Young adults are working double hours than prior generations.

Prior generations at least had rely one adult income to meet living costs, now it requires two, and most working adults don't have the time nor the salary to raise a family, and when they do, it's a struggle.

- Rising living costs
That is indeed a problem but keep in mind we went through a very lengthy period of low inflation rate. We are still much better compared to the many periods in the past such as the great depression and so on. People cited childcare costs being high which is absolutely true. I might argue that that is the cost of child care that weren't quantified before so maybe it's better that this is being measured? Stay and home wives of the past contributed massively to the economy that were discounted.
Child care essentials were much cheaper in the past, much cheaper. Don't know which your country in, but in the UK, people are stealing Aptimilk/Cowsgate and being sold in the black market as families can no longer afford it.

- Unaffordable housing
Fair, though there are plenty of places with cheaper and more affordable housing that still have dramatic decrease in birth rates. Japan famously has deflationary real estates. I am a big proponent of better land use, urban design and housing policies in general so ultimately I won't disagree with you there.
There are cheaper houses in rural places, not in the cities. Young people move to cities for high paying jobs and education. There isn't enough opportunities and facilities in rural locations.

- Lack of public safety net
Objectively, I think we can agree that we have much more public safety net compared to before. Nordic countries are also famously known for their scope of social safety nets. East Asian countries tend to have more collectivism social fabric where generational households help raise the younger generations. I guess I would chalk this up to an exclusively North American problem?
It's a problem everywhere bar Nordic countries. Read the East Asia and Europe study, it cited limited public spending and lack of support as one of the main drivers as to why women choose to postpone/not have children.

Childcare is also expensive and can be difficult to find in hypercapitalistic societies.

- Retirement age increasing
I guess the impact of childbirth relating to this point is… more jobs are being kept by boomers who won't retire? I'm not too sure how this point relates to this topic. Regardless, I don't know the effect of this to say anything about it.
Of course it's related. If your retirement age increases, that means your pensions are affected. The value of pensions will be lower in contrast to previous generations and countries decrease the amount of pensions being paid out to prevent the system going bust.

Aging demographic means fewer workers. If people rely on two fulltime working adults to make end meet, and if they are working longer, the time to have children/care for them is restricted.

- Job insecurity
I think it's a bit difficult to apply the current economic to the past. I supposed it is true that the manufacturing jobs of old offered more job security. But I'm not sure that's the case for many other industries and/or when we had completely different economic/social systems.
It's literally the most cited reason for women/FAB in East Asia. East Asian women fear of losing their jobs if they announce their pregnancy. It's a huge problem.

Maternity leave is near non-existent, employers just fire them or force them to retire early. For women/FAB to get back into work is difficult as they are mostly burdened to take care of the household and likely to face rejections in the job market.

- Inequal distribution of wealth
Wealth inequality has always been an issue from medieval time to now.
And is that acceptable reason for it to be existing? Wealth inequality existed because of feudal systems and regressive tax systems. i.e King owns the lands, peasants are forced into serfdom et cetra.

But I guess I want to highlight the inequal distribution of wealth you are referring to probably didn't even consider women's work. In that sense, I would say it has improved massively to go from not being paid for anything to being paid now.
Now that's just discourteous. I wouldn't have listed unequal distribution of wealth if it wasn't a factor.

Explain to me why the do gaps in gender pay still exist today? Back in ye' old days and most societies, women worked for free, all their earnings and assets were given to their husbands or father.

It was in the past two to one hundred years or so, that women were gaining more rights to owning property and having control of their income. In the USA it was in 1974, women was able to open bank accounts, apply for credit and commit to a mortgage without needing a male co-signer.

If unequal distribution of wealth between genders is not a problem, then explain why do single mothers (who make up most of single-parent headed households) mostly live in rented accommodation?

- Inequal distribution of household and childcare responsibilities
Arguably a worse problem in the past than now, don't you think?
Uhh it still exist
Different parts of the world have different social and cultural attitudes of gender.

Again one of the most cited reasons in the studies. Look at the East Asian countries studies.

- Intergenerational wealth divide and inheritance
Not sure how that affects childcare. This feels like the same issue in the above "Inequal distribution of wealth" point.
In hypercaptialistic economies most of the wealth is hoarded by older generations, thus an unequal distribution of intergenerational wealth and inheritance.

If older generations own the assets, the young working demographic are most likely to be renting and getting a mortgage is proven difficult for them. In addition, young working adults are likely to be paying tax more than older generations, which is an added cost to living.

Housing crisis is a growing issue that millennials and gen z'ers would have to rent forever or wait till their parents die, and then inherit their wealth at the ripe age of 65. Millennials who are lucky to buy a property have had financial assistance from their parents.

If parents own a property, children are likely to have better life outcomes than the parents that are renters. A millennial whose parent is a renter is likely to be renting of rest of their life - this depends on the country of course and property market vary place to place, but it is a growing issue in the developed world.

- Uncertainties about child's future
Indeed we have a lot of crisis to deal with such as climate change and more. No argument there. If I have to be nitpicky though, I would say we had lots of massive wars in the past in various regions. The cold war was an existential threat as well. Yet we have the lowest birthrate in the most relatively lengthiest peaceful time now.
Financial insecurity is what most have qualms with. If the economic outlook for a country is bad and the individual cannot afford to emigrate, then their choice is likely to not start a family. It's financial planning.

Again, my main point is mostly rooted in my dislike of applying simple labels on a complex situation. Economic and financial reasons can all be contributing to it but I don't think it helpful to just apply such a vague label. We have different cultures, economic models, and social models of different mix and spectrum. Ultimately, I think the biggest commonality are probably women getting better education. Women gaining more choices in this matter. All of which are a good thing because women should be free to want to focus on their careers and hobbies if they want.

I have explained my points with evidence to boot and linked studies that cited the most verbalised reason from young adults not having children is that "it is expensive". Why is it increasingly expensive to have children, one should ask.

In the 70s onwards, Neoliberalist policies encouraged competition, thus led to women attaining education to compete in the market better. Moreover, economic pressure made dual-income households a necessary, pushing women into employment.

True it is complex and there are a number of driving forces, but one cannot overlook that Neoliberalism has influenced the choice in family planning.

I think it may be time to consider stay-at-home parent an entire job/career in a way that that can be paid. If the goal is to encourage one parent to stay home and raise kids, the loss of financial independence for that parent would be a hard pill to swallow. I would bet that that would mostly fall on women once again to sacrifice. Until that is addressed, I doubt this decreasing birthrate pattern would reverse.
They do exist, they're called state benefits and when single mothers attain them, they are stigmatised as "scroungers".

Neoliberalist societies discourages state benefits and welfare support, the very common saying "Don't have children if you cannot afford them".
 
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I agree that it would be nice if some people did not point at capitalism every time there is a societal problem and then turn their brain off. They aren't wrong, but it its intellectually lazy to just leave it at that.
It's intellectually lazy to dismiss what's being said in the thread.

Sure blaming everything on capitalism seems simplistic, but there's a reason it gets spotlighted. Late-stage Capitalism influences many aspects of our lives like job security, income, healthcare, education, and living. So while it's not the only factor, it's a big part of the picture and deserves a closer look, not just a quick blame. I've also discussed it in depth if you are willing to engage.

Seems you are not getting my point. I grew up in the global south( Africa to be more precise), and I can tell you the main reasons people have lots of kids where I grew up had nothing to do with economics, and everything to do with culture. They believed it was a thing of pride to carry their people's legacy forward, and will have had those kids regardless of their economic position. Now, do I think that is a good thing? No, but I,m telling you that is the reason they still have many children. Once again, nothing to with economics. The developed world o longer has that cultural attachment to kids, that is why more people choose not to have them.. simple.NoT economics. My neighbours here in the UK travel every year to various far-flung destinations all over the world, spending thousands of pounds (which shows they have the money to doso) , and told me themselves they do not want kids because it will affect their travel lifestyle (and keep in mind there are hundreds of thousands of couples like this across the UK). So once again, it is not an economic thing.. there are enough middle-class couples across the developed world that could have children if they want to but choose not to (again this is fine!). But I just want to point out gagin that this is a CULTURAL SHIFT, AND HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH ECONOMIC DIFFICULTIES.
Economics and culture go hand-in-hand.


Fertility rates tend to be higher in poorly resourced countries but due to high maternal and perinatal mortality, there is a reduction in birth rates. In developing countries children are needed as a labour force and to provide care for their parents in old age. In these countries, fertility rates are higher due to the lack of access to contraceptives and generally lower levels of female education.

The social structure, religious beliefs, economic prosperity and urbanisation within each country are likely to affect birth rates as well as abortion rates, Developed countries tend to have a lower fertility rate due to lifestyle choices associated with economic affluence where mortality rates are low, birth control is easily accessible and children often can become an economic drain caused by housing, education cost and other cost involved in bringing up children. Higher education and professional careers often mean that women have children late in life. This can result in a demographic economic paradox.
 

Tomasoares

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You also can't really expect forum posters to provide long flowing essays with carefully selected and correctly formatted references that delve deeper into the issue. Sure, you could provide some more context and it would be a. interesting to read for us and b. good for policy makers to read if they gave a damn (they don't), but I don't blame anyone for not doing that when a simple 'blame late stage capitalism' post will be 99.9% correct anyway. A world going to shit wherein it is also too expensive to have kids will lead to scenarios where people will have fewer children. It's not rocket science.

And also, yeah, a pill called 'democratic socialism' i.e. heavily regulated capitalism (on an international level) will actually fix a lot of our issues.

What's your reference of "democractic socialism"? Canada, China, Finland, Portugal, Cuba?
This description could even match with Brazil current system, depending on what you consider "capitalism" and "heavily regulated".

I'm not asking for essays, as no one is doing this anyway (and shouldn't), but giving some more thought than just screaming "socialism/capitalism is bad!" is helpful imho (and yeah, capitalism is still bad, but "magic pills" is also bad)
 
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Great points, and hope more people can take the history and economic systems into account. The wages, house and tax subsidies, cheaper education, tax exemptions for children and married couples, pensions that boomers had was more than enough comfort to actually have the baby boom!
You also can't really expect forum posters to provide long flowing essays with carefully selected and correctly formatted references that delve deeper into the issue. Sure, you could provide some more context and it would be a. interesting to read for us and b. good for policy makers to read if they gave a damn (they don't), but I don't blame anyone for not doing that when a simple 'blame late stage capitalism' post will be 99.9% correct anyway. A world going to shit wherein it is also too expensive to have kids will lead to scenarios where people will have fewer children. It's not rocket science.

And also, yeah, a pill called 'democratic socialism' i.e. heavily regulated capitalism (on an international level) will actually fix a lot of our issues.
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I'm not asking for essays, as no one is doing this anyway (and shouldn't), but giving some more thought than just screaming "socialism/capitalism is bad!" is helpful imho (and yeah, capitalism is still bad, but "magic pills" is also bad)
If you're willing to read the posts and studies that is provided maybe you can understand their points.
 

Kill3r7

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Have they considered birthright citizenship and being more friendly to young immigrants? It's unlikely that the first world overcomes this problem through progressive policy that induces their own citizens to reproduce more.
 

Eric_S

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I'll just drop my lol didn't read the thread take here.

It's a multi pronged thing.

The most important part relates to expectations on how your life is supposed to be and where you are. I'm sideeying social media here.

The second part is that big ticket costs like a larger apartment or house, together with a car, has outpaced wage growth. (In Sweden, wages adjusted for inflation have generally been growing since the 90's).

Then you have the degree inflation, making people hit the job market later. => Even the ones who have kids have fewer kids since time and biology are still things.


People have had kids in far more miserable times before. And in worse housing conditions. And… But good luck getting people to accept this, especially when getting a distorted view of what the middle class entails.
 

RockAction

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as with pretty much any societal ill right now, it's money

in one sense day to day expenses, it's very expensive to have kids now, even with better parental leave/universal healthcare/higher wages etc in scandi countries it's still expensive

in another sense also that you need two incomes just to have a decent life now even without kids, again in a scandi country or anywhere else

on top of that you need (to pay usually) to study to make a decent wage to live a decent life with two incomes, sacrificing years (usually your 20s, peak reproductive years) in education just to get into something that pays decent/well, we also work far too much/hard now, we're far more productive now than decades prior but barely make that much more money, also society is set up to enforce a standard of 9-5, 5 days a week, you have to negotiate alternatives and be grateful for it

until we decouple work and money and independence (ie an individuals worth or power in society) then this will keep going

also as someone in a same sex relationship in Norway it's illegal to do surrogacy here, I'd love to have kids but we have to save up the equivalent of a house deposit just to go and spend that outside the country (we're also on the domestic list to adopt but that could be years if it happens) so there's also the aspect of who should have kids

something at the back of people's minds too probably is climate change, what kind of world are we bringing a child into, what will the next generation live to see, it's actually quite grotesque in a way to bring a child into a world where we're already experiencing a lot of doubt and fear and challenge, it'll be ten fold at least by the time they're old, I'm sure some people are just happy to leave them out of it and enjoy whatever life they can have themselves now
 

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Then why do impoverished people keep popping out babies at 2-3.5x our birth rate? We love to complain about cost of living but billions of people live in absolute poverty and unthinkable conditions yet they keep having babies.
Because...
Developing countries are providing labour for developed countries, so having children is also tied to providing labour force for the imperial core. Along with religious and cultural factors emboldening that. I don't think all these things can be divorced from each other.
 

IpKaiFung

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Impoverished countries also tend to have worse paediatric healthcare, so the child death rate is higher there. Therefore, people will have more children as a result.
 

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People have had kids in far more miserable times before. And in worse housing conditions. And… But good luck getting people to accept this, especially when getting a distorted view of what the middle class entails.
Exactly.

I highly doubt people in the thread would suddenly have 10 kids if they won the lottery today. It's a cultural shift.
 
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Exactly.

I highly doubt people in the thread would suddenly have 10 kids if they won the lottery today. It's a cultural shift.
It's a cultural AND economic ideological shift.

People had many children in the past as the logic was "more children = more income", which is why we see it persist in developing countries. Increasing affluence, education, and better financial planning have influenced people's decision to postpone/not have children, hence the childfree lifestyle is popular among societies in developed nations and the wealthy class in middle-income nations.
 

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Well use that money to hire people.
The whole problem is there won't be people to hire. The youth will have to spend their money and lives to take care of the elderly. Eventually it should even out when enough elderly die, but it will be brutal for the economic livelihood for certain young generations in the process. I wouldn't be surprised if some dictator country straight up announced a culling of people once they reach a certain age at some point
 

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Impoverished countries also tend to have worse paediatric healthcare, so the child death rate is higher there. Therefore, people will have more children as a result.
Children provide a support system. I know many Western people gawk at that. But extended family networks are crucial for survival in poorer countries. You can't make substantially money, so you make more kids. There's very little class climbing, so the next best thing is another worker that brings in funds to the family basket.
 

Tomasoares

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Children provide a support system. I know many Western people gawk at that. But extended family networks are crucial for survival in poorer countries. You can't make substantially money, so you make more kids. There's very little class climbing, so the next best thing is another worker that brings in funds to the family basket.

Also it's harder for the children to survive in poorer countries (which was the situation of many current developed countries ones in the past), so having more of them is a way to increase the chances of survival as well.
 

Rampage

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If you're suggesting things were better 30 years ago, as a general rule they were not.

Thing has changed in 30 years is freedom of women legally. Women do have the right legally in many place to choose to not have kids because they are not locked into marriage. They can own their own property, don't need a male family member for legal matters, can get full educations, and can get jobs to support themselves.

What has not adjusted is culture. Yes, it is more accepting of different lifestyle in places. But the foundations of how societies work have not kept up. Countries that are doing well economically have still not figured out how to balance work-life with child-rearing. Culturally, workplaces still view women to be not as valuable as men, leading to choose between careers or having a family.

Male work culture make is near impossible for father/partner to take off time for kid stuff or just work 40 hours. Single dads face discriminate in both work and social culture. If you don't have a wife, surely a mother, grandmother, sister, extra to take care of your child so work and society can continue to devalue a father role in child-rearing.

Culturally, many countries have still not accepted the ramification of a longer childhood. Economies are still based around people having kids in their early 20. They haven't adjusted to people wanting to in their early 30s or opting out all together.

Economists need to come up with ways countries can sustain themselves with new realities of culture values toward kids, instead of trying to get people back to the old ways of raising families.

Capitalism has driven people apart in its quest for more money. The bonds between human have broken down with the ideal of the nuclear family over the village family. Because of demand of works, people simply do not have time to create and maintain bonds with family and friends.

While children can be raised by 1-2 people, it is simply better for everyone if they have a larger support network. A single parent does not need a partner. But having extended family, circle of friend, or local community that help should be normal.
 

Pau

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Yeah, but what is the prime driver of this cultural shift if it's not material conditions?
Women finally having a choice and not wanting to 1) become pregnant and/or 2) be mothers. What it means to be a mother (versus a father) is a cultural role that is influenced by material conditions but also other social factors.

For how different it typically is being a mom versus a dad, even when both parents have day jobs, see Dad Privilege Checklist. That's a lot of extra labor to sign up for that society thinks should be ours by default. Is it really that much of a surprise that a lot of us don't want to do that?

Also ties into what someone mentioned before about how what it means to be a good parent has also seen a cultural shift.

Thing has changed in 30 years is freedom of women legally. Women do have the right legally in many place to choose to not have kids because they are not locked into marriage. They can own their own property, don't need a male family member for legal matters, can get full educations, and can get jobs to support themselves.
Exactly.
 

Muu

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Aside from everything that's been said here: how much of the problem these days is matchmaking? There's going to be a lot that's needed to fix sentiments of "people who never want children" and who knows if that's even possible, but we also have a not-insignificant number of people that would love to have kids but can't seem to find the right partner for whatever reason. For-profit matchmaking websites seem to enshittify itself for the sake of profits. 40% of under 45 low income w/ no children seems to suggest there's issues with at least some groups in finding someone at all.
 

Kenai

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The answer to an aging population/workforce is probably going to be found in a mixture of treating parenthood as a full time job (pay these people, especially women and pregnant women but everyone involved in the process of childcare) and AI to assist with an aging populace instead of expecting their descendants to take care of everything. This is going to have to be coupled with UBI. Which means that things will probably reach a critical point long before things start to improve.

AI especially could be quite useful for this but tech gremlins are too focused on stealing artwork and forum posts from data scraping, so that well is going to be poisoned for many years as people (rightfully) assume the worst about whatever new company comes along with a supposed miracle solution. Chances are the company in question and those that hire them will be more interested in displacing human workers to save a buck than providing sustainable long term care and helping society transition to UBI.
 
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Thing has changed in 30 years is freedom of women legally. Women do have the right legally in many place to choose to not have kids because they are not locked into marriage. They can own their own property, don't need a male family member for legal matters, can get full educations, and can get jobs to support themselves.

What has not adjusted is culture. Yes, it is more accepting of different lifestyle in places. But the foundations of how societies work have not kept up. Countries that are doing well economically have still not figured out how to balance work-life with child-rearing. Culturally, workplaces still view women to be not as valuable as men, leading to choose between careers or having a family.

Male work culture make is near impossible for father/partner to take off time for kid stuff or just work 40 hours. Single dads face discriminate in both work and social culture. If you don't have a wife, surely a mother, grandmother, sister, extra to take care of your child so work and society can continue to devalue a father role in child-rearing.

Culturally, many countries have still not accepted the ramification of a longer childhood. Economies are still based around people having kids in their early 20. They haven't adjusted to people wanting to in their early 30s or opting out all together.

Economists need to come up with ways countries can sustain themselves with new realities of culture values toward kids, instead of trying to get people back to the old ways of raising families.

Capitalism has driven people apart in its quest for more money. The bonds between human have broken down with the ideal of the nuclear family over the village family. Because of demand of works, people simply do not have time to create and maintain bonds with family and friends.

While children can be raised by 1-2 people, it is simply better for everyone if they have a larger support network. A single parent does not need a partner. But having extended family, circle of friend, or local community that help should be normal.

Here here

Women finally having a choice and not wanting to 1) become pregnant and/or 2) be mothers. What it means to be a mother (versus a father) is a cultural role that is influenced by material conditions but also other social factors.

For how different it typically is being a mom versus a dad, even when both parents have day jobs, see Dad Privilege Checklist. That's a lot of extra labor to sign up for that society thinks should be ours by default. Is it really that much of a surprise that a lot of us don't want to do that?

Also ties into what someone mentioned before about how what it means to be a good parent has also seen a cultural shift.
These are still economic factors. The changing cultural attitude is influenced by economic ideology and policies.

Neoliberal conservative societies demand dual-income households yet at the same time demand women to be the sole domestic carer, which are at odds; ergo, Capitalism is incompatible with Reproduction.
 

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I have two little boys that I love more than anything, but here's how UK society feels to me at the moment:

  • Both parents are expected to work 40h weeks and offload their children to childcare during work hours
  • That childcare is more expensive than it has ever been. In the UK, funded places are scarce and nurseries don't really want to place children on the 30 free hours offer, because they barely cover their costs. That's despite often employing very young childcare assistants and paying them very little. I'm not 100% sure on who is screwing who the most, but from speaking to people who work in nurseries and every parent I know, I can say there's discontent with it and it's expensive. Some people give up work and accept relative poverty to spend a few years raising young children themselves.
  • Rent payments are high
  • Half of UK working renters are one pay cheque / mistake away from losing their home
  • Mortgage payments are high, record low interest rates have come to an end, they've stabilised but people on 5 year agreements are still sitting on a timebomb
  • Income to debt ratios are tilting ever more towards debt
  • Austerity has crippled this country
  • There is no serious investment in the country or its people, its talents or its industry -- only vultures preying on it to make money
  • They used links with government to steal billions during Covid, but our useless media haven't pursued arrests - instead, they attack leaders of the SNP or the deputy Labour leader for crimes that would seem petty by comparison
  • If people can be kept floating just above the waterline and "feel" affluent enough to have things they can't really afford - an iPhone, Premier League football and a social life - dissent stays low. But people are about 2 weeks from disaster if they're made redundant.
  • Proper childcare: gone.
  • Proper education with grants, funding and affordable loans for our best inquisitive minds: gone.
  • The NHS: struggling
  • Hope: hard to come by
  • The drug economy is naturally everywhere because it offers an answer, whether that's by making you money in dealing or by numbing you, and the effect is strangling happiness and hope and progress in young lives, drink and drugs are embedded as a measure of coping, or having some way to enjoy this life here - and it's corrosive to society. If you travel UK cities, villages, leafy suburbs, isolated little hamlets, satellite towns to ancient monied lands, you don't see it everywhere, although to some degree it is. It's a brain-rotting post-code localising disaster.

Having kids is fucking hard. I am the most tired I have ever been, I am struggling to function more than I ever have. But then you have to pile the shit-show of our mismanaged society on top. I don't begrudge people prioritising their own health and happiness, but I wish things were better - because having positive human relationships, a partner, a little human being or two in your life, innocent, full of joy and wonder - not yet burdened by life's ennui - by all this shit, is nothing short of magical. A cuddle on a couch, cradling them, knowing you bring them comfort and that there is love among you, it makes life worth living.

I fucking hate this Conservative government and Keir Starmer is shit as well. None of them are up to the challenge of giving people hope and a more positive environment to live in.
 

Pau

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These are still economic factors. The changing cultural attitude is influenced by economic ideology and policies.

Neoliberal conservative societies demand dual-income households yet at the same time demand women to be the sole domestic carer, which are at odds; ergo, Capitalism is incompatible with Reproduction.
I don't disagree with you about capitalism, but my point is that it isn't solely economic. A lot of that Dad Privilege Checklist like which parent has to make the doctor's appointments isn't solely determined by the current economic system: it's social. Switching to socialism doesn't automatically change the social expectations of who is the primary caregiver.
 

Rampage

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Then why do impoverished people keep popping out babies at 2-3.5x our birth rate? We love to complain about cost of living but billions of people live in absolute poverty and unthinkable conditions yet they keep having babies.

Because the culture around late stage capitalism focus on the individual to maximize profit, in oppose to fostering strong social bonds to profit society. This mind set has replaced the idea of family and community being the ultimate goal of life.

It is now self-profit for the individual. The ideals of late stage capitalism are also tied to why adults in western culture are lone and isolated from each other. Endless chasing money for rich people leaves no time for the average worker to have a life.
 
Capitalism has driven people apart in its quest for more money. The bonds between human have broken down with the ideal of the nuclear family over the village family. Because of demand of works, people simply do not have time to create and maintain bonds with family and friends.
Because the culture around late stage capitalism focus on the individual to maximize profit, in oppose to fostering strong social bonds to profit society. This mind set has replaced the idea of family and community being the ultimate goal of life.

It is now self-profit for the individual. The ideals of late stage capitalism are also tied to why adults in western culture are lone and isolated from each other. Endless chasing money for rich people leaves no time for the average worker to have a life.
Er, no. People do not have less leisure time than in the past — indeed, with the advent of so many labour-saving devices, there's overall less time dedicated to mundane household tasks than ever. People are just choosing to spend that leisure time differently than before.
 

krazen

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I don't disagree with you about capitalism, but my point is that it isn't solely economic. A lot of that Dad Privilege Checklist like which parent has to make the doctor's appointments isn't solely determined by the current economic system: it's social. Switching to socialism doesn't automatically change the social expectations of who is the primary caregiver.

It circles back though: Traditional dad vs traditional mother role is because Men were the primary, and even in dual income families now, the main breadwinner. Dad's too busy for small stuff like apts, cleaning etc…he's working a mean lean 40+ hours. Dual income, yeah she works but most likely her job will he less paying and not as important.

Will it switch, no. But capitalism has served as a big part of the patriarchy toolbox. I get the annoyance at how it feels like a catch all phrase but the reason why is less debate laziness but that we literally have structured our society around an economic system even above cultural norms: look at the shifting cultural attitudes as places like China and India move up the economic ladder and that's just them getting a bigger piece of the capitalist pie.
 

andymoogle

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Population growth is the general engine of economic growth since you have more production and more consumption as population increases. Without that guaranteed growth modern economic models and political systems no longer make sense and are likely to collapse. What systems can function without guaranteed growth haven't been figured out yet.
It's not that it hasn't been figured out. Capitalists have all the power and they are never going to give that away.