The basic answer: Whoever invites or initiates the date should pay.
The real answer for people with Game: If you don't feel like paying for the whole first date, then you shouldn't be going on the date. Successful dating is about selling an experience...it's very telling why people are so poor at making it to the second or third date. If you had to choose between going to Disney World and paying, and going to Disney World for free...what would you choose?
Not to mention, the more attractive someone is overall, the more options they have. You don't want $20 to be the difference maker. Now, that doesn't mean going to the most expensive place or anything, which is why it's often better to go to a bar or maybe a park with a food stand or something "light", without planning anything ahead of that and playing it by ear.
If a woman is going to think less of me because I didn't offer to pay for her when I don't know her based on outdated social norms from when women had no income, she isn't worth my time in the first place. Treat yourself better.
But it's not thinking less of you...you are a total stranger and EVERYTHING you do can be seen as a precedent. There is little to nothing you will do on a first date that makes you special or to make someone think you are worth their time.
It's not about social norms...women have more options, and alot of times, those options turn sour real quick. Lots of stories about guys "forgetting their wallets" or suggesting all these places only to get defensive over the check. But again...if you don't want to pay right off the bat then don't go on the date.
I always pay for the fullmeal.
It's shitty when you do that and the person then ghosts you the next day. At least tell me you're not interested at the least.
It's not shitty, you are a total stranger and that person doesn't owe you anything. Plus, the vast majority of people don't handle rejection well. Not hearing from a person IS being told they are not interested.
When I was single, I'd always offer and be willing to pay, but I admit I'd judge if she didn't make even a token offer to split.
And this is the other good point...on the other side, the person should still offer to pay. And I forgot to list this as the
NUMBER ONE reason you should offer to pay, how they react tells you everything you need to know. There is no better way to get information about who a person really is then by when the check comes.