No problem, don't be too hard on yourself and focus on getting through it for now.
I'll definitely do my best. Thank you.
Rough situation to go through OP. Have dealt with similar shitty situaitons in the past. Stay strong and move forward. You deserve a break from the wreck of a situation and a good clean new start. Best of luck mate
Sorry to hear you had your share of problems too. But that's sure to be plan. A clean start sounds good, even if this still hurts like crazy right now. Definitely not the greatest feeling.
Based on experience she very likely has a new bf.
At this point, I'd rather not know. If it is the case, then that really sucks. But I guess not much that can be done about that.
Despite being angry, my mom is still holding out hope that she comes to her senses if I leave and she realises what she threw away but I'm skeptical. If she has actually met someone, then gg I guess.
In crappy situations I try to find the positives.
In your case, OP, it sounds like you can more or less make a clean break with her. As in, none of your friends or co-workers are also her friends. This is definitely better than a situation in which she became a part of your circle of friends, and now wants to end your relationship while remaining a member of your circle. That happened to me 8 years ago, and it led to the most miserable year of my life. That said, following that, I met my best match and am now happily married.
Every failed relationship is, in essence, narrowing down. For those who want to be attached, the goal is not to find a partner; it is to find your best partner. From the sound of things, this person was not your best partner. Clearly, you love her and this hurts, but please try to believe that this is ultimately for the best.
Hang in there.
And also, if at all possible, until you're able to get out of there, don't sleep in the same room as her. That's just going to make it more difficult than it already is.
That's a really good point about making a clean break actually. It's nice to actually know we can avoid crazy complications through all this.
I'm really sorry to hear about experience you went through. That must have been beyond shitty, dang. I'm glad you made it through though. Helps instil a bit more confidence when things seem so dire right now.
I'll try keep a positive outlook as much as I can.
Unfortunately, our flat is pretty small so sleeping elsewhere is actually kind of hard. But if things are as over as they seem to be, I don't think I'll be sticking around here for much longer. Just being with the cats is killing me enough.
Just move out. Don't be around her. Don't waste your time with someone that doesn't respect you. If she doesn't want you then that's on her and she's the one missing out. But the way she's going about it is petty and childish as fuck. Cold shoulder rather than at least a conversation is unfortunate how cowards roll. Don't stress too much over it. Believe it or not she's doing you a favor now. You own her nothing.
She chooses to be indifferent to your emotions ask yourself: Is this someone I really want to attempt to build the rest of my life with?
Yeah, you're right. I tried to get across to her tonight that the way we're going about all this is a bit messed up but she was still totally indifferent, so I suppose to her it's a done deal.
The conversation tonight hurt a lot but changed my perspective a bit.
I mean yea, but why stress dude out even more by pointing it out.
Although I'd definitely mention it to her. Something along the lines of "Ya wanna break up I'm ok with that but at least don't be trash and attack me cause you out cheating."
Too many folks just can't admit they found someone else and move on. Instead they toss hostility out cause they're projecting and it makes it easier to break up if they can be mad about it.
If she did meet someone else, I'd really rather not know. I think it would mess me up even more and just make this whole experience even worse.
Who's place is it? Yours or hers or is it joint?
If it's your place I'd honestly just tell her she's got to go then. If she's over it then she needs to move on and not just be sleeping at the OPs place.
The landlady is basically family to her (small Spanish town) so I don't think I'd have much of a leg to stand on if I tried to kick her out. It would make things so much easier though.
Based on my own experience, nothing as hardcore as that, but a long relationship anyway... it get's better.
I won't be in a day, a week or a few months, could be more, but you will get better and it's not the end of the world, as might looks like.
I'm just worried that you're 'alone' in Spain, I don't know your work situation, but there's a chance of you going back to the UK?
I'm glad you made it through your experience. Sorry you had to deal with this kind of thing too.
My parents said I'm welcome back in their home any time I want, so that's a relief. I have no idea what I would do for work at the start, but if that's the route my life takes, then heading back to university would be the first big goal.
You know what is funny? we play games and watch movies, etc. in order to have a good time and distract us from the heavy stuff. Then when something bad really happens, it seems like our hobbies dont really help us at all lol. To paraphrase that famous misquote, "videogames were a mistake",
OP, this is the best time to do a naked run on Dark Souls!
Haha, could be, could be. I tried to play some Red Dead 2 today but couldn't concentrate at all. I really struggled to motivate myself to do anything. I've really been an absolute mess. Turns out break ups are definitely not my strong suit.
