So I'm making this thread out of curiosity but also to ask for help and for your opinion. For the longest time I would have chosen the last poll option without a second thought but some recent events have challenged my own views and perception of myself.
Last year, my girlfriend broke up with me after 4 years of being together, that was hard and it came with all the usual terrible stages. After a few months, I ended up meeting another woman by chance, who is lovely and super smart. She's a teacher and also an artist, so she makes a bunch more than me but she's not superficial or materialistic at all. She has a great sense of humor, a heart of gold, is into nerdy stuff and it is generally a blast to be around her. To sum things up: I connected with this woman really quickly and I have never done that so easily before.
But here's the problem: she has a lot of health issues and is not physically attractive. We dated for a few months but she had to move away temporarily due to her work, so we kind of grew distant and due to my own internal doubts about the relationship's future, I decided to end things. One of the major things for me was thinking about maybe having children, it's not like I can afford them now anyway, but in the future... who knows. I kept thinking about them also having a lot of health problems and dealing with that for a lifetime.
However, we still keep in touch and she's just as lovely as ever, so I keep second-guessing myself about the whole thing. Am I making a mistake?
Last year, my girlfriend broke up with me after 4 years of being together, that was hard and it came with all the usual terrible stages. After a few months, I ended up meeting another woman by chance, who is lovely and super smart. She's a teacher and also an artist, so she makes a bunch more than me but she's not superficial or materialistic at all. She has a great sense of humor, a heart of gold, is into nerdy stuff and it is generally a blast to be around her. To sum things up: I connected with this woman really quickly and I have never done that so easily before.
But here's the problem: she has a lot of health issues and is not physically attractive. We dated for a few months but she had to move away temporarily due to her work, so we kind of grew distant and due to my own internal doubts about the relationship's future, I decided to end things. One of the major things for me was thinking about maybe having children, it's not like I can afford them now anyway, but in the future... who knows. I kept thinking about them also having a lot of health problems and dealing with that for a lifetime.
However, we still keep in touch and she's just as lovely as ever, so I keep second-guessing myself about the whole thing. Am I making a mistake?
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