okay, here's the disconnect: on the one hand, you've got naughty dog claiming that this hardcore, 'realistic' fictional violence is deliberate:
so, the intention is, yes, the graphic violence is there because they want us to feel something...
on the other hand, we've got you saying the game can be enjoyed while acknowledging that the violence is brutal - because, after all, it's fictional, not real...
so i'm supposed to feel 'something'. but not really. & there's the disconnect: if i'm supposed to feel 'something', but not really, then what the hell is it i'm supposed to be feeling? :) ...