Curiously enough, Twitter is one of the better communities as far as positivity goes for me. I try to only follow people who encourage positivity and share cool things, which I think helps reduce the amount of people who thrive on complaining and attacking.
Oh man, I'm so jealous... I need it for work unfortunately, or I really wouldn't be on there. I only follow people I like, but somehow negative stuff still winds up on my feed. Some of its political stuff, which I usually don't mind at all. But something about Twitter as a platform itself stresses me out. I think because everything has to be so short and punchy and attention-grabbing. And having it all mixed together with innocuous posts just freaks out my brain or something. On other platforms, it's easier for me to just keep scrolling if I don't want to engage with a topic at that moment. But often on Twitter, I've already read the entire tweet before I've had time to think about it.
There is a good conversation to be had about how much insulation is healthy for a person. I'm sure it's different depending on whom and where in their life they are. I know I've made liberal usage of ignore features on platforms that support them.
Definitely. I think it's important to engage with ideas you don't understand or agree with and sometimes that means an article/post can put you a little on edge. But I usually reserve that for more important things (like politics haha) and not necessarily video games. Sometimes I just want to talk to other people who also like a thing. Or at least not engage with people who will be hostile with me for liking a thing.
And while I don't know how much more common this is in male-dominated spaces, I'd say it's common in male nerd-dominated spaces. I think many people drawn to traditionally nerdy things often feel inadequate in some way. We all know how common having to prove yourself as a "real nerd" is; that doesn't come from nowhere. Sometimes it's like you're taking a damn test about your own relaxing hobby. It also doesn't help that some people tie way too much of their life to videogames, so that any sort of deviation from their "center" is seen as a personal attack. It's compounded by the fact that because they're being aggressive, they think other people are too.
That meshes a lot with my own experience, but I know I also tend to hang out in nerdy spaces online. I absolutely agree that it often feels like I've accidentally gotten into an argument when I was just trying to talk. A lot of the time I feel the need to talk someone down before I actually get to the rest of my post.
I'm sick of typing up a paragraph or two, and someone comes along and picks out one sentence and hyper-focuses on it. I don't even engage then. It's obvious they aren't interested in a conversation.
I hate this. They really are just there to argue when that happens.