Weeell, if they aren't children they can sort it out in a way that cheating doesn't happen. Mature adults have no need for cheating since they can communicate.It's not problematic. The people involved are not (hopefully) children.
Weeell, if they aren't children they can sort it out in a way that cheating doesn't happen. Mature adults have no need for cheating since they can communicate.It's not problematic. The people involved are not (hopefully) children.
Based on the posts in this thread and others, it's not obvious.
Weeell, if they aren't children they can sort it out in a way that cheating doesn't happen. Mature adults have no need for cheating since they can communicate.
All I learned from your posts is that you think cheating is coolAre you trying to be a part of this conversation? You just made a potshot without room to expand.
I think everyone has different thoughts on this. Personal experience, religion, upbringing. I think cheating is very adult.
I don't know where the hell you got your ideas about cheating bro or how that got instilled in you, at least you're consistentCommunication is overrated. I'm kind of the type that will go to this option first. Everyone is going to react differently, so sometimes more dialog is regressive.
He's a troll, just ignore himI don't know where the hell you got your ideas about cheating bro or how that got instilled in you
I don't know where the hell you got your ideas about cheating bro or how that got instilled in you
Nothing you have said has warranted taking you seriously at allThis is a pretty lousy way to deal with something you disagree with.
Communication is overrated. I'm kind of the type that will go to this option first. Everyone is going to react differently, so sometimes more dialog is regressive.
well this thread certainly took quite a a turnFor the people themselvers, i'd say they're doing quite good for themselves if they're able to attract a partner who is arguably aready committed, success attracts suitable mates as has always been since the neolithic.
The one that's being cheated on is in a fix however. Apperantly they're not able to command the respect, affection and loyalty of their spouse, and the fact that they allow this situation to occur Will making them the laughing stock of his family and working environment, I personally wouldn't let a spineless worm like that in any leadership role at my company.
Nothing you have said has warranted taking you seriously at all
You've already done quite a good job of that yourself. Your posts speak quite clearly about what kind of person you are.
You've already done quite a good job of that yourself. Your posts speak quite clearly about what kind of person you are.
There is no possible way you can support that percentage so you may as well have not said it.
The only time communication/dialogue might be regressive is when one or both parties involved do it as lip service, never committig to it properlyCommunication is overrated. I'm kind of the type that will go to this option first. Everyone is going to react differently, so sometimes more dialog is regressive.
So is cheating on someone. Rationalizating it away as "communication is hard, therefore cheat" doesn't really change that cheating is still a shitty way to treat people no matter how nicely you mask it with neutral language and tone.Excuse me? What kind of person am I? I've been responding to posters and clarifying when I can. This type of dialog is just hurtful.
Saying communication is overrated, cheating is a good decision, and then dropping that you are a counselor who has been involved with couples in the past paints kind of a creepy picture, tbh.Excuse me? What kind of person am I? I've been responding to posters and clarifying when I can. This type of dialog is just hurtful.
So is cheating on someone. Rationalizating it away as "communication is hard, therefore cheat" is still a shitty way to treat people no matter how nicely you mask it with neutral language and tone.
Saying communication is overrated, cheating is a good decision, and then dropping that you are a counselor who has been involved with couples in the past paints kind of a creepy picture, tbh.
I don't know you, and people are complicated, but I can certainly see why some people in this thread have a low opinion of you based on some of the things you have written.
you literally cannot be a decent human being and go around banging other men's wives. except in very specific circumstances that I don't think you're referring to.The topic of discussion does not conflict with being a decent human being though.
you literally cannot be a decent human being and go around banging other men's wives. except in very specific circumstances that I don't think you're referring to.
Your words speak for themselves. There's not a whole lot to take away from them other than a profoundly disturbing, and frankly dangerous considering your supposed profession, fatalistic thought process that rationalizes even the shittist of behaviors because "humans are complicated".
You also said those other things (which is what people are responding to you about) and are acting aghast at why people are reacting negatively toward you. I've read the thread, I was just laying it out for you as someone observing your conversations from the outside.I said communication is my top option. You should probably read the thread before jumping in.
If that is all you're about? Yeah, it's probably a shitty human being.
Saying communication is overrated, cheating is a good decision, and then dropping that you are a counselor who has been involved with couples in the past paints kind of a creepy picture, tbh.
I don't know you, and people are complicated, but I can certainly see why some people in this thread have a low opinion of you based on some of the things you have written.
are you a ntr fan or something, you're doing some dodges to try to justify someone being able to knowingly skip around someone's spouse's back and still think it can be balanced out by other good acts lmao...
You also said those other things (which is what people are responding to you about) and are acting aghast at why people are reacting negatively toward you. I've read the thread, I was just laying it out for you as someone observing your conversations from the outside.
Wow. This really is something else. Instead of laying the blame on the fucking cheater, just blame the victim. This is like the ultimate victim blaming.For the people themselvers, i'd say they're doing quite good for themselves if they're able to attract a partner who is arguably aready committed, success attracts suitable mates as has always been since the neolithic.
The one that's being cheated on is in a fix however. Apperantly they're not able to command the respect, affection and loyalty of their spouse, and the fact that they allow this situation to occur Will making them the laughing stock of his family and working environment, I personally wouldn't let a spineless worm like that in any leadership role at my company.
You've counseled married couples, do you have a degree in psychology or are you a licensed clinical social worker or marriage counselor or anything like that? What is the peer-reviewed literature and methodology you are basing your counseling off of? If you want people to trust your experience, if you don't want people to dismiss it as anecotal and flawed you could explain your credentials and expertise in the subject.Nah, still doesn't excuse personal attacks. I came in here with some experience on the issue and I don't think I'm saying anything outlandish.
I go through life with the reasonable expectation that strangers don't care about me and will take advantage of me if given the chance, so I find it hard to hold it against them. Like, yeah, if you're into my wife, and she gives you the opportunity to sleep with her, you're gonna take it. I'm just some dude, why would you care about how it effects me? It's like if I dropped $100 and you pocketed it. Would be nice of you to track me down and return it, but I'm not naive enough to think most people would look at it as anything but free money. I would do the same thing.
Now, if it's someone I know... that's a different story. Dick move. But even in that case, I'd be more upset about the spouse cheating than the person they're cheating with.
You've counseled married couples, do you have a degree in psychology or are you a licensed clinical social worker or marriage counselor or anything like that? What is the peer-reviewed literature and methodology you are basing your counseling off of? If you want people to trust your experience, if you don't want people to dismiss it as anecotal and flawed you could explain your credentials and expertise in the subject.
If they don't know, it's on the married person.
If they do know, it's on them both.
If the spouse knows too (and approves), it's all good.
If the spouse knows and joins in, it's even better.