So, cause there's a bit of debate here, I'm gonna run down a list his greatest hits/highlights, then you guys can tell me if this constitutes toxicity:
- Dated a girl for three years despite not loving her and telling her to her face that he doesn't love her, and him saying that he doesn't like Asians despite her being Asian, again to her face. Now, I didn't like this GF much, but come on man, you can't just drag shit like that out for three years! He kept dating her because he'd rather be with someone than alone, and that girl was just as co-dependent as him and she'd rather stay with a guy who didn't love her than be alone.
- His Asian GF dumped him for one of his best friends. He's still friends with that guy because he doesn't have many other friends, and I was actually getting angry on his behalf cause it was all kinds of weird.
- He lives with his parents (which is not a knock, I live with my parents too), but his parents want him outta the house, or to at least get rid of all his invasive tropical plants cause he's an amateur botanist. He said he'd rather move out than get rid of half his plants which is what they wanted. Things are still in the air, he has clearly not moved out.
- The girl he's dating now has anger issues, told him that he clearly likes her more than she likes him, and doesn't get why he loves her so much. She seems to treat him like dogshit and he just takes it. He complains about that all the time, but he refuses to take my advice about dumping her and being okay with being alone for a while because "He loves her and can't go on without her"
- after the last girl dumped him, he begged to come to the gym with me cause he wanted to start watching his diet and getting his life together. As soon as he met the current GF, he quit going to the gym and left me solo again, which frustrated me cause I told him that if he wants to come with me, he's gotta make a commitment and stick to it. I specifically stated that he needs to stick to it even if he meets another girl, cause you can't just let your partner run your whole life, you have to balance all your priorities.
- He's super passive-aggressive. His GF said that he can't keep his plants when they move in, so rather than have an adult conversation, he went to the store, bought three plants and sent her a pic of them with a winking emoji.
- he wants to date a hot tight blonde with double D's and yoga flexibliity but never puts himself out there. He's never asked out a girl in his life. When he was single, he was on Tinder and POF everyday swiping and would get depressed every goddamn day he didn't have a match. He matched with a few girls but refused to message them cause they were either too fat or not to whatever standard he had cooked up in his head. It's weird, cause his current GF is four years older than him and is way heavier, so I'm wondering if the fucking three months he was single dug into his psyche so much he just hitched up with her as fast as he could.
- He has a serious porn and masturbation addiction. Like, he has a kung fu grip but he refuses to get sexual therapy or some kind of medical help for it. He complains about his sexual performance all the time (it takes him well over two hours to cum with a woman) but refuses to get help.
- He always wants to go to a bar or club, but refuses to dance, talk to other people, flirt, anything. We sit there in a booth and waste a Saturday night drinking instead of doing something fun.
- He never takes responsiblitiy or attempts to change anything in his life, and prefers to just complain.
