You're right, I don't think they are automatically bad people, they are doing what they were taught works. The worst part is how defensive some people get when you present them with scientific evidence against corporal punishment.
It's also really scary when people use language like 'they/I deserved it' when talking about hitting kids.
This. I find it to be barbaric and doesn't really help.1. Yes.
2. I am for this being banned as 40 plus countries have already done so.
Then leave the thread. Nobody needs to bathed in your sense of moral superiority.
What I dont understand is why you would still do it when you were hit by your parents yourself
The "I turned out fine" thing always makes me laugh. Says who? How do you know you turned out fine? Can you really the best judge of your own mental health and stability? And perhaps most importantly, does this somehow justify abusing a child as long as they "turn out okay" in the end?
It's truly disturbing logic that falls apart the moment you start thinking about it.
Right, so why would you continue to get physically violent with a child if it didn't work?
It's almost like people who spank have lost control and resort to their lizard brain to do the thinking for them....
Hmmm.....
I'd rather get spanked then be forced to stand facing a wall tbh. At least it ends quicker.
See, I think for some people, the humbling needs to come when they're older and able to understand why it's happening. Life teaches me there are some dudes who just need some sense beat into them. Even on this forum, you got dudes who mouth off over the dumbest things and get real aggressive. It's cos they ain't ever been checked for their bullshit. All the sarcasm and mockery, it'd set them real straight and real quick at that if someone handed their ass to them.
Stick with it. I'm sure you can work out this logica conundrum on your own.
You are being highly reductive. For your logic to work, one punishment would work for all transgressions, ever. Nothing works like that, kids will not learn anything just by experiencing it once.
There are plenty arguments why people shouldn't spank their children, many already given in this thread. "You should only have to do it once" is not one of them.
You are being highly reductive. For your logic to work, one punishment would work for all transgressions, ever. Nothing works like that, kids will not learn anything just by experiencing it once.
There are plenty arguments why people shouldn't spank their children, many already given in this thread. "You should only have to do it once" is not one of them.
Legit suprises me what some people on this site get banned for, yet some posters are litteraly happily arguing that people should beat their children more.
Actually, what nobody needs is you saying children don't get beaten enough. Disgusting. My morals are pretty clearly better than yours, yes.
And you already said you're in no mood to discuss it, so why are you here?
That is the place of a forum; to debate.Going to be honest, I don't think it's worth having a discussion about this here. It's pretty obvious that I will be dogpiled to oblivion with people trying their best to pick apart my every word to find something to argue.
I think what you are asking is false equivalence but it really doesn't matter. The OP asked two questions and I answered them. I'm in no mood to debate my opinion on this, especially not here.
I can change my mind. The discussion is actually not going the way I thought it would go, with people being dogpiled.
I don't care what you think your morals are, you are the one with a problem with people who don't agree with you. If it's that much of a problem, you can leave.
I do have a problem with people who don't agree with me on matters of basic human decency, yes. Just like you have a problem with me and my superior moral values.
Your people Nigerian? I swear my African bredrins went through some real shit. My boy had to stand in front of the wall on one leg anytime he misbehaved.
I don't care about you dude. You are the one saying you are getting worked up. Peace.
I do have a problem with people who don't agree with me on matters of basic human decency, yes. Just like you have a problem with me and my superior moral values.
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Your people Nigerian? I swear my African bredrins went through some real shit. My boy had to stand in front of the wall on one leg anytime he misbehaved.
My dad destroyed me with this. Fuck that wall.
Basically, a lot of people have never been checked and think their shit don't stink. And if its improper for a parent to do it, best believe someone else will down the line.
Its beyond the hitting imo. Grounding them, taking the phone away, and time outs didn't stop these kids from becoming shitbirds nazis...
So these "good parents who don't hit kids" we're referring to still failed somewhere.
Im not pressed to hit kids, its just dumb to see y'all act like those who have got spanked are mentally damaged or some shit.
It scares me when people say some variation of 'I was hit as a child and I deserved it.'
That is the place of a forum; to debate.
I don't see how it is false equivalence. The goal of negative consequences is to defeat bad actions. If the logic for said consequence to that action doesn't teach them what's wrong but deters them out of fear, is that really learning? Say a kid touches a hot oven, the consequence is burnt fingers. It logically makes sense. If the kid attempts to touch the oven but you rip the child away to spank them, there is a gap in the logic behind the consequence. This is why I disagree with spanking.
Ok, let's say you are right. The fact is that even if you argue that all spanking does is increase fear in a child, that fear in itself can prevent negative consequences.
for example I was once given a spanking for walking away from my mother in a supermarket. I was a child, I did not know what a paedophile was, nor did I realise the dangers of walking away from my parents. Did it prevent me from being kidnapped? Hard to say but probably not. But I'll never know what might of happened if I didn't have that fear of what would happen if I walked away.
Have you been hit by your parents as a punishment and how is your stance about it today?
Generally against doing it to kids, though minor slaps to their hands are almost unavoidable when they're reaching for the inside of an oven or something. Don't so much consider that hitting in the sense of the aforementioned stuff. It's not really a punishment either so I guess it doesn't count.
I don't think people consider that the same right? I think most parents would find that acceptable
You seem curiously inclined to stick around for the discussion considering you've shown you're too afraid to defend your opinion.Then leave the thread. Nobody needs to bathed in your sense of moral superiority.