Well, I mean not supporting a person (within reason of course) means is not real family you care about ( at least in my country) and is a stranger to you; I think it's one of the best examples/definitions you can give of being a stranger vs being family you care.
I mean asking rent is something you would ask a stranger not a family member. Let's make an example: would you charge your close family members for taking care of their pet or house while they are away or to have them as guests in your house for some time?
Think about it: It's not like if relatives (like aunts and uncles) ask to come to my home as guests for a few months, I ask them the rent or to share bills (just as I wouldn't ask my son if I had one). It's something I would ask a stranger not a close family member. Just as if you need a temporary accommodation (even for silly reasons and not emergencies), your sister or brother shouldn't charge you with rent but help you to reciprocate the favours you did (and just to help each other since you are family and it should make you feel well to help each others since you are close). A personal example: relatives had my parent as guest for some time in their home while he was there vacation because it just makes you feel well to help a family member and more importantly stay around them or eating with them. In my country charging rent or even expenses (within reason and personal financial possibilities) means you don't consider them family and consider them strangers. So why wouldn't you do the same to your children?
Shouldn't you teach your children that taking care and helping family (be sons or sisters and brothers) and loved ones is more important than money and rent? So that they will remember that when they will have to take care of you when you are 75-80 years old, sacrificing money, maybe jobs, to keep an old father/mother in their home and who knows what else they will have to do (using paid vacations to stay with you and give up a summer trip, paying nurses and so on).
What is the point of having or building a family if you don't even really want them around and don't care if they will live better or worse than you after you will die (which is the point of helping them and not making them pay rent when they are young and should instead be saving to avoid poverty during retirement and maybe having saved enough between 18-26/27 years old so that one day they will be able to have their own children one day and carry on the family name and be happier); i mean trying everything you can so that your children will be happy and will have a better life (financially) than you after you die is all that matters in a family; making sure that your children will be happy, they will never have to worry about finances and hopefully stay and support you when you are super old to reciprocate (and possibly remember you after you die for all the help you gave them, including the rent and money he saved thanks to you when he was in need while he was a 20 something needed to have a better life for him and the next generation).
I can't even fathom to imagine how american grandparents must treat their grandchildren, if they treat their sons and daughters like this (kicking them out in cold blood and not supporting them as soon as they turn 18 like it was a magical date)? Do grandparents charge/ask payment to their sons for taking care of nephews if they stay and eat with them?
I mean when I was a children I stayed nearly a month or two every summer for 8-10 years at my grandparent's home and every grandparent would/should be glad to have them. I mean they often even complained that we didn't even come enough and always complained we lived too far. And same happens for many families here in Italy.
Grandparents happy to being around their grandchildren and having them as guests in their home during summer (especially when they live far away during the rest of the year). I mean if parents don't even want their own children, I can't even fathom to imagine how they must treat their grandchildren or maybe they even ask for payment to take care of them or having them around on a constant basis. I'm seriously appalled/terrified by a society made of people tha prefer enjoying their "golden years" (after their children turn 18) instead of being happy to have them around (and I don't see how one excludes the other anyway).
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