Like sending 65,000 texts. Moral of the story is, some people are just stupid.
This is a huge (probably most) part of it. Think about how many movies and stories and shows are about the plucky male "nice guy" underdog who keeps pushing and pushing and pushing until he gets the girl. Many people grow up thinking that relationships and intimacy are like an RPG skill tree that you can keep putting points into until a girl is attracted to you. It's seemingly beyond their thought process that a person could simply not be interested, and never will be. "I worked up the courage and nerve to walk up and ask you out, I deserve reciprocation!"
you messed up your thread by saying its just men who do this. ive had a drink thrown in my face, weird voices mails and a few other negative experiences with rejecting people.
people don't like being told that theyre not wanted.
Again, women can handle rejection poorly and no one is denying that. The fact is, men are more likely to react aggressively to rejection than women are. There's a reason the dating scene for women has been full of stories about women being stalked, threatened and harassed. Men have a much easier time shrugging shitty behavior off because it's not threatening to them meanwhile women have to be scared of getting killed because men can't handle rejection.you messed up your thread by saying its just men who do this. ive had a drink thrown in my face, weird voices mails and a few other negative experiences with rejecting people.
people don't like being told that theyre not wanted.
you messed up your thread by saying its just men who do this. ive had a drink thrown in my face, weird voices mails and a few other negative experiences with rejecting people.
people don't like being told that theyre not wanted.
This tends to be why I handle 'confessions' poorly. I get awkward since it's hard to let people down easily without hurting.
you messed up your thread by saying its just men who do this. ive had a drink thrown in my face, weird voices mails and a few other negative experiences with rejecting people.
people don't like being told that theyre not wanted.
First post nails itcovering disappointment with anger or acting like you dont care and are better is easy and makes you feel better in the short term at the expense of somebody else
and yes, people of all sexualities do this
i personally usually just become quiet and sad and walk away
Like...if I get rejected when I approach someone at a bar, I can just nod, wish them a good night, and return to whatever I was doing. I don't take it as a slight. Someone not being interested isn't a slight.
But some of these cats man...
Ego. Simple as that.
Women do it too but I think it tends to be less publicised because they aren't as threatening or scary as men. If a woman does it she's just a 'crazy bitch' and the dude thinks its funny because, well, he wasn't interested in her anyway.
If a guy does it it's threatening, imposing and scary. At the lower end of the spectrum if you give a guy your number and then ghost him he might harass you via text/phone for a few months, and at the upper end he might physically harm you. If you give him a hard 'no', he might insult you verbally or assault you physically.
As a woman when I used to be single it was honestly a relief any time I turned down a guy and he took it well. That was on the lower end of the scale though, most of them either took it terribly or if I tried the 'soft rejection' tactic they wouldn't leave me alone.
One time at a club a guy asked for my number and I tried a combination of both - I gave him a fake phone number, which he then immediately dialled in front of me. Thankfully he was in front of his friends and so embarrassed that he just kind of slunk off.
Thanks, interesting to hear that perspective
I assume you're a guy who's referring to being hit on by women?
In the last months we had what? 4 terrorists in the usa blaming women's rejection for why they had to openly shoot everyone?
Do you have ANY link showing that a woman EVER did anything like that in HUMAN HISTORY ?
Lady sent 65,000 texts because she was rejected. She told the guy she wanted to soak in his blood and broke into his home also. It happens on both sides.
Thanks. That line about feeling relieved when guys you rejected took it well really speaks to me. I think about that a lot
Translation: Big ego.It sounds immature, probably because we can be, and not saying it's right, but you are putting your pride/rep on the line to confess you are attracted to someone enough to want to go on a date with them... and rejection of your well intentions can hurt, especially if your options in general are already limited. It wouldn't be as big a deal if you could get anybody you want, but most people aren't that lucky
Eh ... yes it does. Sure, it's not only men, but there's clearly an issue with men handling rejection poorly and having more of an extreme reaction.People don't take rejection well, it's nothing to do with gender/sexual orientation/etc.
The 'friend zone' is a myth. If a guy isn't interested in being a girl's friend, maybe he should just ask her out rather than waste both of their time pretending to be a friend while hoping to wear her down enough over time until she changes her mind. That shit isn't so much a girl leading a guy on as a guy giving off completely the wrong signals of what he actually wants out of fear of rejection. Where a guy is genuinely good friends with a girl, it doesn't need the negative connotations, nor are you in a weird 'friendzone' if actual friendship becomes something more. But suggesting that it's somehow party A's fault when party B a) can't ask A out and b) hates the idea of actually being considered their friend is wrong. If you like someone, don't pretend to be their friend then complain when they act like you are.Rejection hurts everyone, just some people have better emotional skills and are able to deal with rejection healthily and others not so much.
But I will say this women should be straight with guys and not lead them on slowly into the friend zone that shit sucks too.
But yeah, males, get your shit sorted man children.
Queer here. Been rejected plenty times. Never resorted to calling a woman out of her name or badgering her. Just go home and cry silently.This fascinates me for some reason. I think i'll ask some of my LGBTQ friends for their thoughts on this
Lady sent 65,000 texts because she was rejected. She told the guy she wanted to soak in his blood and broke into his home also. It happens on both sides.
I always used to psych myself up to approach a woman by reminding myself that if I handle the interaction with the right tone, even if she turns me down, at the end of the day she'll feel a little flattered, which is a nice thing, i'll be a little hurt ego wise, but no big deal
It was a good attitude honestly, and if more dudes had a similar attitude they'd probably get more dates. Or I dunno, maybe these dudes ARE getting dates, and they just find it funny to blast back at those that reject them?
I dunno. Thanks for your post!
Why do you assume women get rejected far less often? I believe it, but I'm questioning the quantum, basically.People in general handle rejection badly. You just don't hear it as much with women because they get rejected far less often.
They're insecure. Here's how to properly accept rejection:
"I understand. No hard feelings."
you seem like a nice person