The fact they do exist doesn't mean it's not a lot of heavy trolling. R/incels was a running joke among my friends for a very long time, and it was quite well known on the list of sad subreddits.
Yes there is. The first girl he killed was someone he routinely harassed about dating. She ended up embarrassing him in class a week before the shooting.
Doesn't confirm him as an incel but it's pretry damning.
This thread got me browsing /r/braincels. Such a harmful place.
Quite actively trying to get others to not try and improve themselves. And apparently the original version of this guy's post had a call to violence in it, but was removed. Sad and dangerous communities that don't help anyone get better.
It's hard to believe anyone thinks that's a real story, yet here we are. *sigh*This thread got me browsing /r/braincels. Such a harmful place.
Quite actively trying to get others to not try and improve themselves. And apparently the original version of this guy's post had a call to violence in it, but was removed. Sad and dangerous communities that don't help anyone get better.
So they want to live like in The Haindmaids tale?
Fucking taliban more or less.
I swear to god when I read stuff like this plus half the rest of this thread it's like the moment where the sound disappears and you only see the lips keep moving.
There is something I don't understand AT ALL here.
An incel is a person who is deemed "unwanted by any partner" and I suppose its mainly about sex. Aka, people with low self esteem and very bad social skills or mental illnesses most likely. Now, because some school shooter proudly proclaimed themselves to be incels (or what??) let's just say "Fuck all incompetent ppl who can't get a sex life to work??" Is that it?
Someone please explain to me what the heck is going on here because if what I say is something you nod happilly to, I'm fucking leaving this site ASAP.
He's describing Gilead right?
Poe's law in actionThe fact that this is so similar to Roger's manifesto makes me believe who ever wrote this is no troll.
For your third one, firing someone with incel beliefs would be like firing someone over ISIS beliefs. It's not a political affiliation, it's a terrorist group. For the rest, I'm a big dummy and didn't realize your bulletpoints were in regards to companies firing employees. I'd say that in that instance, deplatforming can work so that their ideas don't infect others at the company.
I don't think it's a radical idea that a large amount of westerners that flew there and joined ISIS did so out of a desire to freely murder people and treat women like sex slaves, rather than any kind of religious conviction.Wow. ISIS look like boy scouts compared to incels in terms of how a society should look. Surprised these fuckers didn't at least migrate to Syria when ISIS was still around.
I once knew a (gorgeous) chinese-peruvian woman who told me she said no to her current boyfriend multiple times and that his perseverance changed her mind because "it showed he was really interested in her". (!!!). Like wtf?
I also listened to a This American Life podcast about 2 (attractive) syrian refugees where the guy wouldn't take no for an answer and kept trying several times until she said yes. (according to the reporter, they were both very attractive). Again: wtf?
I hate to admit it but the bottom line is there are women who like this. Maybe they're a small minority but they exist, so it's not just nerdy white men who rationalize it as "romantic".
There is also a minority of women who enjoy catcalling.
It's fucked up but it's true.
Wow. ISIS look like boy scouts compared to incels in terms of how a society should look. Surprised these fuckers didn't at least migrate to Syria when ISIS was still around.
I agree that incel is not new. The name is new to most people, but the core consequence of incels = being hurt and afraid of women, making them want to hurt women, goes back thousands of years. There are many people who've gone into lengths about how our marriage institutions, religions, traditions where created to oppress women(particularly sexually) and keep them from being able to hurt men in authority. From a point of view where a woman is not free, she can not break a mans heart. She is property, and if she strays she can be beaten, stoned, raped or killed. Or all four. Men are terrified of women. For all their superior strength through masculinity, a woman hurting a man seems to be that forever kryptonite that just breaks some men.
I think it's true what LegendofJoe said about that everyone needs to learn to handle rejection better. But it's not only that- Also, being proactive when things are not going your way. I'd bet that a considerable amount of people on resetera have had a tough years where they didn't felt like they had anything to offer to the opposite sex- It's not like incels are unique in their struggles. What makes these people different is that they decide to embrace self loathing and hate instead of picking themselves up and improving.
From where I am standing, there is a big overlap between between incels, racists, alt-right, neo-nazis and bigots in general. All of these groups have in common in that they seem to recruit pissed off men who didn't get laid, who've lost the social game. I've not seen a single bigot who seemed like he had a lot of shit going on. I don't believe that these people would be like that if they had a good life- good relationships, friendships, careers. There aren't any nazis who need to make a decision if they're going to do a spar yoga vacation in new zealand with their beautiful wife or go harras some minorities. These people are this way because their lives suck, and I think that's exactly the same parameters with incels. These people have lives that suck, and instead of crawling out of that hole, they just suck themselves deeper into it by going into these terrible communities.
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There are a decent chunk of people who make alts and post on incel subreddits just to troll the regulars to laugh at them and how easily swayed they are, or even worse in hopes of making someone snap or fueling violence. Most don't think it's real probably but a few will, and the ones who would believe that and internalize it are probably very dangerous and unstable people. The subreddit needs to be nuked from orbit and a sustained effort needs to be made after that to ban clones that arise, they've done it before, I don't know what other proof Spez needs in this case. That community cannot exist under the content policy.It's hard to believe anyone thinks that's a real story, yet here we are. *sigh*
*call meeting*
"Raise your hand if you're an incel"
*Incels raise hands*
One of the reasons this incel stuff fascinates and yet horrifies me is that it connects to my memories of being a teenager. I never turned into a misogynistic asshole, but I was a "nice guy" and crushed hard on a girl who had a boyfriend who treated her badly and she totally leaned on me for emotional support. I also had pretty low self-esteem and bad grooming habits. Somehow I managed to grow up and out of all of this, attempt to meet girls, (usually) not resent them for not wanting me, and find stable relationships. But if, during that vulnerable period of my teen years when I felt like an unlovable loser, I had found an online community to give me toxic comfort, I don't know what would have happened. I'd like to think I wouldn't have taken to the misogyny ever, but I certainly could see myself buying into "theories" about "how it really is."
Yup. I feel that. Scary to look back.I'm somewhat in the same boat.
I feel like I was just one wrong choice away from becoming one of them. It could have happened.
The examples you gave are both from cultures that are way more sexist (in general) than the European/American/British more liberal culture towards sex, especially when it comes to women. As you said, it is internalized indeed, but maybe not because of the media primarily.
Having grown up in a Latin culture where there is a clear division between ''women to marry and women to fuck'' that is weighing over every woman's shoulders based on her smallest actions, I saw many women who gave this 'rejection treatment' out of the fear they would be seen as 'sluts' and 'too easy' if they showed too much interest in a guy or made the first move, and also would be regarded as not as valuable by the guy even if the relationship started. And of course, they would never say to people/to the guy this was the reason, only to their female friends, often asking for advice.
It is not impossible that a girl do this motivated by her ego or thinking this is 'romantic' but from what I saw this was what happened in the majority of the cases.
Wishful thinking. Read Elliot Rodger's manifesto, in which he repeatedly fantasizes about establishing a dictatorship with laws similar to those.I feel like half this shit is trolls taking over and running with it like the flat earth shit.
You're not alone. In my early teens I had some pretty fucked up opinions about women. Heck, I think at one point I made a song blaming women for all ills in the world. The great irony is that at the same time I actually turned down several girls. Basically, I was a fucking idiot, but back then no such hateful self-pity communities existed to reinforce the bad state I was in (in my language at least, before I knew english well enough) and I eventually became friends and more with various women which pulled me out of that terrible mindset.One of the reasons this incel stuff fascinates and yet horrifies me is that it connects to my memories of being a teenager. I never turned into a misogynistic asshole, but I was a "nice guy" and crushed hard on a girl who had a boyfriend who treated her badly and she totally leaned on me for emotional support. I also had pretty low self-esteem and bad grooming habits. Somehow I managed to grow up and out of all of this, attempt to meet girls, (usually) not resent them for not wanting me, and find stable relationships. But if, during that vulnerable period of my teen years when I felt like an unlovable loser, I had found an online community to give me toxic comfort, I don't know what would have happened. I'd like to think I wouldn't have taken to the misogyny ever, but I certainly could see myself buying into "theories" about "how it really is."
One of the reasons this incel stuff fascinates and yet horrifies me is that it connects to my memories of being a teenager. I never turned into a misogynistic asshole, but I was a "nice guy" and crushed hard on a girl who had a boyfriend who treated her badly and she totally leaned on me for emotional support. I also had pretty low self-esteem and bad grooming habits. Somehow I managed to grow up and out of all of this, attempt to meet girls, (usually) not resent them for not wanting me, and find stable relationships. But if, during that vulnerable period of my teen years when I felt like an unlovable loser, I had found an online community to give me toxic comfort, I don't know what would have happened. I'd like to think I wouldn't have taken to the misogyny ever, but I certainly could see myself buying into "theories" about "how it really is."
I'm somewhat in the same boat.
I feel like I was just one wrong choice away from becoming one of them. It could have happened.
Yeah I was in the same boat as well. I think I was trending more toward MGTOW, foreveralone type person though.
I had a lot of anger/frustration but I never had any toxic beliefs or wish to take it out on anyone, I just figured that's how it is meant to be for me.
One of the reasons this incel stuff fascinates and yet horrifies me is that it connects to my memories of being a teenager. I never turned into a misogynistic asshole, but I was a "nice guy" and crushed hard on a girl who had a boyfriend who treated her badly and she totally leaned on me for emotional support. I also had pretty low self-esteem and bad grooming habits. Somehow I managed to grow up and out of all of this, attempt to meet girls, (usually) not resent them for not wanting me, and find stable relationships. But if, during that vulnerable period of my teen years when I felt like an unlovable loser, I had found an online community to give me toxic comfort, I don't know what would have happened. I'd like to think I wouldn't have taken to the misogyny ever, but I certainly could see myself buying into "theories" about "how it really is."
Like crabs in a bucket.This thread got me browsing /r/braincels. Such a harmful place.
Quite actively trying to get others to not try and improve themselves. And apparently the original version of this guy's post had a call to violence in it, but was removed. Sad and dangerous communities that don't help anyone get better.
You're not alone. In my early teens I had some pretty fucked up opinions about women. Heck, I think at one point I made a song blaming women for all ills in the world. The great irony is that at the same time I actually turned down several girls. Basically, I was a fucking idiot, but back then no such hateful self-pity communities existed to reinforce the bad state I was in (in my language at least, before I knew english well enough) and I eventually became friends and more with various women which pulled me out of that terrible mindset.
There's no difference from pretending to be a member of a hate group "for the lawlz" and actually being a member of a hate group, especially when it ends in people getting killed.I feel like half this shit is trolls taking over and running with it like the flat earth shit.
I feel like that is normal. When you're dumb, inexperienced, and impressionable. You come up with a lot of stupid thoughts. Porn is probably the biggest sex education in the country and you basically have to fail to move on.
Ideally, you interact more, learn more, and move on. But as you said, they find that groups that just reinforce shit
It doesn't help that little boys are literally taught to hate girls, and not everybody undoes that learning.
I worry for my girls as well. People make a lot of jokes about women being bipolar and what not, but men seem to be the one's who shatter fucking hard. They can't deal with stress.I read down this rabbit hole a few days ago when I first saw this post. I'm a pretty stable, mellow, positive and upbeat guy, but as a single father raising 2 girls, this shit was fucking with me pretty deeply. Some of what I read I kept thinking had to be trolling or something, but a large percentage is legit. I had a hard time processing that this many guys who have problems with woman could go this fucking dark. I still don't know what to do or think. The whole thing is a mind fuck.
Your time outside of working hours is no-one's business but your own and the people you choose to surround yourself with.
This type of 'sexual orientation' profiling is illegal in the UK.
It's actually more for eliminating potential discrimination against LGBT or Transgender folk, but if the 'door swings both ways'...
In the same token, that 'conversation' is incredibly disturbing and I'd be very worried about letting any woman near a man who thinks about them in that way.
my point is that if we try and say every guy who harasses or otherwise resents women is an incel, it makes it much easier to say these kind of behaviours aren't more widespread amongst men in general - which they are. misogyny wasn't invented by the incel community, they just turned it into their personal cult.
are they on the darknet? because it sounds like law enforcement material.
Sometimes I feel like I got lucky. I was definitely bitter and angry because I couldn't have what other people were easily (perception is key) getting. Namely, romantic relationships. I grew up on the cusp of these communities forming, and with a small amount of digging I would have found 4chan and probably would've fallen deeper into that hole. I can vividly see the fork in the road.Yeah, that was probably me too. It also helped that I had some friends who were girls throughout, especially in college. And this was all in the 1980s, so no online "support" communities.
Gilead is a paradise compared to that.
There's no difference from pretending to be a member of a hate group "for the lawlz" and actually being a member of a hate group, especially when it ends in people getting killed.