Probably doesn't help that men seem to be more focused on visual attraction while women value protection, parent ability and financials more due to instincts of protecting their children.
I may be wrong but I never red about a woman saying "The way he dressed forced me to rape him", only men seem to use sentence.
This isn't completely on topic but I wanted to address this for a few reasons...
Mostly, because these sorts of generalizations can contribute to an overall less equitable dynamic between men and women (which... is related to the topic).
The last sentence-- rape unfortunately is perpetuated mostly by men, whether it be on other men or other women. So, you're not going to read about women raping men because a) it doesn't happen as often, and b) many men are ashamed of reporting rape. Aside from that though, "the way she dressed" isn't actually a real excuse. Few men are literally just SO HORNY AND TURNED ON by a woman's outfit that they MUST rape. Rape is about power dynamics far more than just sexual urge, and the lack of understanding what consent is. The whole "the way she dressed" is used as an
excuse, to try and divert the problem (rape) away from the man and to somehow blame the woman. Again, it's
not about what the victim is wearing. It's about making it the victim's fault.
Next, the first sentence of yours is no longer as common in societies where men and women are equal in terms of education and careers. Both men and women, who want to have kids, will look for partners that will also be good parents. This is not a gender thing.
When women and men both earn money, financials are less important except when a woman has to give birth and take time off work. Then, the family's financials may become more important, but that's just how babies work.
Protection and visual attraction are based on society. What do women need to protect themselves from? Often, men. If women ran around committing most of the rape and assault and murder of men, and women were more afraid of what other women would do to them than what the men would do, women would no longer be looking to men for protection. Visual attraction is because for so long (and even now), women are valued primarily for their appearance (and sometimes, youth). All people are judged on their appearance but society tells everyone that a woman's appearance is the most important thing about her-- a society, btw, that is patriarchal. You're conflating the behavior learned from society with "this is how biology works," which is silly because women and men alike both care about appearance AND personality. If you actually believe that men primarily care about looks, then you are merely seeing the result of a society that treats women that way. It doesn't make it a biological truth.