LGBTQera |ERA1| (We're Queer)

WarpSpeedMolasses · Oct 25, 2017

Guys I need advice. Been talking to a dude online. We've tried to meet three times already, but our work schedules got in the way. Thing is I really do want to meet him, and he stated the same. We settled on this Sunday, but I just recalled there's a Halloween party I wanna go to, that I've frankly been hyped for all month.

Would it be weird to offer someone you haven't physically met to come with you to an event like this for your first "date"? Dynamics might be weird as I'll know people and he won't. Not to mention he'd have to prep a costume, etc. Postponing the date again won't be a good look, but I really don't wanna miss this party. :/

LOCK · Oct 25, 2017

WarpSpeedMolasses said:
Guys I need advice. Been talking to a dude online. We've tried to meet three times already, but our work schedules got in the way. Thing is I really do want to meet him, and he stated the same. We settled on this Sunday, but I just recalled there's a Halloween party I wanna go to, that I've frankly been hyped for all month.

Would it be weird to offer someone you haven't physically met to come with you to an event like this for your first "date"? Dynamics might be weird as I'll know people and he won't. Not to mention he'd have to prep a costume, etc. Postponing the date again won't be a good look, but I really don't wanna miss this party. :/

You have to make a choice. Ask him if he wants to go. If he says no then maybe do something else if you think there is potential there. If he goes just don't turn into a hot mess and be ready to leave if he's uncomfortable.

Loxley · Oct 25, 2017

WarpSpeedMolasses said:
Guys I need advice. Been talking to a dude online. We've tried to meet three times already, but our work schedules got in the way. Thing is I really do want to meet him, and he stated the same. We settled on this Sunday, but I just recalled there's a Halloween party I wanna go to, that I've frankly been hyped for all month.

Would it be weird to offer someone you haven't physically met to come with you to an event like this for your first "date"? Dynamics might be weird as I'll know people and he won't. Not to mention he'd have to prep a costume, etc. Postponing the date again won't be a good look, but I really don't wanna miss this party. :/

I think that'd be a bit much for a first date. First dates are usually supposed to be just between you and the other person so you can casually get to know each other better. Tossing in other people that this person would have to meet on top of needing to get a costume seems like unnecessary pressure.

I'd ask him if he wants to go with you, and if he doesn't then maybe the two of you can meet up before the party?

Crayons · Oct 25, 2017

Yagyujubei said:
I swear I evny you guys who can be open and gay and find someone

my solution is that i am a strong independent gay man who don't need no man

chronos4590 · Oct 25, 2017

Crayons said:
We go to the same college

Tell me when you have class so we can finally meet, Sorry its taken so long :x :x :x :x

Dead Prince said:
i would like to dedicate my post to Pamplemousse. Sad that hes not around to see a new Era. but he will not be forgotten

Never forget January 16, 2017.

Indeed Rest In peace Pamplemousse.

Panthalassic said:
Hello everyone! Might start hanging around here a bit...

Your gender? Gender? I hardly know 'er! (It's weird, I use they/she)

Your sexual orientation? Panromatic asexual I think

Where Are You From? The Caribbean

Where Do You Live? A rock in the Caribbean

How Old Are you? 24

Favorite Type of Music? Video game OSTs/chiptunes lol

Profession or Career interest? Work for the equivalent of the National Parks Service of my country as an Environmental Scientist

Favorite video game(s)? The Wind Waker is my all time fave. Also love Zelda, Mario, Pokemon, Overwatch, Undertale, gay girl VNs (indie or not), Splatoon

What are your hobbies (other than gaming)? Watching anime and cartoons, doodling, reading webcomics, scuba diving/snorkeling, birding. Recently been working on getting in shape aka I'm turning into a jock.

Hello always nice to see people from the Caribbean :) West Indies or Latin Caribbean ?

Crayons · Oct 25, 2017

chronos4590 said:
Tell me when you have class so we can finally meet, Sorry its taken so long :x :x :x :x

It's alright. Maybe we have met and didn't know it. Do you ever hang out around the student union?

Atlantis · Oct 25, 2017

Yagyujubei said:
I swear I evny you guys who can be open and gay and find someone

Open: Check

Gay: Check

Find Someone:

BAD · Oct 25, 2017

What an incredible week. First this slick new home, next a [Redacted]th Birthday, and then an iPhone X preorder.

Tuck · Oct 25, 2017

WarpSpeedMolasses said:
Guys I need advice. Been talking to a dude online. We've tried to meet three times already, but our work schedules got in the way. Thing is I really do want to meet him, and he stated the same. We settled on this Sunday, but I just recalled there's a Halloween party I wanna go to, that I've frankly been hyped for all month.

Would it be weird to offer someone you haven't physically met to come with you to an event like this for your first "date"? Dynamics might be weird as I'll know people and he won't. Not to mention he'd have to prep a costume, etc. Postponing the date again won't be a good look, but I really don't wanna miss this party. :/

Don't miss the date.

Personally, I wouldn't be up for a party with a guy I'm meeting for the first time, but thats just me.You can suggest it and see what he says, or try and meet him earlier in the day.

Platy · Oct 25, 2017

Your gender? Your sexual identity? Woman | Trans
Your sexual orientation? Bi (these days is more like "meh" or "way too much headache" but whatever xD)
Where Are You From? Brazil
Where Do You Live? State of São Paulo
How Old Are you? 31
Favorite Type of Music? Instrumental Rock
Profession or Career interest? Designer
Favorite video game(s)? Smash Bros, Mario Galaxy, Enter the Gungeun, Dustforce, Battle Circuit
What are your hobbies (other than gaming)? Drawing, reading comics, watching tv

WarpSpeedMolasses · Oct 25, 2017

Yagyujubei said:
I swear I evny you guys who can be open and gay and find someone

Lmao lemme get back to you on that "find someone" part. All guys I encounter seem to either be awesome and taken, or batshit crazy.

Deleted member 925 · Oct 25, 2017

GoldenTrichome said:
Your gender? Your Sexual Identity? Male
Your sexual orientation? Gay
Where Are You From? Indiana
Where Do You Live? Chicago
How Old Are you? 23
Favorite Type of Music? Electronic and Rock, Hip Hop and a bunch of varied artists
Profession or Career interest? Pet Stylist
Favorite video game(s)? Dota, Pokemon, Destiny, Civilization
What are your hobbies (other than gaming)? Photography, Art, Horticulture, Collecting vinyl and figures, and my boyfriend Kitchenmotors

Oh, hey you.

GallianGeneral · Oct 25, 2017

Yagyujubei said:
I swear I evny you guys who can be open and gay and find someone

If my family were to find out, I'd be disowned, or worse. And I'm not in a position where I can leave my family and probably won't be for a long time. Needless to say, assuming you're also in the closet, i feel you :( it's really shitty to be in a situation like that, I'm lucky I at least live in a liberal minded country, unfortunately my family doesn't share that view.

Deleted member 3896 · Oct 25, 2017

Hi LGBTQera! Happy to see everyone here :D

WarpSpeedMolasses said:
Guys I need advice. Been talking to a dude online. We've tried to meet three times already, but our work schedules got in the way. Thing is I really do want to meet him, and he stated the same. We settled on this Sunday, but I just recalled there's a Halloween party I wanna go to, that I've frankly been hyped for all month.

Would it be weird to offer someone you haven't physically met to come with you to an event like this for your first "date"? Dynamics might be weird as I'll know people and he won't. Not to mention he'd have to prep a costume, etc. Postponing the date again won't be a good look, but I really don't wanna miss this party. :/

Any chance you could do both? Like, have a drink beforehand and see how it goes and then if it goes well, head on to the party with him?

RatskyWatsky · Oct 25, 2017

Just got the thread title

WarpSpeedMolasses · Oct 25, 2017

I don't mean to make light of being in the closet outta necessity at all. (Most of us have been there at some point.) But part of me feels like finding someone while closeted would have had its fun aspects. Of course there are issues there that can't be trivialized, and I don't mean to be insensitive or minimize such struggles. But, having a clandestine relationship despite all the odds and hardships also seems like a romanticized plot outta some tearjerking story.

Or maybe I'm an idiot. I'll stop this foot-in-mouth level of cringe spillage.

GallianGeneral · Oct 25, 2017

WarpSpeedMolasses said:
Guys I need advice. Been talking to a dude online. We've tried to meet three times already, but our work schedules got in the way. Thing is I really do want to meet him, and he stated the same. We settled on this Sunday, but I just recalled there's a Halloween party I wanna go to, that I've frankly been hyped for all month.

Would it be weird to offer someone you haven't physically met to come with you to an event like this for your first "date"? Dynamics might be weird as I'll know people and he won't. Not to mention he'd have to prep a costume, etc. Postponing the date again won't be a good look, but I really don't wanna miss this party. :/

I would personally hate meeting a guy for the first time in a setting such as that, there's already going to be some pressure in meeting someone new for the first time and then there's added pressure in being in a social environment where you don't know anyone else! Then again, I'm a bit of an introvert :p

Panthalassic · Oct 25, 2017

chronos4590 said:
Hello always nice to see people from the Caribbean :) West Indies or Latin Caribbean ?

West Indies! Have a mixed background so I'm a bit of a mutt haha

Deleted member 5127 · Oct 25, 2017

Yagyujubei said:
I swear I evny you guys who can be open and gay and find someone

Why can't you?

GallianGeneral · Oct 25, 2017

WarpSpeedMolasses said:
I don't mean to make light of being in the closet outta necessity at all. (Most of us have been there at some point.) But part of me feels like finding someone while closeted would have had its fun aspects. Of course there are issues there that can't be trivialized, and I don't mean to be insensitive or minimize such struggles. But, having a clandestine relationship despite all the odds and hardships also seems like a romanticized plot outta some tearjerking story.

Or maybe I'm an idiot. I'll stop this foot-in-mouth level of cringe spillage.

Hahaha, I see what you mean and I've definitely been there, but it's really, really, tough to do that, and perpetually lie even more and if you catch feelings....good luck. It'd probably be easier with a FWB but a sucker like me falls quick.

WarpSpeedMolasses · Oct 25, 2017

GallianGeneral said:
I would personally hate meeting a guy for the first time in a setting such as that, there's already going to be some pressure in meeting someone new for the first time and then there's added pressure in being in a social environment where you don't know anyone else! Then again, I'm a bit of an introvert :p

Yeah I'm thinking it might make him uneasy. But...we can hide behind costumes and alcohol... I think ultimately, I'm gonna have to choose as others have mentioned. :/

Mercury Fred said:
Hi LGBTQera! Happy to see everyone here :D

Any chance you could do both? Like, have a drink beforehand and see how it goes and then if it goes well, head on to the party with him?

Only way that'd happen is if I let him know beforehand. It'd be shitty to take him there and be all "oh btw it's a halloween costume party" without saying anything first. I'm just uneasy about even offering the option as it might feel like pressure as others have mentioned.

Sheev · Oct 25, 2017

WarpSpeedMolasses said:
I don't mean to make light of being in the closet outta necessity at all. (Most of us have been there at some point.) But part of me feels like finding someone while closeted would have had its fun aspects. Of course there are issues there that can't be trivialized, and I don't mean to be insensitive or minimize such struggles. But, having a clandestine relationship despite all the odds and hardships also seems like a romanticized plot outta some tearjerking story.

Or maybe I'm an idiot. I'll stop this foot-in-mouth level of cringe spillage.

I'm closeted atm myself, and it's really hard for me to try finding people whilst trying not to out myself. Part of me just wants to come out with it and tell my friends considering half of them are either gay, bi, pan or lesbian anyway, but I'm still nervous about the world at large knowing.

Deleted member 3896 · Oct 25, 2017

WarpSpeedMolasses said:
Only way that'd happen is if I let him know beforehand. It'd be shitty to take him there and be all "oh btw it's a halloween costume party" without saying anything first. I'm just uneasy about even offering the option as it might feel like pressure as others have mentioned.

Oh yeah, I'd definitely float it to him first.

But ideally, you could postpone one last time?

GallianGeneral · Oct 25, 2017

Sheev said:
I'm closeted atm myself, and it's really hard for me to try finding people whilst trying not to out myself. Part of me just wants to come out with it and tell my friends considering half of them are either gay, bi, pan or lesbian anyway, but I'm still nervous about the world at large knowing.

Take your time, and do it when you feel comfortable and secure :) everyone's experiences vary so try to do it at your own pace. Do you know if your family would be accepting?

Crayons · Oct 25, 2017

Not to brag but being out of the closet is amazing

Sheev · Oct 25, 2017

GallianGeneral said:
Take your time, and do it when you feel comfortable and secure :) everyone's experiences vary so try to do it at your own pace. Do you know if your family would be accepting?

I think my immediately family whom I live with would probably be fine, that's my mom, my sister and my brother. But I don't really know how the rest would take it. I know the thinking is irrational, but the fear of rejection just overpowers it.

LOCK · Oct 25, 2017

I'm closeted to some of my family members.

"Yes we're real close roommates grandma"

kennyamr · Oct 25, 2017

Your gender? Your sexual identity? Male
Your sexual orientation? Gay
Where Are You From? Lima, Peru
Where Do You Live? New York City, NY, USA
How Old Are you? 26
Favorite Type of Music? Soundtracks
Profession or Career interest? Writer
Favorite video game(s)? Final Fantasy IX, Zelda BOTW, Mass Effect 2, The Last of Us, Nier:Automata, Yakuza 0, man... there are so many...
What are your hobbies (other than gaming)? Anime, Movies, Music, Writing, Business, Politics, etc.
Extra-- FFXIV character: Sora Alexandros (Jenova server)

Hello everyone! :D

GallianGeneral · Oct 25, 2017

Sheev said:
I think my immediately family whom I live with would probably be fine, that's my mom, my sister and my brother. But I don't really know how the rest would take it. I know the thinking is irrational, but the fear of rejection just overpowers it.

That fear is normal, even if we know our family loves us there's always that worry that they might look at us differently or that things might not be like what they used to be, and it can absolutely be jarring to navigate through those fears. Like I said, take your time, sometimes probing family members with random questions and commentary on queer culture can help you gain some confidence about bringing the issue up :)

Sheev · Oct 25, 2017

GallianGeneral said:
That fear is normal, even if we know our family loves us there's always that worry that they might look at us differently or that things might not be like what they used to be, and that can absolutely be jarring. Like I said, take your time, sometimes probing family members with random questions and commentary on queer culture can help you gain some confidence about bringing the issue up :)

Thanks for the advice, I'll keep it in mind! :)

Namyu · Oct 25, 2017

Crayons said:
Not to brag but being out of the closet is amazing

For real. Can't imagine how awful it is for people whose communities won't accept them.

Panthalassic · Oct 25, 2017

Only my best friends and my sister know I'm not straight. Terrified of coming out because homophobia runs rampant here (although girls have it better....). My Dad threatened me over a Pride sticker once and my Nana told me she'd disown me "if I ever brought a woman around like that" ("that" being after Ellen DeGeneres married Portia de Rossi) so

¯\_(ツ)_/¯

My mum has asked me if I "want a boyfriend... or girlfriend" in recent times though, so maybe someday.

Mauricio_Magus · Oct 25, 2017

I'm a Mexican in a happy same sex relationship with an American, we both question our sexuality and it's made our relationship rocky at times but we really love each other and want to make each other happy. That's pretty much it, I'm happy to meet all of you, not sure if some of you remember me at all from GAF but it's still nice to have an inclusive place like this.

Your gender? Your sexual identity? Male
Your sexual orientation? Not sure even if I identify as Bisexual
Where Are You From? Mexico
Where Do You Live? Mexico
How Old Are you? 28(I turn 29 in 3 days)
Profession or Career interest? Industrial Engineer
Favorite video game(s)? Most Nintendo, Atlus, Falcom, FromSoftware, and PlatinumGames stuff.
What are your hobbies (other than gaming)? Anime and spending time with my SO.

MEGrika · Oct 25, 2017

Hey everyone :) Long time lurker and just happy to be here with all of you!

Your gender? Your sexual identity? Trans girl
Your sexual orientation? Lesbian
Where Are You From? Southern California
Where Do You Live? Same
How Old Are you? 33
Favorite Type of Music? Goth Rock, Techno/Trance mainly but I'm into pretty much everything.
Profession or Career interest? Psychology, music and directing
Favorite video game(s)? RPGs and story focused games.
What are your hobbies (other than gaming)? Music is everything to me and I'm always listening to something. I also read fiction and watch tv.

Sibylus · Oct 25, 2017

~The return of the queen~

Your gender? Your sexual identity? Trans gal.
Your sexual orientation? Lesbian.
Where Are You From? Canada.
Where Do You Live? America.
How Old Are you? 27.
Favorite Type of Music? Indie rock/folk rock.
Profession or Career interest? Author.
Favorite video game(s)? Half-Life series, Civilization series, Starcraft series, Halo series, Age of Empires series, Company of Heroes series, Dota 2, Darkest Dungeon, Elite Dangerous, Portal series, Left 4 Dead series, FFXIV.
What are your hobbies (other than gaming)? Reading, writing, history.

Atlantis · Oct 25, 2017

Panthalassic said:
My mum has asked me if I "want a boyfriend... or girlfriend" in recent times though, so maybe someday.

My aunt has asked me something similar.

I'm not technically out to my extended family, but I'm not close with them. My aunt and mom (whom I'm out to) work together anyway, so I'm sure they're all aware even if they haven't spoken to me about it. The most important people in my life know.

Disclaimer · Oct 25, 2017

Your gender? Your sexual identity? Male

Your sexual orientation? Gay

Where Are You From? North Carolina

Where Do You Live? North Carolina

How Old Are you? 25

Favorite Type of Music? Probably indie rock / folk

Profession or Career interest? Vagrancy

Favorite video game(s)? Final Fantasy, Ogre Battle, (World of)Warcraft, Fire Emblem

What are your hobbies (other than gaming)? Reading. Traveling. Learning to cook new things. Spending entirely too much (read: most) time on internet forums.

Excited for this new incarnation of this community!

Sch1sm · Oct 25, 2017

Only did manage like a couple of days posting in the old thread, so I'll just share the intro again:

Your gender? Your sexual identity? Female

Your sexual orientation? Queer

Where Are You From? Toronto

Where Do You Live? Toronto

How Old Are you? 22

Favorite Type of Music? Motown

Profession or Career interest? Student, but I work part time as a pharmacy tech.

Favorite video game(s)? SF3: Third Strike, Civ, Gunpoint, Hacknet, Paint It Back/Picross.

What are your hobbies (other than gaming)? I sing and play 4 instruments, spend an obscene amount going to the cinema and collecting horror Blu Rays, and play some intramural sports at school so I feel less bad about all the pub nights.

GallianGeneral · Oct 25, 2017

Namyu said:
For real. Can't imagine how awful it is for people whose communities won't accept them.

It usually consists of a lot of mental health problems, intense feelings of isolation and loneliness, and constant lying. Not very fun to say the least lol

Delio · Oct 25, 2017

Yagyujubei said:
I swear I evny you guys who can be open and gay and find someone

I mean...still working on the find someone part.

Ultraviolence · Oct 25, 2017

kennyamr said:
Your gender? Your sexual identity? Male

Your sexual orientation? Gay

Where Are You From? Lima, Peru

Where Do You Live? New York City, NY, USA

How Old Are you? 26

Favorite Type of Music? Soundtracks

Profession or Career interest? Writer

Favorite video game(s)? Final Fantasy IX, Zelda BOTW, Mass Effect 2, The Last of Us, Nier:Automata, Yakuza 0, man... there are so many...

What are your hobbies (other than gaming)? Anime, Movies, Music, Writing, Business, Politics, etc.

Extra-- FFXIV character: Sora Alexandros (Jenova server)

Hello everyone! :D

omg you live in NY! What's it like over there

Deleted member 5127 · Oct 25, 2017

Delio said:
I mean...still working on the find someone part.

Yeah... it's work alright lol. Just last week I went on a date with a guy, everything went alright, he asked me on a second date, I said yes... and then whoosh, he disappeared and never replied.

Sai · Oct 26, 2017

RatskyWatsky said:
Just got the thread title

you can count on me to misbehave~ xo

EssBeeVee · Oct 26, 2017

Welcome
new Era members

bless the rich text editor for blessing us with colored text.

RatskyWatsky · Oct 26, 2017

Wait, how do we do colored text?

kennyamr · Oct 26, 2017

Ultraviolence said:
omg you live in NY! What's it like over there

ah!
Well, full disclosure, I am the total opposite of a social person, lol.
So I have to say that I'm not the best person to describe the fun parts of the city.
But ok let me see, personally I love the city, I know it has its issues and problems here and there but man, what a city!
I fell in love with the it instantly, since the moment I arrived for the first time.
People everywhere, lights everywhere, skyscrapers everywhere, stores/restaurants/bars/clubs/lounges everywhere, also tourists everywhere :p
It is my dream city, I wouldn't change it for anything... except maybe for the weather in California... but that's it.
I'm sure you'd love it.
PS: Oh, I forgot... the bad part, Manhattan is extremely expensive! That is the worst part, but it is not as 'impossible' as some people say.

Kinsei · Oct 26, 2017

RatskyWatsky said:
Wait, how do we do colored text?

The circle right next to the underline tool.

EssBeeVee · Oct 26, 2017

RatskyWatsky said:
Wait, how do we do colored text?

if you have the rich text editor. it's the black and white pizza icon next to the underline button.

Deleted member 873 · Oct 26, 2017

Your gender? I'm a cis man
Your sexual orientation? Gay
Where Are You From? Brazil
Where Do You Live? Rio de Janeiro
How Old Are you? 22
Favorite Type of Music? Pop.
Profession or Career interest? I'm an English teacher studying manga through an structuralist point of view in order to advocate for a more image-leaning studying of language in schools
Favorite video game(s)? Super Mario Galaxy, Breath of the Wild, Super Metroid, The Unfinished Swan
What are your hobbies (other than gaming)? Reading manga, watching anime and looking for hook ups

RatskyWatsky · Oct 26, 2017

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