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REgals [Women of Era] |OT| Episode I: The Female Menace
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What was your recovery period like and how did you feel afterwards? I would be getting mine for hereditary cancer reasons. I have a consult with a genetic counselor (who is also a gynecologist) in two weeks and I'm a little nervous. I'm relieved to hear you say it's been awesome!
So, I only had both ovaries removed and they were separate surgeries so I bounced back really quickly - less than a week. I had Endometriosis (like the kind they made a House episode about) everywhere so they had to go. I think I had 1, maybe 2 hot flashes and since then it's been smooth sailing. Not having periods is amazing.
I may be a bit atypical though. Some of my friends who have had hystos still complain about hot flashes.
Yeah, these are mostly my thoughts. I think it's a tricky one. I mean it's good that some men want to defend women, but I do think a decent amount of the time it's disingenuous. Some obviously do it expecting some sort of prize from you.
I've also had some man step in and ask if I needed help when some guy was being a bit weird and creepy towards me on another forum, and it made me feel like I was too weak to handle something like that, which i didn't like it all, and I was like I'm totally fine, it's just some idiot.
One thing I don't like at all is people thinking I can't handle myself.
The one that bothers me is when guys seem like they're trying to prove that they're not ignorant. They're more interested in telling everyone that they know something about the subject matter than they are in contributing naturally to a conversation or *gasp* knowing when to withhold from a conversation. So they drop in with a smattering of incredibly obvious and patronizing observations and statements. Not because it's new insight, but because they need you to know that they know things.
Omg. So much this. All the time. And I live being corrected by dudes on issues they have no first hand experience on because they read the Huffington post.
I recall that once some idiot was talking down to me for "White knighting". He was so sassy and arrogant told me that girls wouldn't care and I shouldnt speak in their place (right, because empathy is unheard of?). He ended his post with something along the lines of "Did you defend your (imaginary) girlfriend enough now?".
The words "I am female." never felt so statisfying to type and a conversation has never been over faster.
This is the internet, our genders shouldn't matter. This is a place where we all can be truly equal, I don't really understand why people try to force differences upon ourselves. We don't gain anything from it, we lose.
In general I don't mind anyone speaking their mind on any matter, as long as they respect other peoples opinions and don't disregard the opinion of a person with first hand experience.
This always feels great. They almost always slink away without comment.
It really bothers me when people assume your gender on a forum, especially in this forum since all it takes is a click to see if the person has chosen to display their gender or not. People often make that assumption about me, too, particularly in threads that concern women.
The worst kind of posts for me though are the disingenuous ones 'defending' women from other women. Like "I feel so sorry for all of the women who are being shamed for what they wear", and similar arguments in a thread criticising sexually objectifying character designs.
The worst kind of posts for me though are the disingenuous ones 'defending' women from other women. Like "I feel so sorry for all of the women who are being shamed for what they wear", and similar arguments in a thread criticising sexually objectifying character designs.
Yup, I also really dislike how they appropriate terms like 'slut shaming' in those arguments in defense of fictional characters with no agency.
I'm watching Jane the Virgin ATM, up to episode 2 season 2. This is why I don't watch a lot of romantic drama. Both guys are so perfect, in the good way.
There was a poster that called me a "he" when my handler literally says "Queen". That was an amusing one. I didn't bother correcting him though.
Ohhhh yeah. "What's wrong if someone wants to go on desert journeys wearing a bustier, exposed thong, thigh-highs, and 4-inch heels? Are we saying they can't present themselves how they want, or be proud of their bodies? Stop shaming these true feminists (who are actually characters in a game and not real people)!"
Apparently, it's wrong to wonder why is a woman, who is only wearing a skimpy bikini, walking around in an ancient dungeon.
I will never not laugh at these "arguments", hah. Gotta love dudes explaining to women that these anime boob ladies are the true feminists, not us real women.
What about cosplayers?! What about sex positivity!?
I decided a couple weeks ago I'm going to start assuming users who don't have their gender listed are women, and referring to them as such.
That happens to me every year. And it doesn't matter if I'm out shopping or online. I inevitably see something I want and nab it.
Has happened to me too many times to count haha
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Have 3 gift bags sitting in my closest, one each for my mother and 2 younger sisters, my Christmas shopping it complete now to relax until early next week!
I'm okay, I'm just referring to the news about the repeal of Net Neutrality and the Tax Bill.
Fucking hate having to deal with some of my bullshit flaky relatives. Day to day it doesn't really bother me, but when shit happens, it really bothers me. I don't know why I even care about these fucking people when I've reached out multiple times about meeting up when they're visiting up here and never get a fucking response. And then I see pictures of them on Facebook making the rounds with all of the other relatives. And I don't know why they don't ever plan anything with me. I have no idea what I did. I haven't seen my little cousin since she was the flower girl at my wedding almost 8 years ago, and now she's in college.
I hate this shit. I'm actually looking forward to my mom's side's annual Christmas gathering this year, when I'm usually annoyed about it. At least the people who generally attend aren't fucking flaky assholes and have always had my back.
Since I've started seeing a therapist, I don't get upset about many things anymore. I'm generally pretty good at controlling my emotions now. But this is killing me. I used to see these people for every major holiday growing up and now I haven't seen them in 8 years and I don't know why.
I hate this shit. I'm actually looking forward to my mom's side's annual Christmas gathering this year, when I'm usually annoyed about it. At least the people who generally attend aren't fucking flaky assholes and have always had my back.
Since I've started seeing a therapist, I don't get upset about many things anymore. I'm generally pretty good at controlling my emotions now. But this is killing me. I used to see these people for every major holiday growing up and now I haven't seen them in 8 years and I don't know why.
I never actively decided to do so, but I am more often than not assuming that a person is female (and in the end it turns out they are male). Although I do have to admit that I already had a few situations (you can count those with one hand though) where I thought "Oh well he has a strange point of view" and it turned out to be a woman.
In the end it doesnt really matter because I couldnt care less about a posters gender.
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Eh no it's just that poster.
He has a history of being like that. Some of his greatest hits- Russian strippers are into me because I am hot, why won't this stripper date me, this stripper loves me, etc. It's probably a troll, which is why the ignore button exists.
That's great news, I'm happy for you! Hope you had a good time! ^_^
Oh wow. That's such a long time. I'm basically a completely different person from who I was eight years ago. Did you keep in touch at least?
Via Facebook, yeah. But she was a little girl then and now she is a young woman in college. :O
New pet peeve. Straight men in a relationship who think they speak for women because they asked their significant other an out of context question and got tacit approval endorsing their shitty politics. "I asked my wife what she thinks and she agrees with me!"
Aww. I wish I had cousins who were younger still. I'm glad you had a good time with her.
Yeah, I've seen some men use that for a while now in arguments. They get the approval of a women they know personally to try and give their sexist views some substance, be it their wife, girlfriend, sister, etc.
It's pretty easy to fabricate that kind of thing in an online discussion, so probably. But there are also some women who have sexist/misogynistic views, sadly, even though they don't benefit from thinking that way at all. Just as it's possible to find people of colour who excuse racism against their own people. They're always in the minority, though. In any case, it doesn't invalidate the complaints that many women have, and it's a really cheap tactic employed by men to reassure themselves.
It takes a lot of power within me to resist the urge to drive-by post with just a singular "So?" when I see the "well my wife says you're wrong" posts.
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My wife says your wife is an idiot, as proof, see the fact that she married you.
lol sometimes I wonder if they actually HAVE a wife or are just making it up.
This Xmas is going to be strange for me this year. I've had a very nasty head cold all week (I've gotten a lot sicker than usual this year, was even bed/couch-ridden yesterday), so I won't be able to really go to anyone's house on Monday because I'm likely still contagious and I don't want to get any of the more elderly people sick. On top of that, my boyfriend is on call, so he can't really go anywhere either (he's been on call almost every holiday this year, and I'm pissed, but that's another rant for another day). It just doesn't really feel like Christmas/the holiday season. Then again last year I tried to re-connect with my family with cards and gift cards for the kiddos and that fell super flat on its face (not even an acknowledgment that I sent them anything... I live like 15 hours away, I tried my best), so I'm still a little bummed about that when I probably shouldn't be.
At least I'll be able to spend the day with my bf, and with no clingy roommate around to bother us every five minutes :p
This Xmas is going to be strange for me this year. I've had a very nasty head cold all week (I've gotten a lot sicker than usual this year, was even bed/couch-ridden yesterday), so I won't be able to really go to anyone's house on Monday because I'm likely still contagious and I don't want to get any of the more elderly people sick. On top of that, my boyfriend is on call, so he can't really go anywhere either (he's been on call almost every holiday this year, and I'm pissed, but that's another rant for another day). It just doesn't really feel like Christmas/the holiday season. Then again last year I tried to re-connect with my family with cards and gift cards for the kiddos and that fell super flat on its face (not even an acknowledgment that I sent them anything... I live like 15 hours away, I tried my best), so I'm still a little bummed about that when I probably shouldn't be.
At least I'll be able to spend the day with my bf, and with no clingy roommate around to bother us every five minutes :p
I'm getting my first tattoo and trying to decide on placement. I'm thinking the hip area, but I can't decide if I should do it more to the side or kind of right next to the pelvic bone in front (maybe that's more of a stomach tattoo). Anyone more experienced with tattoos have advice or opinions?
Yeah, but how do you call them out on that? It normally doesn't feel worth the trouble to ask them to prove a real woman gave that input.
Yay! I got my second tattoo on the side of my hip. It's a unicorn head, and it's just high enough up that you can see it over the hem of jeans if I wear a crop top or a split side top.
Oh, wow. That's beautiful. That must have taken so long to get done :OI think on the side would be cute. I like thigh tattoos a lot.
This is what I had done a couple months ago. I need to get a recent pic of it.
I think on the side would be cute. I like thigh tattoos a lot.
This is what I had done a couple months ago. I need to get a recent pic of it.
I could never get a tattoo (super low pain tolerance + I hate needles) but gosh that's such a pretty tattoo!