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Asian ERA |OT| We don't AGE
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I have no idea who Crystal Liu is. I feel like everyone (on the internet) around me has heard of her except for me.
Same. But I'm not a big film buff so maybe that's why. I can't even tell you who most people are in the movies that I do see, so I totally might even know this person and I wouldn't have a good idea.
I mean, I think it's good that she's actually Chinese though. It makes sense for the film. I do wonder how good her English is, but I kinda trust that they kinda considered that beforehand and she can at least speak fairly well.
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My cousin is dating a girl who hates Jews, even though he's (obviously) a Jew himself. I'm just completely blown away.
How do you deal with a relative who has internalized that much racism/self-hatred?
My cousin is dating a girl who hates Jews, even though he's (obviously) a Jew himself. I'm just completely blown away.
How do you deal with a relative who has internalized that much racism/self-hatred?
Maybe I just am super familiar with her because she's one of the rare Asian faces I remember seeing in movies.
BTW, people have been bringing up great points in the thread about casting Asian versus Asian American. Even if I don't care as much, I've really enjoyed reading the posts.
BTW, people have been bringing up great points in the thread about casting Asian versus Asian American. Even if I don't care as much, I've really enjoyed reading the posts.
Liu Yifei? I had a huuuge crush on her when she appeared in The Forbidden Kingdom. Terrible movie, but it's one of my guilty pleasures :P
I honestly don't know (because I barely watch any Asian media, AsAm and Asian) who Disney could choose. I would like to be surprised if they turned a barely known Asian (Asian or AsAm) actor into a household name and that's what I'm hopeful for for the Mulan movie.
Most of the ones I somewhat know and recognize are older folks:
Ekin Cheng
Nicholas Tse
Dickie Cheung
Andy Lau
Charlene Choi
Gillian Chung
Samo Hung
Stephen Chow
Edison Chen (wow..... I had no idea how much of a scumbag he is and was. Holy shit, disappointed.gif)
Probably more that I'm forgetting.
Most of the ones I somewhat know and recognize are older folks:
Ekin Cheng
Nicholas Tse
Dickie Cheung
Andy Lau
Charlene Choi
Gillian Chung
Samo Hung
Stephen Chow
Edison Chen (wow..... I had no idea how much of a scumbag he is and was. Holy shit, disappointed.gif)
Probably more that I'm forgetting.
I said it in the thread and I'll say it again :) fuck that guy.
Oh, there's a place in Sydney that does this too! Just a couple minutes away from me. I'll post a pic next time...I had this ice cream in the shape of a rose. Probably the fanciest ice cream design I've ever seen lol
I honestly don't know. I've seen enough Chinese girls here that dates white guys and talks shit about other Chinese girls. These people have issues. The only thing I can recommend is therapy. Though it begs the question, why would this girl date a Jew if she hates Jews? That doesn't even make sense. This is like a reverse version of that post about a Chinese girl championing Asian male problems, but dates a white guy.
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^ You have to ask these kinds of questions to the person yourself. Otherwise, everyone will guess using his/her own flawed assumptions.
Go up to your cousin and ask. We're not your cousin.
Go up to your cousin and ask. We're not your cousin.
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Well I think we can make a distinction between an Asian girl who just happens to date a white guy and one who actually talks shit about Asian guys.
That's why I said it's reverse. It's not a perfect example. It's just now living in China, these weird things keep popping up around me. I don't even like getting involved in other people's weird relationship problems, but somehow I end up with an earful of their weird issues.
I did. He just avoided the question.
She thought he was "one of the good ones" I guess, although I've never known him to talk shit on his own people. I would ask her myself, but I have no desire to interact with her on any level.
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Not her, ask your cousin. I've asked people myself, and I never get any coherent answer on their self hatred. That's why I said therapy. of course I say this based on the people I meet in my life. I don't know your cousin well enough.
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Ultimately it's your brother's choice who he interacts with, regardless of their viewpoint on certain groups of people. It kinda sucks, but I guess that's how it is -- i know from firsthand experience that if you try to confront and control people about who they are dating they are gonna get extremely defensive because they are emotionally invested in that person (presumably). Clearly if it gets to the point where your cousin is going to make major life decisions about this person and you think that he might honestly be making a mistake then you should let him know, but also be prepared to be rebuked as well. Maybe get the fam involved, if more people thing it's a problem then it might be better.
At the same time it might be best to think about how much interaction you want with her from this point forward. Cause chances are it's not gonna change overnight if it changes at all, so you might want to consider getting some distance if you think she is insufferable. Plan things with your cousin that's between you and him. Resist the urge to bring her up and just be a good friend to him. That's pretty much all you can do.
Unfortunately, I've learned that you can't save people many years ago. I had a friend who got into drugs and shit, and I spoke with a counselor at my school on how to help him. I did everything I could because he was my friend. My counselor told me I'm a good friend, but I can't save anyone. The person has to save himself. I had the learn this lesson the hard way. No matter what I said or did, he wouldn't listen. Things got worse. He died from an OD.
Nowadays, if I encounter things, I will try to give my best piece of advice and just let things play out if they don't listen. Luckily, I really haven't encountered anything as destructive as someone dying from an OD.
I guess the real question is, does his cousin need saving? Is he in an abusive relationship? Really get in to his head and ask him why he's with her. Do it without insulting her in front of him. Try to be as neutral as you can, and calmly explain why you have a problem with her. I know love can be irrational. I guess it's also interesting to see what goes on in her head. Obviously this would be even harder to do. Maybe he should try to befriend her and get to know her. Really understand her and find out why she feels the way she does about Jews, yet still dating one. I've heard stories of a black man who befriended people from the KKK and got them to change their ways. It's worth a shot IF you feel you're up to it.
Your cousin is an adult and needs to be accountable for his own decisions. All you can do is be supportive if he wants that support.
If 'maybe I shouldn't be dating antisemites' didn't come naturally to your cousin, no amount of talking is going to change his mind.
If 'maybe I shouldn't be dating antisemites' didn't come naturally to your cousin, no amount of talking is going to change his mind.
I've had many close friends die from OD (you encounter that sort of thing a lot in the punk scene). Hell, I almost OD'd myself once. I was very self-destructive until relatively recently.
I'll try asking him again. Hopefully he'll give me a straight answer next time.
You're probably right, but I should try anyway. For various reasons, I am closer to him than any of my other (living) relatives.
Right, make sure when you talk to him about it, don't insult him or his girlfriend. That'll just make him defensive. Tell him you have concerns regarding this girl, and be square with him. Tell him you want to understand why he's with someone that hates who he is.
Friend's baby shower, watching football, watching Thor, playing WoW
Same as every weekend. Get drunk, try and play some games, and go to sleep. If plans come up, then they'll be tended to.
I just bought 7 Days to Die on the PS4 and I just want to play more of it tbh, lol.
I just bought 7 Days to Die on the PS4 and I just want to play more of it tbh, lol.
I'm heading to Issac Julein's Playtime on Saturday. Afterwards, I might hit up The Emporium since SF Era alerted me that it soft launched today. On Sunday... nothing. Might see a film. Next week is RRR week, so I've got a long week of study ahead. Hoping to catch some good eats along the way.
Want to go see San Holo or the Knocks but I have a persisting cough and I should probably stay in. Google is having a pop up donut shop for the Google Home mini at the Grove that my gf wants to look at lol
Happy Fri-yay ヽ( ･∀･)ﾉ
Looking to stay in and game; hoping to finish Horizon: Zero Dawn so I can lend it and my PS4 to a co-worker.
Definitely. I'm usually very diplomatic (despite my Asperger's), unless I'm really pissed off.
Working on my Jew/Israel FAQ mostly.
Even if the thread I post it in stays dead (the Jewish/Israeli ERA thread I created a while back), it should at least provide a valuable resource.
Crying by myself because I don't have a Switch to play Xenoblade 2.
I know some of y'all have been telling other folks (and myself) to watch Crazy Ex-Girlfriend..... Y'all were right. It's a hilariously good show. Well I'm not watching it, but catching glimpses of it every now and then when my older sister is watching it. The diversity is great to watch and the musical's are not bad. Just got done watching the Water episode.
playing N++ on co-op mode, reading mangas, chilling, eating noms, drawing ^ ___ ^
and ur brekky looks so gud, gurl~
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Fried bread. Omelette? Sesame (red bean or lotus) cake. Milk. Rice roll.
My breakfast.
I think that's what I see.
Shit like that is why I always guffaw when I hear people brag about how progressive the GAF (now Reset) OT community are.
I mean, they *are* progressive in some areas, but others......yikes.
I mean, they *are* progressive in some areas, but others......yikes.
Speaking only for myself, I was commenting on some (or rather, many) of the regular users who frequent OT, not the mod team. I saw some pretty awful threads when I posted there.
Sorry spider, I shouldn't have taken it out on the mods. Been having a bad week, so seeing this kind of stuff is getting to me. But it felt like even when I report stuff it gets ignored
When you see behavior that you feel is problematic, please report it. We are neither omniscient nor omnipresent.
I banned the user whom you and Macabre reported.
A lot of things I have reported went ignored. To wit, virtually every Israel/Gal Gadot related thread I've been in was.....well, I'd rather not describe it. All I can say is that it's the primary reason I stopped going in there. It's also why my Jew-ERA thread OP was so angry and defensive (as a precaution against members who would see it as an opportunity to share their "wisdom" about us).
My breakfast.
I love jian dui (although we call it something else over here). This is revenge for my dimsum pictures isn't it
Speaking of the CommunityChannel thread: My favorite posts are the one's that talk about having an Asian gf/wife just because the subject involves Asian/Asians...always by white guys of course. Must be coincidence that the interracial TV couple thread is mostly white guys with Asian ladies...
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It's been so loooong since I've had that bread with soy milk, don't remember what it's called anymore. I can't get it close to my house.
My breakfast.
I used to see a lot of articles about how common Jewish - E. Asian intermarriages were, although whether or not we qualify as "white" depends on your definition of white (i.e. does it include Semitic folks, and other West Asians).
油条 (you tiao) though I think Cantonese call it something different.
There are only like...2 Taiwanese restaurants in San Francisco where I can get soy milk...and one of them doesn't even serve the you tiao. :(
To give the mods credit, I do see that racism is getting banned. I assume that there needs to be a few reports before action can be taken, because there must be a ton of false reports and they all need to be reviewed individually.
& anyhow, yeah it's you tiao. We have SO much soy milk-- ours is super fresh, and it comes sweetened, nonsweetened, and... salty (bleh). I'm surprised SF doesn't have more places like this. These kinds of breakfast offerings are at all the Chinese/Taiwanese supermarkets here :o. I can walk out the door and be literally showered in (totally not phallic) you tiao.
But they're so oily. When you bite into it and chew it it's like omigod oil.
& anyhow, yeah it's you tiao. We have SO much soy milk-- ours is super fresh, and it comes sweetened, nonsweetened, and... salty (bleh). I'm surprised SF doesn't have more places like this. These kinds of breakfast offerings are at all the Chinese/Taiwanese supermarkets here :o. I can walk out the door and be literally showered in (totally not phallic) you tiao.
But they're so oily. When you bite into it and chew it it's like omigod oil.
Visiting a yum cha place for a surprise birthday lunch tomorrow, expect some pics ~!
Also wandering I find that it's quite easy to get jaded and cynical so sometimes taking a break from certain topics is worthwhile. You're a good dude and a quality poster so I don't want you to feel down or catch a ban over some random shit bird :<
Also wandering I find that it's quite easy to get jaded and cynical so sometimes taking a break from certain topics is worthwhile. You're a good dude and a quality poster so I don't want you to feel down or catch a ban over some random shit bird :<
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