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Oct 25, 2017
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Thanks for the detailed response. I think your idea of perhaps just asking if they need a pamphlet with more information on other contraceptives would be pretty solid middle ground. I also through about the question of how many people would know about Plan B but not other contraceptives. But then I thought about the number of contraceptives there actually are (the many types of pills, IUDs, implants, shots, patches). I could envision and situation where someone tried the pill, had bad side effects and just stopped taking it without knowing of all the other options.

Also your example of the antibiotic is interesting and maybe makes things whole thing more clear me. Would you feel it would be out of bounds for a pharmacist to to say to a patient who was prescribed an antibiotic for a UTI that to help avoid future UTIs try to urinate more often (don't "hold it" for too long) and urinate soon after sex. I would be fine with a doctor saying this, but I'm not sure how I feel with a pharmacist saying it and I don't know if that is a good or bad thing for our healthcare system as I think patients having more information on their health is better. Although this is a little different because this would be a prescription medication and the pharmacist would know that they had talked to doctor already. So maybe they could ask: "do you need more information on how to avoid UTIs in the future?"

Another thing I was thinking about that complicates this whole thing is that the state of modern contraception is itself inherently sexist, and that sucks.
I would feel weird with a pharmacist asking those questions too... but at least here in Canada, pharmacists now prescribe for UTIs, birth control, etc. So they gotta ask those questions. I suspect with time, people will get more comfortable with it.

I would prefer prescription pick up to always occur in a semi private area so it's less awkward having frank, but necessary, conversations.
 
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Would you suggest a pharmacist ask if someone would like a private consultation before they buy Tylenol?
Sure. 99% of people wouldn't take them up on it, of course. And in the real world, it would be an assistant ringing up the purchase - the pharmacist wouldn't even be aware it was sold. But ideally, everyone going in to a pharmacy would have this opportunity.

Tylenol is a good example, actually, since it is in so many different OTC products and is one of the most common causes of overdose in kids . It's a particular problem for infants and children whose dosing gets tricky for the layperson. Doing a 1-2 min consult with parents would save lives and livers.

Edit: I'm derailing the thread, so I'll stop.
 

Morrigan

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Thanks for the detailed response. I think your idea of perhaps just asking if they need a pamphlet with more information on other contraceptives would be pretty solid middle ground. I also through about the question of how many people would know about Plan B but not other contraceptives. But then I thought about the number of contraceptives there actually are (the many types of pills, IUDs, implants, shots, patches). I could envision and situation where someone tried the pill, had bad side effects and just stopped taking it without knowing of all the other options.

Also your example of the antibiotic is interesting and maybe makes things whole thing more clear me. Would you feel it would be out of bounds for a pharmacist to to say to a patient who was prescribed an antibiotic for a UTI that to help avoid future UTIs try to urinate more often (don't "hold it" for too long) and urinate soon after sex. I would be fine with a doctor saying this, but I'm not sure how I feel with a pharmacist saying it and I don't know if that is a good or bad thing for our healthcare system as I think patients having more information on their health is better. Although this is a little different because this would be a prescription medication and the pharmacist would know that they had talked to doctor already. So maybe they could ask: "do you need more information on how to avoid UTIs in the future?"

Another thing I was thinking about that complicates this whole thing is that the state of modern contraception is itself inherently sexist, and that sucks.
I think what you describe about UTIs is indeed the doctor's role, not the pharmacist. That said if the pharmacist asked the question in the way you said, and accepted a "no thanks, I'm aware" from the patient, it'd probably be fine. If the pharmacist gave unsolicited advice and went "you know, here's your medication but, next time you need to maybe not hold it in and urinate after sex, and stay hydrated, and blah blah" out loud in front of onlookers, I'd understand the patient getting upset.
 

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If you really wanna go down a hole, some people who menstruate cannot become pregnant and therefore wouldn't need Plan B at all. I've seen "people capable of becoming pregnant" in some healthcare papers to solve this same medical reality vs. gender assumptions problem. "Vaginal haver" works pretty well in this story where it's about someone getting contraceptive so you can infer the "capable of becoming pregnant" part.
Yeah. Plus I'd rather not see my junk referred to as an "operated vagina" (wtf) ever again. Funny that the person who came up with that was giving advice on wording.
 

Antrax

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If you're up for it, a good response to people like this is to earnestly ask them "what do you mean by that?" or "why did you ask me that?"

They tend to either shut their mouth or trip over their words or become self conscious that they're doing something they shouldn't.

This, if you're up for it. They always think they're coy about this shit until you put them on the spot.
 

Lady Catherine de Bourgh

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Sorry to hear this OP. If you feel up to it, it would be good to make a complaint. If this pharmacist is a professional that wants to do the best possible job, they will welcome the feedback. It will give them a opportunity to improve their service.
And if they are a judgemental ass they deserve to be called out.
 

Emwitus

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sorry you had to go through that OP. it happens in Australia too. some people just don't know when to keep their mouth shut.



like this guy ^^^ nobody cares if you don't think it's a big deal. keep it mate.



you might not see it as offensive. that doesn't mean shit.

it's an awkward thing to have to ask for. not everybody feels comfortable with it. couple it with the social stigma of making a mistake with contraception, there is potentially a little shame involved. nobody wants to be judged for small errors. and a pharmacist should not be doing the judging, anyway.

do you think a pharmacist (someone who SELLS medicine, not administers it to you like a Dr) should be giving out advice when you buy painkillers? antibiotics? cold medicine? "oh hey, you really should rug up and keep on top of your sleep, lest you catch a cold!" < < < things no pharmacist says, ever.

again, nobody cares if you don't think it's a big deal. and it's not the thread to be proclaiming that either. keep it.
Not agreeing with the pharmacist action but yes, a pharmacist has more knowledge about a drug and how it works than a medical doctor. He doesn't just Sell a medication either. Smh
 

CampFreddie

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I don't know how it works in the USA, but it's literally part of a UK pharmacist's job to give unrequested advice to people on the medicine they request and alternative treatments.
I think everywhere offers a consultation before giving emergency contraception, but you can't buy it if the shelf here. However this is always done in private, which is designed to prevent women being pressured into aborting by a boyfriend.

If it's unusual for US pharmacists to give unrequested advice, then the OP is right that this is weird/creepy. And in a busy shop, it definitely seems weird to talk about sexual habits. I wouldn't expect someone to question me when I buy condoms (do you always put it on correctly, sir?)
 

Jeffapp

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Oct 29, 2017
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I've found that these pharmacist think they know better. Had an experience that in no why as fucked up as yours op, I want to the doctor and got a script for a rash I had for about two years. Cvs guy was like you really don't need this and I had to fight with him to get. Put it on next day rash was gone.
 

LogicAirForce

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There are people that have operated vaginas, so vagina haver is not accurate, and also, older women are infertile, so they don't have this problem.

The correct term is "menstruator".
I prefer the term "entity equipped with functioning womb" :b
Edit: I didn't realize you were being serious about the term "menstruator" which is why I replied with that joke. It actually makes sense as a way to be more inclusive, although considering how most people in America view menstruation as "icky female troubles" a term named after it probably won't catch on here.

OP that sucks and you should have reported him, though I understand you probably just wanted to get out of there as quickly as possible.
 
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Emergency Contraceptives are still a grey area for some pharmacists. They are supposed to be OTCs now with no age restriction, but some pharmacies still keep them behind the counter because they are high theft items. Also, some chain pharmacies like Walgreens don't allow pharmacists to refuse Plan B sales. On the other hand, there are some states that allow pharmacists to refuse to sell Plan B. However, they are supposed to help the patient find another pharmacist who is willing to sell it.

As for the counseling part, from what I understand, pharmacists in the UK are supposed to offer brochures and safe sex counseling to patients purchasing Plan B or any equivalent product. So maybe the pharmacist was taking cues from that?


I've had several expereinces with Health Pro's being condescending, and some experiences with normal medical health people acting right, but i'm cursious if you read the situation correctly?

Roll it back. Were they really trotting out the snide judgemental subtext or were they just meaning to inform you of other options. It may be an expensive med, with unpleasant side effects.... And so on. I know the pharmacists i've dealt with are cordial and helpful as a matter of course.

Sometimes we get things misconstrued, in particular under the spell of our emotions.

Why was this user banned? I don't get it.
 

TheHolyTurnip

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That's doesn't sound dickish at all to me. It's a small reminder that other options are available for before there's a problem instead of after, what's wrong with this exactly? I've known many pharmacists who give small overviews of drugs, side effects and that give recommendations. Nothing snide was said to you from what I'm reading and you got your meds with no hassle. A lot of places like to tell customers about other options when they're available, it doesn't mean they're judging you for your decisions.
 

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People don't need a moral lesson from a Pharmacist.

Your "experience" with thieves is hardly persuasive

The "Ag" in that dude's name refers to Texas A&M. My sister went there around 1998-2002. She said that, her senior year of school, the LGBT A&M student organization requested permission to hold a pride rally on campus. It turned into a year long debate among A&M student council. In the end, near the end of spring, the university offered a compromise -- The LGBT Student group could hold a pride rally, only if pro-life demonstrators could hold a counter-rally. Yes, I know that makes no sense. So, in the end, the LGBT students group just said fuck it and didn't hold a rally.

She recounted this story to me because I told her a story about, in my freshman year at UT, I was once handed a card advertising the student sex services building that had a condom stapled to it, where the staple went right through the condom, which made me laugh. Her response was shock that they were allowed to hand out condoms on campus.

Just to give you some perspective.
 

LogicAirForce

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I've lived in 2 different states and have gotten medication from multiple different pharmacies and not once has a pharmacist felt the need to go over side effects or offer advice on alternatives. At most they have asked me if I had any questions about the medication, and stapled a list of side effects to the bag it came in. So I'm gonna call bullshit on people saying it's part of their job. The dude was definitely overstepping his bounds.
 

99Luffy

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I've lived in 2 different states and have gotten medication from multiple different pharmacies and not once has a pharmacist felt the need to go over side effects or offer advice on alternatives. At most they have asked me if I had any questions about the medication, and stapled a list of side effects to the bag it came in. So I'm gonna call bullshit on people saying it's part of their job. The dude was definitely overstepping his bounds.
Ive had the pharmacist tell me side affects. So I guess our experiences cancel out.
 

99Luffy

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So in your opinion what the pharmacist did here was correct? Have you had pharmacists give you advice on alternatives in a patronising manner?
I cant tell if the pharmacist was patronizing or not from the OP. Seems to me the pharmacist hasnt made the assumption that the OP already had sex(you can buy plan b at any time cant you?). Maybe tried to save her some cash.
 

Ensorcell

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I cant tell if the pharmacist was patronizing or not from the OP. Seems to me the pharmacist hasnt made the assumption that the OP already had sex(you can buy plan b at any time cant you?)
If the pharmacist was really going over side effects and/or alternatives in the open like that then it was inappropriate regardless. There are certain situations for a pharmacist where tact and common sense are required. If someone came in to get a Suboxone prescription filled for their opioid addiction, would it be okay if the pharmacist started counseling that person on alternatives in a public area?
 

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I never get used to people telling others they are wrong about the sexism or racism they experienced.
 

LogicAirForce

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I cant tell if the pharmacist was patronizing or not from the OP. Seems to me the pharmacist hasnt made the assumption that the OP already had sex(you can buy plan b at any time cant you?). Maybe tried to save her some cash.
Did you read the OP? He looked at her with a concerned expression and the OP said she felt he was being judgemental. Why is it that to men the experiences of women are never enough? Why do you all always just assume that you know better? Because trust me, you rarely do.
 

Lady Catherine de Bourgh

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That's doesn't sound dickish at all to me. It's a small reminder that other options are available for before there's a problem instead of after, what's wrong with this exactly? I've known many pharmacists who give small overviews of drugs, side effects and that give recommendations. Nothing snide was said to you from what I'm reading and you got your meds with no hassle. A lot of places like to tell customers about other options when they're available, it doesn't mean they're judging you for your decisions.

Believe me when it comes to women having sex there are boatloads of judgement coming in. And it may just sound as a neutral remark to you, but as Morrigan pointed out earlier in the thread there really was no need to discuss prevention. If OP felt judged it's because she probably was.
 

99Luffy

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Did you read the OP? He looked at her with a concerned expression and the OP said she felt he was being judgemental. Why is it that to men the experiences of women are never enough? Why do you all always just assume that you know better? Because trust me, you rarely do.
Im going by the OP.
The concerned expression was from "this way too happy person to be spending 50 bucks on a mistake"
Maybe theyre used to customers taking plan b looking more nervous and thats what led them to believe they could be open to alternatives.
 

LogicAirForce

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Believe me when it comes to women having sex there are boatloads of judgement coming in. And it may just sound as a neutral remark to you, but as Morrigan pointed out earlier in the thread there really was no need to discuss prevention. If OP felt judged it's because she probably was.
no but you see it was a woman having this experience so she was probs just being dumb and emotional. you know how those females are.
 

LogicAirForce

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Im going by the OP.
The concerned expression was from "this way too happy person to be spending 50 bucks on a mistake"
Maybe theyre used to customers taking plan b looking more nervous and thats what led them to believe they could be open to alternatives.
or you know, maybe the OP who is a woman and has lived life as a woman and has likely had unending experiences of men being shitty and judgemental, especially concerning sex, is actually correct in her assessment that he was being judgemental and shitty. maybe you should stop jumping through hoops to dismiss the well earned opinions of women in regards to men being terrible.
 

99Luffy

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User banned (permanent): condescending sexism + history of similar infraction
or you know, maybe the OP who is a woman and has lived life as a woman and has likely had unending experiences of men being shitty and judgemental, especially concerning sex, is actually correct in her assessment that he was being judgemental and shitty. maybe you should stop jumping through hoops to dismiss the well earned opinions of women in regards to men being terrible.
Im not sure how you interact with people in real life. But in some cases people usually feel better when they see a situation not being as bad as they originally thought..
Or we can go with 'Stay in your lane pharmacist!'
 

LogicAirForce

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Im not sure how you interact with people in real life. But in some cases people usually feel better when they see a situation not being as bad as they originally thought..
Or we can go with 'Stay in your lane pharmacist!'
What does this even mean? " hey women just pretend us men aren't as shitty as we actually are! you'll feel better!"
 

Johnny956

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I had to do this with my wife with a broken condom.

She apparently had a bad experience in the past so I went and bought it for her. Pharmacist ask me why I needed it, I told them I didn't realize I needed to give a reason. Pharmacist told me they had the right to refuse and I told them I had the right to transfer all my prescriptions somewhere else. They eventually gave it to me and I still transferred our prescriptions because screw them
 

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Feel like I read about lawsuits pretty regularly from snide pharmacists that try to intrude on the lives of their customers with holier than thou rhetoric.

Some often even argue to flat out refuse service to LBGT or women they give the stink eye to for a promiscuous fling. Stating it's their right and against religious belief or some such bullshit to force certain customers out of assistance or product care. It's too common and shameful.
 

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Edit: sorry for breaking the thread and venting.
 
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LogicAirForce

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Oof i hope my ex is not pregnant cuz if so i am fucked she lied about her age......

She and i had to cut all contact with eachother as terms by that family so its something i might never find out. I gave her ellaone after almost 3-4 days and it works max up to 5 days.

Not a girl just sharing my meh experience seriously tho it did fuck me up for a while. And gave me lots of stress but its almost 3 months ago so i doubt it but still tbh i honestly dont fret about it too much till i hear otherwise.

Still stupid of me though i should have done more research to find out her true age :(
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Oof i hope my ex is not pregnant cuz if so i am fucked she lied about her age......

She and i had to cut all contact with eachother as terms by that family so its something i might never find out. I gave her ellaone after almost 3-4 days and it works max up to 5 days.

Not a girl just sharing my meh experience seriously tho it did fuck me up for a while. And gave me lots of stress but its almost 3 months ago so i doubt it but still tbh i honestly dont fret about it too much till i hear otherwise.

Still stupid of me though i should have done more research to find out her true age :(
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Allforce

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Oof i hope my ex is not pregnant cuz if so i am fucked she lied about her age......

She and i had to cut all contact with eachother as terms by that family so its something i might never find out. I gave her ellaone after almost 3-4 days and it works max up to 5 days.

Not a girl just sharing my meh experience seriously tho it did fuck me up for a while. And gave me lots of stress but its almost 3 months ago so i doubt it but still tbh i honestly dont fret about it too much till i hear otherwise.

Still stupid of me though i should have done more research to find out her true age :(

This thread is now about you and your new baby and prison sentence.
 

astro

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My ex basically got called a slut by her gp when discussing having the coil inserted.

I've heard similar from friends about gps and pharmacists.
 

excelsiorlef

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Oof i hope my ex is not pregnant cuz if so i am fucked she lied about her age......

She and i had to cut all contact with eachother as terms by that family so its something i might never find out. I gave her ellaone after almost 3-4 days and it works max up to 5 days.

Not a girl just sharing my meh experience seriously tho it did fuck me up for a while. And gave me lots of stress but its almost 3 months ago so i doubt it but still tbh i honestly dont fret about it too much till i hear otherwise.

Still stupid of me though i should have done more research to find out her true age :(

Come again?

Though I guess maybe in your case don't come again.
 

LogicAirForce

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Sorry for my bad english but basically i got lied to crazily honestly it was dumb i got fooled by it. I guess i trusted in this a bit too much. But she sounded believeable. That she never wanted me to meet her parents was a major red flag tho.

I feel stupid for even falling for it.
But what does this have to do with women having negative experiences when purchasing contraceptives?
 

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What does this have to do with anything related to this thread.
Sorry..... thats my bad i guess i vented at the wrong place about it i can edit the posts or a mod can remove them.

Edit: i guess its just been a emotional rollercoaster these past few months + my dad getting a kidney surgery soon.....

So my genuine apologies
 

MrNelson

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Yes. The stupid religious right and their political party equate Plan B to an abortion bill. So Conservative state FL are assholes about it. It's just a shot of estrogen that delays egg release.
But Plan B is OTC in Florida. I've sold it to people and put it out on the shelf myself.

Unless I'm misunderstanding what you're saying.
 

softfocus

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What protocol?

If someone wants to buy Plan B, and you have no reason to suspect anything is wrong, there's nothing more to discuss. It's definitely a sensitive subject and not like asking for Claritin.
In UK based community pharmacy, we must follow protocols that are mandated by the General Pharmaceutical Council (GPHC) and the NHS. Certain medication requires different protocols. Emergency contraception is one of those. Through careless use, it can be damaging. We can't jump to conclusion that one customer is legit, and another one that looks dodgy is gonna abuse it. So, we have to assume everyone asking hasn't taken it before.
Another thing we have to be mindful of is the person under duress to use EHC. How old is the patient? Do they seem emotionally and physically sound? Sadly, there are women in abusive relationships, we can see body language etc while consulting to spot that and call the relevant authorities, which is part of our safeguarding protocol which we use in conjunction with the emergency contraception protocol.

I still fail to see the problem in making a patient aware of other methods of contraception. Your comparison to Clarityn is ridiculous. Clarityn side effects are....... drowsiness, maybe. Plan B may cause sickness and abdominal pain, and the time between the initial sex and taking the dose is vital. Giving it out carelessly would be very reckless.
 

LogicAirForce

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In UK based community pharmacy, we must follow protocols that are mandated by the General Pharmaceutical Council (GPHC) and the NHS. Certain medication requires different protocols. Emergency contraception is one of those. Through careless use, it can be damaging. We can't jump to conclusion that one customer is legit, and another one that looks dodgy is gonna abuse it. So, we have to assume everyone asking hasn't taken it before.
Another thing we have to be mindful of is the person under duress to use EHC. How old is the patient? Do they seem emotionally and physically sound? Sadly, there are women in abusive relationships, we can see body language etc while consulting to spot that and call the relevant authorities, which is part of our safeguarding protocol which we use in conjunction with the emergency contraception protocol.

I still fail to see the problem in making a patient aware of other methods of contraception. Your comparison to Clarityn is ridiculous. Clarityn side effects are....... drowsiness, maybe. Plan B may cause sickness and abdominal pain, and the time between the initial sex and taking the dose is vital. Giving it out carelessly would be very reckless.
Is it also part of the protocol to be judgemental about it? Because that's what OP's pharmacist was being.
 

excelsiorlef

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In UK based community pharmacy, we must follow protocols that are mandated by the General Pharmaceutical Council (GPHC) and the NHS. Certain medication requires different protocols. Emergency contraception is one of those. Through careless use, it can be damaging. We can't jump to conclusion that one customer is legit, and another one that looks dodgy is gonna abuse it. So, we have to assume everyone asking hasn't taken it before.
Another thing we have to be mindful of is the person under duress to use EHC. How old is the patient? Do they seem emotionally and physically sound? Sadly, there are women in abusive relationships, we can see body language etc while consulting to spot that and call the relevant authorities, which is part of our safeguarding protocol which we use in conjunction with the emergency contraception protocol.

I still fail to see the problem in making a patient aware of other methods of contraception. Your comparison to Clarityn is ridiculous. Clarityn side effects are....... drowsiness, maybe. Plan B may cause sickness and abdominal pain, and the time between the initial sex and taking the dose is vital. Giving it out carelessly would be very reckless.
And yet many places sell it the same way they sell Claritin and there is not an epidemic of sick women with exploding abdominals in those places.


Not to mention the story here is not about side effects anyway. It was about "are you sure you even need this?"

Also maybe women buying EHC would prefer not to worry that their pharmacist might read their body language and decide to call the cops.

Your post in fact is exhibit a-z why OTC off the shelf is preferable for many women
 
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Paquete_PT

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Shitty people are intentionally going into pharmacy as a career specifically to make it harder for women to get contraception, emergency and otherwise. It's part of the pro-life gameplan to force as many women as possible to have babies.

Do you have any proof of what you're saying? This was probably the most stupid and ignorant post I've ever read on this site...

Regarding the thread, I think most of you guys are being pretty unfair to the pharmacist. They aren't shopkeepers, they're health care professionals. As such they have every right to make suggestions that could lead to a better health to their "clients". At least as far as I'm concerned (I work in health care). Of course nothing different could be done after the fact, and I'm sure you have all the necessary information regarding contraception, but many don't. And many don't have any contact with other health professionals or sexual education, so that little chat with the pharmacist could be important for some. Now, if he really showed you a shitty and judgmental attitude (reading the OP it didn't feel like anything over the top), then that's over the limits, of course.

Edit: Reading through the thread, it's pretty clear most users have no idea what a pharmacist does and the knowledge they have and their importance in the health system...oh well...
 
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LogicAirForce

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Do you have any proof of what you're saying? This was probably the most stupid and ignorant post I've ever read on this site...

Regarding the thread, I think most of you guys are being pretty unfair to the pharmacist. They aren't shopkeepers, they're health care professionals. As such they have every right to make suggestions that could lead to a better health to their "clients". At least as far as I'm concerned (I work in health care). Of course nothing different could be done after the fact, and I'm sure you have all the necessary information regarding contraception, but many don't. And many don't have any contact with other health professionals or sexual education, so that little chat with the pharmacist could be important for some. Now, if he really showed you a shitty and judgmental attitude (reading the OP it didn't feel like anything over the top), then that's over the limits, of course.
No, we aren't being unfair. Women aren't these stupid creatures who constantly need men to make sure we understand how reproduction and contraceptives work. It really isn't up to the pharmacists to grill us on our contraceptive choices. I honestly can't believe how ignorant some of you are being.

edit: jesus fucking christ I didn't even see the last bit of your post. You are completely downplaying OP's experience. "didn't feel o er the top" well I'm so glad we have yet another man in here to tell us we are totally just reading the situation wrong and aren't drawing off of a lifetime of dealing with sexism.
 
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