Getting a rise out of anonymous strangers on the internet.If the person you love being a bigot isn't all that important in the grand scheme of things then what... is?
People are being pretty rediculous, best thing you can do is talk about it with your wife and not people on here.I didn't really create the post to ask for advice so much as to see what the reactions might be. It just kind of came out of left field to be honest she has gay friends and in fact the very first out gay couple I met was through her. Honestly I wouldn't get a divorce over this because beliefs are not all that important to me in the grand scheme of things. If she started voting GOP or attending anti gay rallies that would be one thing but this was just an isolated comment that seemed weirdly out of character. Only reason I brought up the chinese thing is that WeChat like all social media platforms is a hive mind only, this case, pretty much only certain views are allowed; you do not see pro LGBTQ rhetoric on there and she has zero non chinese friends and co-workers at the moment so yeah maybe that's influenced her? Oh well bad idea to post this in the first place expecting a conversation rather than hyperbole.
If the person you love being a bigot isn't all that important in the grand scheme of things then what... is?
I didn't really create the post to ask for advice so much as to see what the reactions might be. It just kind of came out of left field to be honest she has gay friends and in fact the very first out gay couple I met was through her. Honestly I wouldn't get a divorce over this because beliefs are not all that important to me in the grand scheme of things. If she started voting GOP or attending anti gay rallies that would be one thing but this was just an isolated comment that seemed weirdly out of character. Only reason I brought up the chinese thing is that WeChat like all social media platforms is a hive mind only, this case, pretty much only certain views are allowed; you do not see pro LGBTQ rhetoric on there and she has zero non chinese friends and co-workers at the moment so yeah maybe that's influenced her? Oh well bad idea to post this in the first place expecting a conversation rather than hyperbole.
Love is love... but I can't see myself marrying someone I can't communicate with. It's not like it's an academic thesis just "what's your stance on homosexuality?".
What is weird about this? Being friends with someone doesn't mean you approve of everything thing they do or want their life choices pushed onto their kids. It's shocking I know, but someone being straight or gay is not always a major factor on whether you wanna be friends with someone. Decisions between consenting adults doesn't mean you want it in your kid's movies.She ironically was the first person to introduce me to gay people too when we were teaching in China too so yeah...mind blown.
"Branded"? Really? Are you implying that she and other homophobes are victims somehow?Reading some of the replies, i feel people believe it's impossible for an homophobe to change. Once you're branded, you're fucked?
Calling a homophobe a homophobe is worse than being a homophobe really. They're more oppressed than LGBT people I hear."Branded"? Really? Are you implying that she and other homophobes are victims somehow?
Designate time for her
Initiate conversation
Voice your concerns
Object to her bigotry
Respond to her arguments
Come to Era for help
Emerge victorious
Reading some of the replies, i feel people believe it's impossible for an homophobe to change. Once you're branded, you're fucked?
"Branded"? Really? Are you implying that she and other homophobes are victims somehow?
No absolutely not. Homophobia has no place in modern society. I just don't see an openess to talk to these people by some"Branded"? Really? Are you implying that she and other homophobes are victims somehow?
That's unfortunate. Not being married myself I would have assumed you might have talked about things, in general, to gauge each other's views before marrying but I guess not.
Fuck off with this. Being gay isn't a choice and it's not something you can push on to your children. Being friends with someone while having such bigoted view on what they are as a person, something they are ... think about it.What is weird about this? Being friends with someone doesn't mean you approve of everything thing they do or want their life choices pushed onto their kids. It's shocking I know, but someone being straight or gay is not always a major factor on whether you wanna be friends with someone. Decisions between consenting adults doesn't mean you want it in your kid's movies.
Yeah, I get ya. Wasn't saying I know relationships better than you. You never know right until you know. You can only talk to her about how you feel about how she feels etc. It's certainly not a relationship killer. If she is pro-gay marriage then it's a head scratcher for sure.I mean we did and she's totally pro gay marriage and as I said has gay friends...her issue was more about the topic being raised in a kids movie and if that's appropriate. Not ending my marriage over it but it just came out of left field for me.
So you're okay with it and don't even plan to talk to her about it. Nice.
Doubly nice that being homophobic can be just be waved away as "beliefs" and "opinions"! I'm sure your gay friends would be pleased to hear that.
If she approves of gay marriage or relationships then there shouldn't be an issue as to whether or not it's appropriate to be in a kids movie. If she has an issue with it then that means there's something about being gay that she inherently feels is harmful to kids in comparison to the thousands of kids movies that portray heterosexual relationships.I mean we did and she's totally pro gay marriage and as I said has gay friends...her issue was more about the topic being raised in a kids movie and if that's appropriate. Not ending my marriage over it but it just came out of left field for me.
They don't have sex in the movie but there's a couple of scenes where's it heavily implied that they were lovers when they were students at Hogwarts.Wait..Johnny Depp's character and Dumbledore had sex?
Maybe I'll watch these movies, after all.
I'm not OK with it I just don't think opinions are worth ending a commitment to raise a decent human being together. I mean by this logic I should have kicked granny to the curb and severed all contact with her for using the J word when describing the Japanese in WWII. To me just saying, I'm not comfortable, is a far cry from refusing to even be in the same room with a gay couple or not being friends at all.
Decisions between consenting adults doesn't mean you want it in your kid's movies.
I was a homophobe during my teens years (1990s), I evolved as soon as I hit the workplace and had gay co-workers who were fine people. I became pro same sex marriage in the late 2000sReading some of the replies, i feel people believe it's impossible for an homophobe to change. Once you're branded, you're fucked?
If her issue were with an interracial couple, would you still make this case?What is weird about this? Being friends with someone doesn't mean you approve of everything thing they do or want their life choices pushed onto their kids. It's shocking I know, but someone being straight or gay is not always a major factor on whether you wanna be friends with someone. Decisions between consenting adults doesn't mean you want it in your kid's movies.
I'm not OK with it I just don't think opinions are worth ending a commitment to raise a decent human being together. I mean by this logic I should have kicked granny to the curb and severed all contact with her for using the J word when describing the Japanese in WWII. To me just saying, I'm not comfortable, is a far cry from refusing to even be in the same room with a gay couple or not being friends at all. She was coming at it more from the standpoint that it would influence a kid to be gay because they don't know anything...my stance is you're born gay.
I tried talking with her ironically at a BJs and she was completely adamant about Dumbledore being a bad influence I was just completely floored...so yes you're the only people I've confided in. She went off on a rant about girls liking boy toys being bad out of the blue too. Like what the actual fuck? I don't know if it's WeChat hivemind or what but I just am floored here. She ironically was the first person to introduce me to gay people too when we were teaching in China too so yeah...mind blown.
Top Gun-implied or actually implied?They don't have sex in the movie but there's a couple of scenes where's it heavily implied that they were lovers when they were students at Hogwarts.
Good fucking riddanceWhat is weird about this? Being friends with someone doesn't mean you approve of everything thing they do or want their life choices pushed onto their kids. It's shocking I know, but someone being straight or gay is not always a major factor on whether you wanna be friends with someone. Decisions between consenting adults doesn't mean you want it in your kid's movies.
Why are you just jumping straight to "ending a commitment" ? Most people have said you should talk to her about it and from your following replies you're not even willing to do this, you're just content with tolerating homophobia (and raising a kid to do the same btw).I'm not OK with it I just don't think opinions are worth ending a commitment to raise a decent human being together. I mean by this logic I should have kicked granny to the curb and severed all contact with her for using the J word when describing the Japanese in WWII. To me just saying, I'm not comfortable, is a far cry from refusing to even be in the same room with a gay couple or not being friends at all. She was coming at it more from the standpoint that it would influence a kid to be gay because they don't know anything...my stance is you're born gay.
I'm not OK with it I just don't think opinions are worth ending a commitment to raise a decent human being together. I mean by this logic I should have kicked granny to the curb and severed all contact with her for using the J word when describing the Japanese in WWII. To me just saying, I'm not comfortable, is a far cry from refusing to even be in the same room with a gay couple or not being friends at all. She was coming at it more from the standpoint that it would influence a kid to be gay because they don't know anything...my stance is you're born gay.
Appeal to nature is a horrible argument and should never be used imo
An appeal to nature is fallacious when you're arguing that something is good or in some way superior because it's natural. It is perfectly valid to point to examples of homosexuality in animals in order to disprove the notion that homosexuality is a product of human choice and nothing else.
I didn't really create the post to ask for advice so much as to see what the reactions might be. It just kind of came out of left field to be honest she has gay friends and in fact the very first out gay couple I met was through her. Honestly I wouldn't get a divorce over this because beliefs are not all that important to me in the grand scheme of things. If she started voting GOP or attending anti gay rallies that would be one thing but this was just an isolated comment that seemed weirdly out of character. Only reason I brought up the chinese thing is that WeChat like all social media platforms is a hive mind only, this case, pretty much only certain views are allowed; you do not see pro LGBTQ rhetoric on there and she has zero non chinese friends and co-workers at the moment so yeah maybe that's influenced her? Oh well bad idea to post this in the first place expecting a conversation rather than hyperbole.
I mean we did and she's totally pro gay marriage and as I said has gay friends...her issue was more about the topic being raised in a kids movie and if that's appropriate. Not ending my marriage over it but it just came out of left field for me.
So we've been married for 10 years...have gay friends and out of the blue she reveals she thinks that Dumbledore and Jonny Depp knocking boots is a bad influence on kids? WTF!??
I'm just reeling now as a LGBTQ ally. Granted she was born in China but still I'm just mind blown. Help?
She was coming at it more from the standpoint that it would influence a kid to be gay because they don't know anything...my stance is you're born gay.