A question for vagina-owners and vagina lovers. It's a vagina-related question in essence.
Has anyone successfully remedied reports of discomfort caused by fingernails?
I really, really love using my fingers on my girl, but some time ago she began to reveal that she found my fingernails uncomfortable. And I get how unpleasant it can feel, if someone brutally mistreats your sensitive parts during what's supposed to be a moment of pleasure.
I'm wondering how to approach this. What she's said is that she now starts getting turned off whenever my fingers get involved, because even if I don't jab her carelessly, she'll worry that I'm going to, so her arousal plummets. Very fair point.
It doesn't seem to make a difference how short my nails are cut. For example, I'd say they're at their best the day after being cut. They're as short as can be, and a day of use will have smoothed off the sharp edges. I can't think of a way of improving this aspect any further?
A lot can be argued for taking a more 'listening' approach, eg going slower, being more careful, learning how she feels and how likes it. I think this is probably the best and only route forward ... but it's not like that isn't already my approach. I'm trying to be absolutely as sensitive and as cultured as I can be. But there's already this negative feedback loop working in the opposite direction. I also feel it's not only down to me - she's moving too and it seems inevitable that there will be some times when she zigs when I zag ...
Which is making me wonder - do other people have this? Are my nails unusually protuberant? Is her pussy atypically sensitive? I don't really think so in either case, so why is this apparently not a common discussion point?
I went as far as buying a rubber glove, which has five rather ridiculous-shaped fingers. She actually loves it, says it feels good and let's her completely relax. Which is truly great ... but it also really hinders me! It's so thick I can't get a sense of how it's going for her, and can't use my fingers anywhere near as effectively as I'd like ...
So I have two answers of my own. To use my own fingers very gently and carefully, keep building up trust and understanding. And to use this glove, and to learn more and more about how to use it. I just wanted to get some outside perspective on this, if possible. Is it common? How else could we approach this?