Are parents of children guilty if their children are bullied?

I think it's unfair to say so without explaining themselves in detail, even ending up "wrong."

No, if anything, parents of bullies are more likely responsible. Most kids aren't born sociopaths that bully by nature. It is often learned behavior.

Not in any way.

I'd be far more inclined to put blame on the parents of the little cumstains who bully other kids.

An argument could be made that parents of the bullies deserve some blame, but of the bullied? No way, that's ridiculous.

I think parents need teach their kids that there are kids at their school who will try and bully them and make sure they stand up for themselves

Don't let anyone record you or take a picture of you without raising hell because of social media bullying which imo is worst than physical

Realistically, there are many things that your parents will not be able to protect you from.

But if you're not involved enough in your child's life to know they're being bullied, and cannot adequately protect them from that, then part of the responsibility is yours as a parent.

If my child was being bullied, I feel like I'd move heaven and earth to make it right. And I'm not even a parent, haha.

No, it generally seems like a lazy argument to make for the nosey gossip crowd.

No, not at all. It's not your fault that you were bullied, and its not your parents fault either. The fault falls entirely on people who are so insecure that they have to put down others to feel better about themselves. It's possible that their parents could have done something to intervene or raise their kid to be less of a bully, but none of that falls on you or your family. I'm so sorry for your loss Fireflame, and we're here for you any time.

Gotta learn to get physical with bullies, they are the only ones to blame in the end for being human waste.

NineConsonants said:

No, if anything, parents of bullies are more likely responsible. Most kids aren't born sociopaths that bully by nature. It is often learned behavior.

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Yea I thought this is what the thread title meant. Makes a lot more sense.

I can only imagine how close that hit to home and I'm sorry for your loss. Don't listen to that garbage though. There's often too many factors to be able to pinpoint a single cause and it's just plain malicious to tell someone who lost their fucking child "this is your fault, you should've been a better parent." Fuck that guy. That's exactly what's going through that mother's head and she doesn't need some douchebag on the internet to tell her that. It's wrong too. That kind of erroneous thinking is just gonna make the situation so much more painful.

So no, parents aren't to blame for a child being bullied. There's just too many reasons why it could be happening. And there are many interventions that could take place to prevent or stop it. Of course, that's assuming anyone even knows the bullying is going on.

Sanjuro said:

No, it generally seems like a lazy argument to make for the nosey gossip crowd.

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I agree with this. People who bully - and their enablers like teachers and their own parents- have responsibility. Not the victims and their families.

It's the usual victim blaming bullshit that perpetuates bullying. The idea of "be a bully or get bullied."

Odds are the person who posted that was a bully who's afraid of taking responsibility for their actions.

Absolutely not. The parents of the bullies are guilty, though. 99% of the time they don't give a shit or they actively encourage their little shitstains to be terrible people.

Parents rise up

fireflame said:

He worte that parents are the main cause for so called bullying because they overprotect their children and make them more vulnerable.

As someone who has been bullied in the past, that post made me wonder if I or my parents was the problem, and at this moment, I sort of wished I was different. The past came back and made medoubt.

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WTF? No.
If any parents are to blame its those of the kids doing the bullying.

Whoever posted that specifically did it to harm those like you. It was their goal. It's someone who is a bully going for vulnerable people.
Don't take the bully's advice ffs.