While I'm on team don't-spank, I wish there was more of a focus on alternatives to spanking than just telling people not to spank. While many people on the spanking defense force seem to defend spanking because they feel they or their parents are being personally attacked for using corporal punishment and their defense mechanism takes over, I think there are others that truly feel like spanking "just works" and don't know what else to do (and aren't going to read books or take classes on how to parent).
Over the last ten or so years I''ve seen countless discussions, arguments, and debates over spanking, but a fraction of those discussions actually took a deep dive into alternatives. Even the suggestions listed in the article seemed very broad and perhaps shallow and I can already hear the spanking defense force saying "well what if that doesn't work?" Anecdotes are usually discouraged when facts are available, but facts don't always discourage people from breaking tradition, especially when the facts go against intuition. I think that's why so many of them ask "do you even have kids?" because they intuitively believe spanking sometimes is the only way to correct behavior. Anecdotes that include tried and true alternatives to spanking may help with them.
Over the last ten or so years I''ve seen countless discussions, arguments, and debates over spanking, but a fraction of those discussions actually took a deep dive into alternatives. Even the suggestions listed in the article seemed very broad and perhaps shallow and I can already hear the spanking defense force saying "well what if that doesn't work?" Anecdotes are usually discouraged when facts are available, but facts don't always discourage people from breaking tradition, especially when the facts go against intuition. I think that's why so many of them ask "do you even have kids?" because they intuitively believe spanking sometimes is the only way to correct behavior. Anecdotes that include tried and true alternatives to spanking may help with them.
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