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Sex Ed Era: Judgement-free zone for questions
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You seem to lack sense of humour. It's ok. I guess.
considering nobody on this page got your joke it looks like i'm not the only one lacking one
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No derail, bad derail!
OBGY is usually once a year for a pap smear. Some of the stuff they do sucks.
One of these days I'll tell my vaginal ultrasound story again.
OBGY is usually once a year for a pap smear. Some of the stuff they do sucks.
One of these days I'll tell my vaginal ultrasound story again.
Since I've realized I'm asexual, this will never come up for me, but I'm curious.
How do bed sheets get handled after sex? Do people generally replace the sheets soon after sex, or do they wait until the morning (if they had sex during the night)? And do the semen/secretions/lube/etc. seep through the sheets into the mattress?
And is it generally expected that people go straight from a date or whatever to sex, or do people usually shower right before sex?
Cleanliness is something I get stuck on regarding sex.
How do bed sheets get handled after sex? Do people generally replace the sheets soon after sex, or do they wait until the morning (if they had sex during the night)? And do the semen/secretions/lube/etc. seep through the sheets into the mattress?
And is it generally expected that people go straight from a date or whatever to sex, or do people usually shower right before sex?
Cleanliness is something I get stuck on regarding sex.
I mean, it's going to depend on the individual, but me and my wife tend to have sex after a shower, so we have towels handy. Sheets are still changed on the reg though.
Ladies, do you get sexually turned on by a man's looks?
I ask this since I've read females aren't as visually stimulated as men, but I'm just curious as to how different we are in that department.
I look at this guy and I get the vapors...
I ask this since I've read females aren't as visually stimulated as men, but I'm just curious as to how different we are in that department.
I look at this guy and I get the vapors...
Just take things at your own pace. There is no really hard and fast rules. Everyone is very different. Make yourself and him comfortable and let your bodies guide where you would like to do go. I really like to start making out and letting my hands go wherever. His chest, junk, his arms etc.
Ladies, do you get sexually turned on by a man's looks?
I ask this since I've read females aren't as visually stimulated as men, but I'm just curious as to how different we are in that department.
I look at this guy and I get the vapors...
Speaking for myself, of course, looks matter. I could not be with someone I am not attracted to physically.
Also, please do not call women females unless you are a Ferengi and even then you should try to work on this.
Ladies, do you get sexually turned on by a man's looks?
I ask this since I've read females aren't as visually stimulated as men, but I'm just curious as to how different we are in that department.
I look at this guy and I get the vapors...
This guy is incredibly hot and I would do things to him (and vice versa) , but I'm a guy :p
Of course not:
^ This.
Of course.
My doctor said the guideline for Pap smears, at least for younger women, is now every 3 years. Not sure what the cutoff is for annual.
Edit: Just googled, under 65 is every 3 years.
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Oh maybe mine was yearly because of my health issues. Good to know! Thanks for the correction
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Ladies, do you get sexually turned on by a man's looks?
I ask this since I've read females aren't as visually stimulated as men, but I'm just curious as to how different we are in that department.
I look at this guy and I get the vapors...
Those hip bones my god.
They changed it somewhat recently. But yeah, sounds like they do it every year for your health issues.
Never taken Plan B, but birth control is very much a mileage will vary. There are so many different hormone dosages and they affect everyone differently.
When I started on the pill, it threw my emotions out of wack for months. I was crying before bed or randomly throughout the day every day. I won't blame it 100% on the pill since I do struggle with depression, but the timing of it wasn't a coincidence. It took a good five or six months until I felt normal again. It's been almost three years since I started now. It has made my periods lighter and more regular as well as allowing me to not use condoms (one long-term partner, we're both STD-free, and if I'm ever late on taking a pill, we use condoms for at least a week).
My sister used to have hellish period cramps (like, laying on the floor screaming bad). Once she got on the pill, that stopped.
How pleasureable is it for the woman when having intercourse but she doesn't reach orgasm? Is it still pleasureable?
The entrance of and the g-spot in the vagina are basically the main areas with any feeling, and that can be pleasurable on its own. Most women of course get the most stimulation from the clitoris, but penetration can be pleasurable in of itself. Honestly it kind of depends, every woman is different.
If a penis is too long it can be painful though, as there's a chance it'll hit the cervix. And that is like being punched in the back of the throat. In such a case I imagine penetration wouldn't be very fun at all unless the woman had a similarly deep vagina (and depending on arousal and what time of the cycle she is on it changes places)
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I don't always get off, but it's still pleasurable. I enjoy my husbands pleasure near as much as my own.
This is also something he struggles with accepting and thinks he failed if I don't get off. Which makes me stress about getting off, which makes it worse and harder to get off....
this is bullshit that men made up to justify the lack of sexualized male characters in media. spending five seconds on twitter in any female-dominated fandom will make you realize that we're just as thirsty for eye candy as any man
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And our tastes in written porn will scare the shit out of you.
/fanthropologist
my twitter feed is full of half naked men, fully naked men, men taking dick in every imaginable position, men in lingerie... yeah, women aren't soft angels who only get turned on by the most delicate whispers lmao
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Yep. I've tried convincing people of this for ages. Fanfiction proves it. Porn doesn't do much for us because no one creates it for us. We create that shit ourselves.
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99.9 percent of porn is written for men. At lot of that stuff does gross some of us out, because it's not geared towards us. The .1% written for women is written by men thinking they know what women want.
So we write our porn. We are some kinky, dirty motherfuckers.
no, your ex-wife was right. like Fiction said, mainstream porn is made by and for men. women make our own porn. fandom is a huge part of that.
So I have this problem where my current girlfriend really tenses up pelvically / vaginally when she is climaxing to the point where if I don't just stop my thrust and hold/push in deep (needing to actually hold on to somewhere on her body depending on position) for a decent while, I will slip out / be pushed out which kind of ruins both of our experiences vs just holding on which kind of ruins mine a bit especially if I'm close. I have to repeat that for each "after shock" or next round. Has anyone experienced this? It takes me a while to cum and the starts/stops in rhythm really throw it off. If we're having sex for quite a while at one time it gets better.
I can't believe I'm actually complaining about my girlfriend being too tight / strong pelvically but first time I've experienced it this bad. Sometimes I've needed to just keep it deep for a pause but never this bad where I've had to hold on and keep it pushed in for an extended period (except when I was orgasming).
And just so we're clear, I'm not some large size either - just at 6.5~ (I used my iPhone XS Max to measure so it's just above that by half a head) which is basically near average as far as I'm aware.
I know my girlfriend doesn't have any sex toys and when she masturbates, it tends to be a lot of clitoral play and single finger play, so she doesn't get that much "stretching" by herself.
My girlfriend is also the shortest person I've dated (around 5'3 and I'm 6'0), and that may be a new factor for me. Perhaps it's angles and such or just depth of her pelvic floor / vagina compared to other girls I've been with.
I love this girl but a bit of her inexperience in the bedroom compared to other girls I've dated (she was super dedicated to school and career before so didn't date as much so I'm having to introduce new things for her slowly) and this physical element is an issue. Not a deal breaker in any kind of way but something I would love to improve.
Any tips from women that may have a bit too much tightness or more importantly have a really strong pelvic floor (I think that's more the problem then just the tightness) that I can perhaps recommend to her? Or anything any other men would recommend that have tight partners or been in similar situations.
EDIT - Oh and we're not using condoms, just birth control.
I can't believe I'm actually complaining about my girlfriend being too tight / strong pelvically but first time I've experienced it this bad. Sometimes I've needed to just keep it deep for a pause but never this bad where I've had to hold on and keep it pushed in for an extended period (except when I was orgasming).
And just so we're clear, I'm not some large size either - just at 6.5~ (I used my iPhone XS Max to measure so it's just above that by half a head) which is basically near average as far as I'm aware.
I know my girlfriend doesn't have any sex toys and when she masturbates, it tends to be a lot of clitoral play and single finger play, so she doesn't get that much "stretching" by herself.
My girlfriend is also the shortest person I've dated (around 5'3 and I'm 6'0), and that may be a new factor for me. Perhaps it's angles and such or just depth of her pelvic floor / vagina compared to other girls I've been with.
I love this girl but a bit of her inexperience in the bedroom compared to other girls I've dated (she was super dedicated to school and career before so didn't date as much so I'm having to introduce new things for her slowly) and this physical element is an issue. Not a deal breaker in any kind of way but something I would love to improve.
Any tips from women that may have a bit too much tightness or more importantly have a really strong pelvic floor (I think that's more the problem then just the tightness) that I can perhaps recommend to her? Or anything any other men would recommend that have tight partners or been in similar situations.
EDIT - Oh and we're not using condoms, just birth control.
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Condoms almost always lower your risk. There are too many external factors to give an answer beyond this to any level of confidence.
Every STD is different. Every sexual encounter is different. Every person is different.
Some STDs have a low rate of transference by default, and wearing a condom takes that low rate and turns it into a slightly lower rate.
Other STDs have a very high rate of transference by default, and wearing a condom takes that very high rate and turns it into a very low rate.
I'm extremely tight (also short), but I can't say slipping/pushing out has ever been an issue AFAIK. I will ask my husband though. Fake edit: Just asked him and he hasn't had this issue. Sorry I can't be of more help.
Am dude but I had a partner that would push me out when she beared down during climax. This was the solution we figured out:
1) I'd grab her under the knees and push them back (this is from the perspective of missionary, but you can do this in any position) so I could get in deeper. Make sure their hips can handle this (they might not be able to due to injury/surgery/aren't that flexible in the first place). Go slowly and don't boop the cervix.
2) Instead of going in/out I'd just stay in and switch to mainly sort of up/down motion, like you're rubbing their clit with your pubic bone area. This is where I'd give them a big hug and a kiss, etc. If it helps to visualize it, imagine they are riding you cowgirl and sliding their hips back and forth instead of going up and down.. You are reproducing that motion but with you on top instead. Or wherever you are. Main idea is to rub their clit with your body while you're inside.
Eventually you'll figure out the cadence for thrust vs slide and won't get pushed out.
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Curious about the various methods of birth control for women and how you feel about their convenience, side effects, etc. Pills, rings, implants. I just saw an ad for a thing that gets inserted into your arm. Wild.
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Basically it's either hormonal (which just convinces the body it's already pregnant) or physical like an IUD that prevents implantation, or both.
Is there one that's considered the best? Like if they could be ranked... lol you know what I mean.
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There are tons of different kinds because women react to them differently. Ask a 100 different women and you will get 80 different answers
If by losing your virginity, you mean anal, then you should definitely abandon expectations of what your first experience will be like. It's best to just enjoy whatever it is that happens. It probably won't be perfect. It may hurt or may not even happen. It can be very slow to enter the first time. Use lots of lube and go in very slow stages. Spooning is probably the easiest first position to try. Also make sure you have gone to the bathroom at least once previously that day and that your bowels don't feel weird leading up. Establish a code word for "exit emergency" that you can say to abort penetration in case you feel the sudden urge that something has gone wrong, painful, or a bowel movement is imminent. You may have to ask for exit, take a break, and then try again. It can literally take over an hour your first time. It's nothing like porn. Be hygienic and mindful of where your mouth and hands go after penetration has happened. If you follow this advice, you probably won't have mess or pain or problem with repeated practice. But your first time might be a let down. Just be open minded and reassure yourself that it really does just get better with more practice. Also keep in mind that certain positions may hurt or feel better than others depending on the person, so just communicate and try new things. Once you're a seasoned veteran and you're used to what your body feels like in different situations, it will literally be as simple as doing it whenever you want to do it 90% of the time. It'll be really easy.
PS: shower and urinate as soon as you can after anal to avoid a UTI.
For me, still pretty good. Orgasming is fun, but, there's a really rewarding satisfaction for me in having my partner get off through intercourse that's pretty on par for me.
I started on the pill when I was about 13-14 to control the symptoms of my period. I would have to take a week off school every month as it felt like my insides were being scraped out with a dull, rusted razor, and my flow was crazy heavy. It made things manageable, but I was still having to take a few days off, and I'd get breakthrough bleeds regularly. My doctor later swapped me to another pill, which had much higher doses of hormones, which worked a whole lot better and now my period was more an minor inconvenience and not me in excruciating pain.
Side effects wise on the pill, honestly, the benefits so greatly outweighed the downsides for me, I can't remember anything specific. I mostly just ended up wanting a 'set and forget' style of birth control (I'm pretty absent-minded tbh, so my consistency on taking it when I wasn't actually active was not always the best. If I forgot it in the morning I'd already be bleeding by the evening too so, I didn't have a big window for leeway) so, I ended up trying that arm implant.
For me the implant was terrible, I bled -constantly-. I gave it a red hot go for a few months, hoping it was just my body adjusting to the new cocktail and it would settle in, but, it never did. I had it removed in the end, and went back to taking my old pill.
Now my eggs are more fried than your Sunday morning bacon and eggs, every doctor has pretty much written me off as infertile, and I have like, one period a year so I don't use any hormonal contraception, because fuck periods lol